Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It means that every time I go out in public with a girl on my attractivness level and intelligence level that tall guys hate on me VERY bad, but if i were 5'11-6'0+ they wouldnt mess w me. And it ruins the energy between me and the girl EVERY time, leaving both of us insecure about our relationship. If a girl is into you, a dude picking on you because you're a couple inches shorter than him is NOT going to change her attraction to you. Again, it's all on you. I think you're creating a self-fulfilling prophecy here.
SteveC80 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 If a girl is into you, a dude picking on you because you're a couple inches shorter than him is NOT going to change her attraction to you. I think your underestimating what social status and lack of it does to a women
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I think your underestimating what social status and lack of it does to a woman I am a woman. I think I have a better understanding of it than you guys do.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I think your underestimating what social status and lack of it does to a women Let me guess Steve, you're tall. You're like the prime example of what I'm talking about, I can spot you a mile away
crfsti Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 ~155 lbs. I wear a size M in just about everything and 30-31" pants. I weigh A LOT less than I look... yea wow, you must be very lean. this whole time i thought you were bigger from the pic. i'm 160 and working on becoming shredded as yourself:cool:
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Let me guess Steve, you're tall. You're like the prime example of what I'm talking about, I can spot you a mile away I am telling you right now that if I was into a guy of average height, nothing a dude who was taller than him could say about that guy's height that would make me lose interest. Really. BUT the shorter guy's REACTION to those comments just might. You following me? As long as I can wear heels, I'm happy.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 If a girl is into you, a dude picking on you because you're a couple inches shorter than him is NOT going to change her attraction to you. Again, it's all on you. I think you're creating a self-fulfilling prophecy here. It is a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, however, it is very real if a guy under 5'11"-6'0" dates a very pretty girl... if a tall guy doesn't have a girlfriend he flips out and tries to take it out on the shorter guy and tries to either hit on the guys girlfriend or make it awkward. It has happened to me waaaaaaaaaay too many times with my ex-gfs because they were all very, very pretty.
Kamille Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It means that every time I go out in public with a girl on my attractivness level and intelligence level that tall guys hate on me VERY bad, but if i were 5'11-6'0+ they wouldnt mess w me. And it ruins the energy between me and the girl EVERY time, leaving both of us insecure about our relationship. And the guys I'm talking about are tall, preppy, college-age guys typically. It's like I'm wearing a sign that says "Look, I'm attractive and dating an attractive girl but I'm not tall at all so please come talk s**t to me!" uuhhhh... so really, you're saying the problem isn't women's preferences so much as what other men think? USMCHokie has it right, who cares what other guys think? Laugh it off in front of your date. They're just jealous that you're 1)attractive and 2) out with a pretty girl. Sounds to me like you have the upper hand in this scenario, so why let it get to you? A sense of humor about this will do you a world of good.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 yea wow, you must be very lean. this whole time i thought you were bigger from the pic. i'm 160 and working on becoming shredded as yourself:cool: Yea, most people guess I'm around 170...even the "Guess-Your-Weight" guy at the amusement park... But that's great, keep up the hard work! Hopefully you'll have some shirtless douche pics to show to us soon...no homo...
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It is a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, however, it is very real if a guy under 5'11"-6'0" dates a very pretty girl... if a tall guy doesn't have a girlfriend he flips out and tries to take it out on the shorter guy and tries to either hit on the guys girlfriend or make it awkward. It has happened to me waaaaaaaaaay too many times with my ex-gfs because they were all very, very pretty. I have never in my life heard of such a thing happening. EVER.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) I have never in my life heard of such a thing happening. EVER. Because you're not a guy, if anything girls like it when this type of stuff happens. You don't really notice it, you just pick up that another guy is interested in you and you like it, which makes the situation 10x worse, especially if the guy if taller because he knows he "has that" over me and uses it x 100 in subtle ways Edited August 31, 2010 by Will59
SteveC80 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Let me guess Steve, you're tall. You're like the prime example of what I'm talking about, I can spot you a mile away 6'3" ftw While height is important to women and their heels are more important then you if you are the same height or smaller then her in them shes picking her heels over you no matter how great you are But youre 5'9 that is average height it is not short you shouldnt have a huge problem
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 6'3" ftw Of course you are... I could see that through the screen
meerkat stew Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I have never in my life heard of such a thing happening. EVER. Then you are relatively socially inexperienced. Men have to deal with the types of things Will59 has described constantly, especially in the late teens through the mid-late twenties, it's not just height dependent though. Can't even count how many ignorant little tramps I dated early on in my 20s who would agg on any drunk flirty dude who approached us on a date to try to stir something up and then claim, "Oh, teehee, was he flirting with me? I just never can tell sometimes." Oh, btw to preempt, don't even go there, they don't wear "ignorant little tramp" signs on their forehead. Guys only get to find that out after they've wasted some time and money. Yes, OP men are absolutely ranked by height, it may be even more important than wealth in attracting women. I've never known a man taller than 6'1" who wasn't obese to be without women in his life whenever he wanted them, and yes, tall guys tend to be much more aggressive in hitting on women who are out with other shorter men. It's a given reality, ignore all the "be confident" platitudes, they are completely worthless, you just have to learn to work around it and mostly just put up with it.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 uuhhhh... so really, you're saying the problem isn't women's preferences so much as what other men think? USMCHokie has it right, who cares what other guys think? Laugh it off in front of your date. They're just jealous that you're 1)attractive and 2) out with a pretty girl. Sounds to me like you have the upper hand in this scenario, so why let it get to you? A sense of humor about this will do you a world of good. I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous. I'm 95% sure my growth was stunted a few+ inches because of a prescription drug I was on for 5 years, so that kind of just makes it worse considering my dad is a professonal athlete and 6'1.5" and my brother is 6'4"
SteveC80 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous. I'm 95% sure my growth was stunted a few+ inches because of a prescription drug I was on for 5 years, so that kind of just makes it worse considering my dad is a professonal athlete and 6'1.5" and my brother is 6'4" Whos your dad?
jamesum Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Women like men who are TALLER than them. As long as you are taller than the girl, she will like you as much as other tall guys.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Yes just as women are ranked by men for their weight its personal preference..
Citizen Erased Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I rank men depending on how much they don't ask me stupid questions about their height. Never being a 10 and 0 being I really want to hurt you if you don't stop asking me that.
Kamille Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous. I'm 95% sure my growth was stunted a few+ inches because of a prescription drug I was on for 5 years, so that kind of just makes it worse considering my dad is a professonal athlete and 6'1.5" and my brother is 6'4" Everywhere? Only one solution: Gloat. You've got it going on. All they have is petty superficial trivial stuff to try and make themselves feel better by trying to make you feel bad. The sooner you decide their idiocy is on them and not on you, the better you will feel. And the medication thing? Ok, maybe. So what? The issue isn't what women prefer or men think. It seems to be that you're hung up on your height because you think it makes you inferior. Why? You're 5'9, you're attractive, you date gorgeous women. How has being under 6' ever hindered you from accomplishing what you want?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I let it get to me cause it happens EVERYWHERE I go with my girl. Everyone stares at the girl when she comes in cause shes hot, then everyone looks at me to "size me up." And I'm just thinking "Ok, here it comes, from some insecure tall a$$-hole without a gf." It happens more often than not. People are just so freaking awkward and get so jealous. I'm 95% sure my growth was stunted a few+ inches because of a prescription drug I was on for 5 years, so that kind of just makes it worse considering my dad is a professonal athlete and 6'1.5" and my brother is 6'4" Oh brother!
Eeyore79 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I wouldn't want to date a guy who is shorter than me in bare feet; I'm 5ft7 so the guy would have to be pretty short for me to turn him down. I'd prefer if he was still taller even when I wear heels, but it's not essential. 5ft9 is a decent height; I could wear small heels and still not be taller than a guy of that height. Guys have more attractive aspects than just their height though - I'd go for a shorter guy if he was more handsome or compatible than a taller guy. Skinny turns me off more than short - I don't care how tall a guy is, I don't want to date him if he's a beanpole. If he weighs less than me, it's a huge turn-off, so if he's not tall then he'd better have some meat on his bones.
gypsy_nicky Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) Yea, most people guess I'm around 170...even the "Guess-Your-Weight" guy at the amusement park... But that's great, keep up the hard work! Hopefully you'll have some shirtless douche pics to show to us soon...no homo... could also be your overestimating your height that's why you look 170lb. There is a cut-off for most women. If your shorter than 5'3 and average (to below avg) looking, your gonna have a pretty hard time. Edited August 31, 2010 by gypsy_nicky
Sphere Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I'm 5ft 8 and it hasn't affected my dating life. Sure, there will be women who place an emphasis on height and won't date a man under a certain height, but that's their prerogative, just focus on women who are into you, because not all women care about height. Granted you'll have far easier at 6ft 1 then at my height, but that's okay, that's life. I like being 5ft 8, which is lucky as I cannot change it. Women have their own perferences which discriminate and so do men, that's life. It's useless crying about it, your height only becomes a problem when you make it one and to be honest 5ft 9 isn't short, it's average height.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 could also be your overestimating your height that's why you look 170lb. There is a cut-off for most women. If your shorter than 5'3 and average (to below avg) looking, your gonna have a pretty hard time. Are you kidding? Does a 5'3" guy even exist? I just went to CVS pharmacy and the 3 guys in there were 6'2", 6'0", and 5'10", and this is like the exact situation I see every day. Under 5'6" for a guy under 40 years old is like finding a needle in a hay-stack. Do u really know white males age 18-40 under 5'6"? And if so, do they actually have girlfriends?
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