lino Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Wow...More discussion about height! I can't say I've ever seen this issue where I live. Maybe it's more common in the USA if it's so often discussed here.
somedude81 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) Do u really know white males age 18-40 under 5'6"? And if so, do they actually have girlfriends? Me. I'm a white male, exactly 5'6. My Dad is 5'10. My mom's dad is 6'1. My 25 year old brother is 5'8. My 15 year old brother is 6'. Do I have girlfriends? No. I've just been told by almost every woman who posted here, that I'm too short for them. So Wil59, you think you have it bad? You don't know sh*t. Edited August 31, 2010 by somedude81
witabix Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous. I'm 95% sure my growth was stunted a few+ inches because of a prescription drug I was on for 5 years, so that kind of just makes it worse considering my dad is a professonal athlete and 6'1.5" and my brother is 6'4" Will59 I'm 6'3" 210lbs, and I would never, and I mean never behave like that. I have had muppets approach my gf's too, quite a few times over the years. It is the attractiveness of the girl and the ignorance, sometimes drunkeness, of the approacher that are the factors. Not your height.
carhill Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 HONESTLY: Are guys ranked by height? Am I screwed at 5 foot 9-10? 1. Yes, and by a million other little things. So are women. 2. By a woman who finds you attractive, yes. The others really don't matter. Enjoy
Eeyore79 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I've just been told by almost every woman who posted here, that I'm too short for them. I'm 5ft7, so I prefer guys to be taller than that. But if I was shorter, my height requirements would be shorter too. If you're 5ft6, I'd happily date you if I was (for example) 5ft3. There are plenty of attractive shorter girls whom you are taller than.
somedude81 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I'm 5ft7, so I prefer guys to be taller than that. But if I was shorter, my height requirements would be shorter too. If you're 5ft6, I'd happily date you if I was (for example) 5ft3. There are plenty of attractive shorter girls whom you are taller than. Yeah, but you're not 5'3. There are tons more 5'7 white girls then there are 5'3 and that's my problem. Because of what I've been "given" by God, I'm unable to date a significant number of women my own race. You don't have any idea how much it hurts to see a cute girl, then notice that she's taller than I am and know that I will have no chance with her simply because I'm short. Then even a lot of short girls prefer tall guys for reasons I can't fathom.
Lizzie60 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Yes.. you're doomed.. I don't think your height is a problem.. 5'9-10'' is good.. I prefer taller guys though.. 5'10 and up..
Cee Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) Me. I'm a white male, exactly 5'6. My Dad is 5'10. My mom's dad is 6'1. My 25 year old brother is 5'8. My 15 year old brother is 6'. Do I have girlfriends? No. I've just been told by almost every woman who posted here, that I'm too short for them. So Wil59, you think you have it bad? You don't know sh*t. I've come to prefer dating shorter men. I think it's because the love of my life was 5' 7". (I'm 5' 5"). I have dated men shorter than me and I don't have any problem with it whatsoever. I'm just one of those people who doesn't equate height with attractiveness. I have a friend who is 5' 10" and is dating a woman who is 6' 2" who looks like a supermodel. He is attractive, but not terribly handsome. He is also poor (unemployed by choice & living on some savings). There is something so sexy about him, I can't fully explain it. He has a laid back charisma and he is self assured. Plus the man is unbelievably intelligent and very funny. He has always had gorgeous and intelligent girlfriends. I think it's easy to focus on externals (height, weight, income, clothing style, etc.) as the source of our dating problems. Truth is, it's that magic alchemy of appearance, personality, smarts, heart, and humor that gets somebody's attention. Just some thoughts. Edited August 31, 2010 by Cee added detail
Eeyore79 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 There are tons more 5'7 white girls then there are 5'3 and that's my problem. Then even a lot of short girls prefer tall guys for reasons I can't fathom. Not all girls care about a guy's height, so saying you have no chance with a taller girl is a bit defeatist. You just have to keep looking until you find a girl who likes you as a person and doesn't care about your height. A lot of very short girls try to compensate for their own shortness by dating extremely tall guys. Medium height girls are less likely to have a complex about their height, and are therefore more likely to date a shorter guy.
kiss_andmakeup Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I always feel the need to contribute my personal experience to these men-and-height threads just to show that there are women out there who really don't care. At 5'9 I'm a pretty tall lady. My boyfriend is only 5'10 so he is easily shorter than me if I wear heels. I really couldn't care less. The last guy I dated before him was 5'7, which is shorter than me even without heels. And I was madly attracted to him, too!
flying Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous.So you're saying you have a girlfriend and the tall guy doesn't. What's the problem again? How is this about women preferring tall guys when you're the one with the girl and the taller guy is the one who's jealous? Not making any sense, but then, melodrama doesn't. I've said it before, and I've seen others saying it too...but reason and sanity tend to get lost amid the drama of these height threads: I'm 5'6". My boyfriends have ranged from 5'4" to 6'6". Height was never an issue for me one way or the other. This is true for me and many women of my acquaintance. Can't speak for all women, obviously, but then, perhaps it's just a way to weed out people you don't want to be with. Suffice it to say there are plenty of women who are fine with your height, OP. But it is a major turnoff when a guy is insecure about it. Consider how annoyed some guys get when women keep asking whether xxx makes them look fat. Confidence is a choice, and it's sexy. The short answer is yes. Snicker.
witabix Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 My boyfriends have ranged from 5'4" to 6'6". Do you only date guys with mercury injected into their spines? You know 5'4" in the winter and 6'6" in the summer....... I once dated a girl who was so short she used to trip on the string from her tampon.
Cracker Jack Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I always feel the need to contribute my personal experience to these men-and-height threads just to show that there are women out there who really don't care. At 5'9 I'm a pretty tall lady. My boyfriend is only 5'10 so he is easily shorter than me if I wear heels. I really couldn't care less. The last guy I dated before him was 5'7, which is shorter than me even without heels. And I was madly attracted to him, too! After reading this post, I've realized that all hope isn't lost just yet. I'm only 5'7", and while I try not to let it get to me, past rejections due to my height has damaged my self-esteem. I have been outright told that my height was the reason why they wouldn't want to go any further with me, and neither was taller than me. I feel like I'm getting better with things, tho.
witabix Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I just went to CVS pharmacy and the 3 guys in there were 6'2", 6'0", and 5'10", and this is like the exact situation I see every day. Ok, now I have an odd picture in my head of you going around with a tape measure, measuring every man's height. Aunt Vorthys: "A nice young man ... A pity he's so short." Lady Ekaterin: "He's not so short ... He's just concentrated" -- Lois McMaster Bujold, in Komarr
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Ok, now I have an odd picture in my head of you going around with a tape measure, measuring every man's height. Aunt Vorthys: "A nice young man ... A pity he's so short." Lady Ekaterin: "He's not so short ... He's just concentrated" -- Lois McMaster Bujold, in Komarr How upset would you be if you were put on a presciption medication from age 14-18 and it made you stop growing at 5 foot 9? Think about how much guys grow in high school... and you lost ALL that height. How different would your life be? Seriously think about it. How depressed would you be?
TheBigQuestion Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 How upset would you be if you were put on a presciption medication from age 14-18 and it made you stop growing at 5 foot 9? Think about how much guys grow in high school... and you lost ALL that height. How different would your life be? Seriously think about it. How depressed would you be? You have a girlfriend. What's the problem again?
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) You have a girlfriend. What's the problem again? The problem is that I'm stuck in my childs body. My last girlfriend would look at every guy taller than me, which is 90% of guys my age, and be like "aw damn" in her expression. For example, we were watching the movie "Elf" and I started laughing really hard at Will Ferrell and she started to, but then saw he was really tall, and so she stopped immediately with that "He's taller than you, you're not allowed to laugh" expression. And it's like every freaking girl acts like this. When they first meet you through friends, they don't compare you to other guys. But if you hang out with them a lot and/or date them, then they start noticing the height crap more and more. And it's like every Friday and Saturday night I go out to the "night-life" scenes, it's like the "calling of the tall guys." I swear, every single human is the exact same in that they would act the exact same way depending on their body. I guarantee that if these 6'1" guys that walk around thinking their the s**t were put on this medication and it stunted their growth 4 inches they would be the most miserable creatures ever. I don't know how much I can take, I am 99% sure I was supposed to be 6'0+ and it was taken from me from a freaking chemical.... and just because of that I have to lower myself to the world Edited August 31, 2010 by Will59
AD1980 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Dude 5'9 is average where are you in a town with nothing but pro athletes? You should have no problems..And if you are with somebody who would leave u for someobdy because theyre taller do you really need that whore?
MrNate Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I think I know one size that matters just a little more than height.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 The problem is that I'm stuck in my childs body. My last girlfriend would look at every guy taller than me, which is 90% of guys my age, and be like "aw damn" in her expression. For example, we were watching the movie "Elf" and I started laughing really hard at Will Ferrell and she started to, but then saw he was really tall, and so she stopped immediately with that "He's taller than you, you're not allowed to laugh" expression. And it's like every freaking girl acts like this. When they first meet you through friends, they don't compare you to other guys. But if you hang out with them a lot and/or date them, then they start noticing the height crap more and more. And it's like every Friday and Saturday night I go out to the "night-life" scenes, it's like the "calling of the tall guys." I swear, every single human is the exact same in that they would act the exact same way depending on their body. I guarantee that if these 6'1" guys that walk around thinking their the s**t were put on this medication and it stunted their growth 4 inches they would be the most miserable creatures ever. I don't know how much I can take, I am 99% sure I was supposed to be 6'0+ and it was taken from me from a freaking chemical.... and just because of that I have to lower myself to the world I'd bet the farm that it's not your height that causes your relationships to end, but your personality and insecurities... No, make that two farms...I'd bet two farms...
MrNate Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I'd bet the farm that it's not your height that causes your relationships to end, but your personality and insecurities... No, make that two farms...I'd bet two farms... That's a pretty hefty bet, hokie. lol
Gattica Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I dated a man my height, 5'5. I had no issue with it at all. He did have a bit of an attitude like he had something to prove. Some folks said it was because of his height, others said he had an attitude because he was just an a**hole.
AD1980 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I dated a man my height, 5'5. I had no issue with it at all. He did have a bit of an attitude like he had something to prove. Some folks said it was because of his height, others said he had an attitude because he was just an a**hole. lol I hate that short guys get psychcoanalyzed Some people are just aholes and dbags and height has nothing to do with it
Eeyore79 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I am 99% sure I was supposed to be 6'0+ and it was taken from me from a freaking chemical.... and just because of that I have to lower myself to the world You seem incredibly resentful about your height and unable to accept it, because you feel like you were "supposed" to be taller and it was "taken" from you. Completely separate from dating, you have this issue about your height, and your negative feelings about it are probably affecting your self esteem and your interactions with women. You really need to accept your own height before you can expect someone else to accept you.
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