WintersNightTraveler Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Perhaps. But I am still a little dumbfounded by how offended folks get whenever race gets brought up...but I guess that's just me...like I said in my post, it's just my opinion... Actually not too many people in this thread were offended, really. Certainly not compared to some other fiery threads lately. I wish I had more people bite though. I did like the twist I threw out. Oh well.
witabix Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I s'pose you could. We also have small penises and are good at math... How dare you? I can count to ten as well, and I'm talking centimetres......
USMCHokie Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Actually not too many people in this thread were offended, really. Certainly not compared to some other fiery threads lately. I wish I had more people bite though. I did like the twist I threw out. Oh well. But, I guess you're right...but I was speaking more in general terms...I'll have to look back at your twist... Standby.
meerkat stew Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Is it racism to refuse to date anyone that is your own race...? Sure, it could be. Any exclusion of a dating prospect merely on race alone is racism regardless of one's own race. Whether it's reprehensible or malicious or a matter of personal prerogative is another matter. It is the very definition of racism though. Will skip the dictionary.com references and offer this one for "racism": The state of considering race as a factor in making any qualitative determination or conclusion about a person. In this case, the qualitative determination would be choosing not to date A because of the factor that they are a member of X race. A's quality of being X race alone disqualifies them. That's racism.
gypsy_nicky Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 if you are clearly attracted to him/her but the social pressures and norms of interracial mixing bothers you and because of this you refuse to date him/her, then yes its racist. if you don't find him/her attractive that's a little more tricky. Because who's to say that your dating preference is shaped by culture or is innate. I don't blame people for not wanting to step into interracial dating. There's a lot of social pressure you would have to put up with.
Sphere Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Last I checked Brazil had tons of white people (53% of population). People from Spain are as white as any other group of white people. Many of the original Scotsmen were from Spain and they are the whitest of the white. Most Spanish people have Arab blood ancestory seeing as Spain was under Arab rule for nearly eight hundred years and a vast majority of Scottish people can trace their ancestory back to Ireland, they are Indo-European aka Celts. Most Europeans will have mixed ancestory, it's probably not uncommon to find a European with an African ancestor in all honesty or with Middle Eastern ancestory what with the Holy Roman Empire, the Ottomon Empire etc.
tigressA Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I was kind of intrigued by Hokie's question, the "Is it racism to refuse to date someone of your own race"...I'm mixed (black/white) and I've never dated a black guy. I've never found myself attracted to them, but at the same time I also wonder if I'd even click with any. I guess all the black guys I've met so far in life have turned me off to having one as a boyfriend. As for having sex with someone outside your race but not marrying them, who knows, I might have some experience with that myself down the line. I'm currently seeing an Indian guy, foreign-born, and while it's not serious now, if it does get serious, I wonder what his family will think of me.
Shakz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Attraction is learned. Just like racism is learned. So maybe there are some elements subconsciously intertwined- people just won't admit it. No one wants to be called a racist. Well said. I think we all need to go out together and see South Pacific and wash this crap right out of our hair.
ViciousViolet Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Sure, it could be. Any exclusion of a dating prospect merely on race alone is racism regardless of one's own race. Whether it's reprehensible or malicious or a matter of personal prerogative is another matter. It is the very definition of racism though. Will skip the dictionary.com references and offer this one for "racism": The state of considering race as a factor in making any qualitative determination or conclusion about a person. In this case, the qualitative determination would be choosing not to date A because of the factor that they are a member of X race. A's quality of being X race alone disqualifies them. That's racism. Good point. I think people see racism as this dirty word. We are all "racist" in some way. Discrimination in all forms runs deep in the dating world. We discriminate based on height, weight, hair/eye color, profession, background, and race. With race few people say "Oh look at that guy/girl over there, he/she is nice, attractive and would make a good mate, but I'm not going to date them because they are (different race)." Instead, they just never pay attention to potential mates of a different race. For some, this type of discrimination does not occur to them because dating within your own race just seems natural.
LondonS Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 its all personal preference.. I find Blonde blue eyed men hot and always date the same type simply because that is what I find myself attracted to...
Feelin Frisky Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 The concept of race is a faulty human construct. It has no real validity. What is often most at issue is sub-cultural conformities. Do you want a person who has taken on a sub-cultural personae and doesn't realize it? I definitely prefer not. I'm attracted to someone who is a genuine person and not a front or personae. This goes for religiosity as well. Either one is parroting personae or an individual person. As an aside, I personally find clear complexions as a physical trait appealing and find that those with natural darkness tend to often have far less topical imperfections than my own ethnicity. But if a young red haired Maureen O'Hara started giving me goo-go eyes, I'd probably lay aside my inclination for impulsive idealization of darker and clearer skin surfaces. I'd fight Will Danaher for her hand *spoken with proper brogue*.
Eeyore79 Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I really don't understand why it's a big deal if some of the physical characteristics you find unattractive belong to a certain race. It's fine to say you don't fancy guys with curly hair or guys under 5ft10 (i.e. non-race-specific characteristics), but if you don't find pale skin attractive then it's apparently racist. What if it was a white girl who didn't fancy other white people because she preferred dark skin? Is that still racism, and how can someone possibly be racist towards their own race?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 the everyday racism we are talking about here. You still don't get it. We are not, and have never been "talking about" racism in this thread. There are perhaps only two or three people participating in this thread who even know or admit what racism truly is. Most at LS have perused the thread and realized that the term "racism" does not apply before moving on without responding.
Sphere Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I really don't understand why it's a big deal if some of the physical characteristics you find unattractive belong to a certain race. It's fine to say you don't fancy guys with curly hair or guys under 5ft10 (i.e. non-race-specific characteristics), but if you don't find pale skin attractive then it's apparently racist. What if it was a white girl who didn't fancy other white people because she preferred dark skin? Is that still racism, and how can someone possibly be racist towards their own race? There's nothing wrong with not wanting to date outside of your race. You are not racist, in fact along with love that's one of the most abused words in the English language.
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 There are perhaps only two or three people participating in this thread who even know or admit what racism truly is. We all can't be such wizards at using dictionary.com. Most at LS have perused the thread and realized that the term "racism" does not apply before moving on without responding. No they are just more interested in posting about how women sleep with the wrong guys or online dating is a travesty of justice or porn is the world's greatest sin.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I define racism How you define racism has no bearing on any of this discussion. Anyone with an ounce of intelligence knows that there is no "racism" even remotely related to the OP's statement/question.
harmfulsweetz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 It's not racist, but I also don't think attraction is logical. Would I date out of my own race? Yes, if the guy was awesome, but the guy would have to be awesome too to make date him in my own race, you know? The only thing that would stop me is cultural differences. Many folk of a different race are raised with differences, socially and whatnot, and I've read many a thread on here depicting the various levels of problems it created. It's something people ought to consider before going out of their own race, and culture mainly. However, if the person was raised with the same cultural upbringing as me, then no problemo.
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