Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Am I screwed at 5 foot 9-10? I feel like I have to live a "sub-human" life because I'm not 5'11"+, even 6'0+. Yes, we all know girls like tall guys... that doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out. But is height the main feature? Do girls not care about actual looks? Does average + tall beat attractive + average? I know personality is good blah blah blah..... but lets cut straight to the point, girls are mesmerized by a tall guy no matter what, all he has to be is average looking and average smarts. It's like everywhere I go girls won't even stop to see what I look like because I'm not tall. I thought girls liked attractive guys? What gives? 5'9-5'10 is equal to 5'3-5'4 for a girl and they all look give me that "decent, but short. too bad" look. What do u people think?
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Wow...has it already been a week yet...? And the answer is no. I'm 5'8" and it's never been an issue...I'm sure being tall helps a little, but being 5' 9" isn't going to hurt...
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Meh. I recently went on a couple dates with a guy who's 6'7'' with a great body and a very handsome face. He got "launched" just as easily as the guy before him who was 5'10'' and about average in attractiveness. I dunno, I've always found it to be a combination of qualities that makes a guy attractive, not just how tall he is.
runner Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 i'm about your height and have had no problems. i'd say its more about attitude and how you hold yourself. i'm not gonna piss around the bush and say that height ('size', money, status, bling, etcetera) doesn't matter to some girls, cos frankly, it does. to some. the issue here is, why do you care if some girl--however hot she is--is gonna hold your height against you? toss her to the curb and look for the girl who wants you for you.
somedude81 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Oye, another height thread? And from a guy who thinks being 5'9 is a problem. Height isn't really an issue unless you are shorter or about the same height as the girl; like I am...
tigressA Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Your height doesn't hurt. What does is your blatant insecurity about your height. I'm 5'7" and I dated a guy who was 5'5", and a few guys right around your height. The guy I'm seeing now is 5'8". I tend to prefer guys under 6'; makes me feel closer to them.
SteveC80 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Being a Tall man is amazing the perks that come with it, women worship height but you are average height you shouldnt have a problem attracting a decent group of women. If your under 5'9 then well good luck becasue "short guys" are looked upon lie kobese women,plus most girls wont date guys there taller then in heels
Ruby Slippers Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) I'm not gonna lie -- possibly because I myself am tall, one of the physical characteristics I care about most is height. But I've dated men much taller than me, a couple of guys my height, and one guy an inch shorter. For me, I'd be unlikely to go any shorter than that, mostly because the guys seem to prefer to tower over the girl and I'm tired of dealing with their insecurity about it. I went on a date recently with a guy I got to know a bit while we were both sitting down. When he got up to go, I didn't, so we had no sense of each other's height till the day of the date. Turns out we're the same height. The first thing he did after looking me right in the eye was say, "You're tall!" I said, "Yes, I am." I mean, what else was I going to say? "Thank you"? Idiot didn't say anything nice till an hour later, when he said, "You've got amazing legs." (Tall women often do. ) Long story short, don't sweat this. Nothing you can do about it. So just be badass. Edited August 31, 2010 by Ruby Slippers
GooseChaser Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I notice height, but it is only one of many things I count in when considering a guy. Come on, our rating system wouldn't be that simple.
somedude81 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 My height is something that I never think about, unless I come across a height thread... If I knew that all girls were OK with shorter guys, I would never even worry about it. But the problem is that no matter what I feel about my height, I'm still being judged by girls because of it. I've started wearing some heel inserts into my shoes that make me 5'7 and a half, with my shoes on but they also hurt my feet. Even then, when I'm wearing sandels or going barefoot, I'm still short. It's a real bummer.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Can I date really hot girls at my height? Every one of my past girlfriends has been very pretty and EVERY time I go out in public some jealous tall guy tries sooo hard to make the point that I am NOT tall. Like seriously, it's getting SO old... it got to the point to where I didn't even want a girlfriend anymore because I didn't want to take her in public and have it be awkward like always. I'm so sick of this s**t. Am I not allowed to date really pretty girls by society?? Honestly????
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Long story short, don't sweat this. Nothing you can do about it. So just be badass. Hahah, for some reason, the moment I read this, I thought of Chuck Norris. So I checked...he's 5'10"...so as Ruby says, just be badass.
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Can I date really hot girls at my height? Every one of my past girlfriends has been very pretty and EVERY time I go out in public some jealous tall guy tries sooo hard to make the point that I am NOT tall. Like seriously, it's getting SO old... it got to the point to where I didn't even want a girlfriend anymore because I didn't want to take her in public and have it be awkward like always. I'm so sick of this s**t. Am I not allowed to date really pretty girls by society?? Honestly???? It's your attitude that's going to crush your chances, not how many inches more you tower over a girl. But it wouldn't hurt to get a bod like Hokie's... that will up your chances.
GooseChaser Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Here is one more thing I would like to add! I have been attracted both to guys a foot taller than me and guys about my height or a bit taller. If he has a good personality, that is very important too. I am 5' 6", and the last guy I was involved with was about that tall also. I actually find it comfortable being about the same size. Also, he has a toughness and confidence to him that makes up for his size in my view.
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 It's your attitude that's going to crush your chances, not how many inches more you tower over a girl. But it wouldn't hurt to get a bod like Hokie's... that will up your chances. I don't want to "up my chances," I don't want to worry about that. I have a strong build, I weigh more than pretty much all 5'10-6'1 guys. I dunno where I'm going with this... I just can't believe I'm not allowed to be very confident when dating a girl that's on the same level of attractivness as me...
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Can I date really hot girls at my height? Every one of my past girlfriends has been very pretty and EVERY time I go out in public some jealous tall guy tries sooo hard to make the point that I am NOT tall. Like seriously, it's getting SO old... it got to the point to where I didn't even want a girlfriend anymore because I didn't want to take her in public and have it be awkward like always. I'm so sick of this s**t. You can't be serious... First of all, 5'9" is NOT short...secondly, who the hell does that, anyway...? Does he demonstrate his ability to reach for things that would normally be out of your reach...? But seriously, like others have said, it's not your height but your attitude that will hurt you...as long as you stand up with a good confident posture, no one is going to even notice how tall you are...they'll just see someone who doesn't give a sh*t how tall he is because he is badass.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I'm 5'3 and I usually wear 4-5" heels. 5'8 - 5'9 guys are right up my alley. I once dated a guy who was 6'2. I never got over the height difference.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I just can't believe I'm not allowed to be very confident when dating a girl that's on the same level of attractivness as me... I'm sorry, but this just makes absolutely no sense to me...it's all in your head...and you are the one who isn't allowing yourself to be confident...
crfsti Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Am I screwed at 5 foot 9-10? I feel like I have to live a "sub-human" life because I'm not 5'11"+, even 6'0+. Yes, we all know girls like tall guys... that doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out. But is height the main feature? Do girls not care about actual looks? Does average + tall beat attractive + average? I know personality is good blah blah blah..... but lets cut straight to the point, girls are mesmerized by a tall guy no matter what, all he has to be is average looking and average smarts. It's like everywhere I go girls won't even stop to see what I look like because I'm not tall. I thought girls liked attractive guys? What gives? 5'9-5'10 is equal to 5'3-5'4 for a girl and they all look give me that "decent, but short. too bad" look. What do u people think? You've got an inch or two on me, and you don't see me complaining....you have nothing to worry about...but, maybe i do lol. Wow...has it already been a week yet...? And the answer is no. I'm 5'8" and it's never been an issue...I'm sure being tall helps a little, but being 5' 9" isn't going to hurt... what's your weight Chokie? i'm 5'8'' also, i just want to get an idea how much bigger you are than me.
GooseChaser Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Sure you can be confident, if you decide to be! You don't have to let them get to you!
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 what's your weight Chokie? i'm 5'8'' also, i just want to get an idea how much bigger you are than me. ~155 lbs. I wear a size M in just about everything and 30-31" pants. I weigh A LOT less than I look...
kalikula Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It doesn't matter that much to me.. I'm really petite (5'1) and I've dated guys from 5'7 to 6'5. (6'5 being too tall). I think if there is a slight advantage to being taller, girls like it or whatever, it is easily fixed with having a muscular physique. The 5'7 guy I dated had a really hot body that was definitely a turn on. But given a tall and short guy, I would go for whoever was the better overall package: personality, looks, body...
Author Will59 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I'm sorry, but this just makes absolutely no sense to me...it's all in your head...and you are the one who isn't allowing yourself to be confident... It means that every time I go out in public with a girl on my attractivness level and intelligence level that tall guys hate on me VERY bad, but if i were 5'11-6'0+ they wouldnt mess w me. And it ruins the energy between me and the girl EVERY time, leaving both of us insecure about our relationship. And the guys I'm talking about are tall, preppy, college-age guys typically. It's like I'm wearing a sign that says "Look, I'm attractive and dating an attractive girl but I'm not tall at all so please come talk s**t to me!"
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I just can't believe I'm not allowed to be very confident when dating a girl that's on the same level of attractivness as me... This makes no sense to me. Confidence comes from within. If you feel you can't be confident, that's on YOU, not based on anything any random dbag at a bar or some girl says to you.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 It means that every time I go out in public with a girl on my attractivness level and intelligence level that tall guys hate on me VERY bad, but if i were 5'11-6'0+ they wouldnt mess w me. And it ruins the energy between me and the girl EVERY time, leaving both of us insecure about our relationship. And the guys I'm talking about are tall, preppy, college-age guys typically. It's like I'm wearing a sign that says "Look, I'm attractive and dating an attractive girl but I'm not tall at all so please come talk s**t to me!" Hmmm, I'm trying to play this particular situation out in my head... Them: Wow, you're short, how'd you end up with her? Me: What's your point? She's with me and not you. You ain't got sh*t on me. Am I missing something...? And it's very strange you say that your girl gets insecure about it too...
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