shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Just signed up for OKC a week ago, and I'm hooked. I haven't met anyone in person yet, because I'm kind of putting it off, but I have three tentative dates planned for the week after next. Browsing the site is fun as hell. I feel like a kid in a candy factory. I've gotten messages from about 35 guys so far. I'd say 2/3 are useless, but there are a handful of really interesting ones in there. Reading through profiles and rating different guys (1-5 stars) is so much fun, especially when I get excited about a particular guy. I guess it satisfies my need to rate/quantify everything. I know the whole thing is rather artificial, but I guess that's the fun in it.
temporaryvisa Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 okc never worked with me, I think it might be because there are barely any cute guys around my age who are on that site, who live near me! And also, I am dreadfully unphotogenic, and I feel as though it doesnt give a good impression to how I really look! And guys who I wouldn't think were that hot in real life talk down on me there! "oh hey u loook alright ;)" I'm jealous of you.
carhill Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 In perusing the mega-site of dating, Match, I get 13 results from ages 18-55 within ten miles of my location. I think I'll stick to beer
Author shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 okc never worked with me, I think it might be because there are barely any cute guys around my age who are on that site, who live near me! And also, I am dreadfully unphotogenic, and I feel as though it doesnt give a good impression to how I really look! And guys who I wouldn't think were that hot in real life talk down on me there! "oh hey u loook alright ;)" I'm jealous of you. Really?? There are a ton of really cute guys on the site in my area, but I live in a place that has many young people.
zengirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I think OKC can be addictive because of the completion, stats, tests, and questions. The actual dating aspect is something I use and peruse, but rarely feel 'addicted' to. I don't rate fellows or favorite them or do anything besides read profiles, message them, and respond to messages. Since I have a mini LTR forming that will be short-distance within a few days, I haven't been doing much of anything from it. I do like the layout/format/questions. I wish OKC had a friend site, too, as I like to use it to make new friends when I move, but I'm always worried gals will get weirded out when I find them and message them. . . and of course, making straight male friends on a dating site is treacherous.
Star Gazer Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I think the whole idea of "rating" someone is ridiculously shallow. I would never ever ever participate in a site like that. Ick.
tigressA Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I'm with you, Shadow. That site is addictive. I have a lot of fun on there. I can relate with your being picky too, as you described in other threads. With the ratings, I have probably less than 20 rated 4 or 5, and nearly 1000 rated only 1. (If I don't see them as a 4 or 5 I just rate them 1)
Author shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I think the whole idea of "rating" someone is ridiculously shallow. I would never ever ever participate in a site like that. Ick. It's all in good fun, and it's a good way of keeping track of who you like and want to emssage. Besides, they don't see your rating unless you both rate each other high.
Author shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I'm with you, Shadow. That site is addictive. I have a lot of fun on there. I can relate with your being picky too, as you described in other threads. With the ratings, I have probably less than 20 rated 4 or 5, and nearly 1000 rated only 1. (If I don't see them as a 4 or 5 I just rate them 1) Ha, I do the same thing! You're pickier than I am, though. I probably give 1 out of every 20 guys who comes up in my quick match a 4.
Author shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 This is basically how I skim a guy's profile for those interested in a woman's perspective. 1. Look at pics. If he's unattractive close profile. If his personality is so obviously different from mine based on pics alone close profile. Examples would be looks like frat boy, moron, vain, tacky, low-class, ab pics, etc. 2. Skim first paragraph of self summary. If he doesn't sound intelligent close profile. If he says something bitter or negative ("I'm not into games") close profile. 3. If he sounds semi-intelligent keep going and read through rest of profile to see if any of our interests line up and further get a sense of his personality.
Author shadowplay Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 Don't do this guys: http://k3.cdn.okcimg.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/16/150x150/558x800/0x0/65535x65535/0/2705770818958760891.jpeg
kalikula Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Lucky you... I have found sooo little cute guys on there. None that are really the right age, possibly 2 I thought were cute enough HA
Hot Carl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 You'll find you don't really like any of the guys you meet, because your inbox will be throbbing and and fully extended by a list of eager guys who might be even better than the one you're with. That will be on your mind.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Just signed up for OKC a week ago, and I'm hooked. I haven't met anyone in person yet, because I'm kind of putting it off, but I have three tentative dates planned for the week after next. Browsing the site is fun as hell. I feel like a kid in a candy factory. I've gotten messages from about 35 guys so far. I'd say 2/3 are useless, but there are a handful of really interesting ones in there. Reading through profiles and rating different guys (1-5 stars) is so much fun, especially when I get excited about a particular guy. I guess it satisfies my need to rate/quantify everything. I know the whole thing is rather artificial, but I guess that's the fun in it. OK, when I come back to earth a woman, I'm gonna stop and smell these roses for a while. And I'm gonna put up with lecherous older guys, unrelenting junior high classmates (no matter whether I'm "hot" or "not"), parents who keep me on a tight reign, possessive/jealous boyfriends, inconsiderate younger brothers, constant pressures relating to sexuality from every angle of society, and seven-ish days a month for forty years of some to-be-randomly-decided degree of discomfort. No, I didn't forget pregnancy, but I just couldn't figure out how to be both concise and amusingly detailed about it at the same time! So yeah, enjoy your time as a woman on the dating website. Maybe I wish I were there and being contacted by the likes of you. (sigh)
sb129 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Just signed up for OKC a week ago, and I'm hooked. I haven't met anyone in person yet, because I'm kind of putting it off, but I have three tentative dates planned for the week after next. Browsing the site is fun as hell. I feel like a kid in a candy factory. I've gotten messages from about 35 guys so far. I'd say 2/3 are useless, but there are a handful of really interesting ones in there. Reading through profiles and rating different guys (1-5 stars) is so much fun, especially when I get excited about a particular guy. I guess it satisfies my need to rate/quantify everything. I know the whole thing is rather artificial, but I guess that's the fun in it. I am not familiar with rating people, but I can appreciate the kid in a candy shop feeling, I felt similar when I first signed up to online dating. It also gave me a HUGE confidence boost, which I desperately needed at the time, and I know you do too Shadow. Hey, I got a husband out of it. I can't diss it. Be safe, and enjoy yourself. Don't take it too seriously.
BeautifulMan Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Mixed feelings about online dating.. I've gotten a few numbers but I haven't met someone girlfriend worthy. I have low expectations for humans who are unable to transcend instinctual thought but even then, they are not worth more than 5 minutes of attention.
zengirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Mixed feelings about online dating.. I've gotten a few numbers but I haven't met someone girlfriend worthy. I have low expectations for humans who are unable to transcend instinctual thought but even then, they are not worth more than 5 minutes of attention. What does this even mean? (Bolded part)
JTobia Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I haven't used okc before, but the handful of sites i've used haven't worked for me. It's not that they're not good, it's that there aren't enough people on the site in my town. It's also really annoying seeing hot chicks that haven't logged onto their profile for over 3 months. That's my one turn off with dating sites. They keep profiles on their database even though the users aren't active, and they promote with suck profiles. It discourages me from signing up to a new site, you know?
zengirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I haven't used okc before, but the handful of sites i've used haven't worked for me. It's not that they're not good, it's that there aren't enough people on the site in my town. It's also really annoying seeing hot chicks that haven't logged onto their profile for over 3 months. That's my one turn off with dating sites. They keep profiles on their database even though the users aren't active, and they promote with suck profiles. It discourages me from signing up to a new site, you know? OKCupid is free and they tend to mostly show you (as in promoting to you, showing in your matches, etc, unless you search deeply and change the settings to "Logged in Ever" or whatever) people who are logging in regularly. At least that's been my experience. However, the area thing is tough. I've never lived in an area where there weren't loads of fellows on OKC (and I assume gals too). But I've always lived in Metro areas as an adult and would never live in the non-city suburbs or anywhere rural/small.
SilentVoice Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I will agree that OKC is really addictive. I spent hours fulling out the questions. haha, I never did the rating. I don't feel right rating people but the site is addictive nonetheless. I got several emails . Replied to one . Talked to that guys exchanged info. Realized I didn't want to be bothered with dating and deactivated within two days of making my account. Still in contact with the guy when he texts me ever so often. I wish I had the time for him but I don't.
motive2002 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Online dating sites are a rip-off for the "average" guy. Craigs list is just plain scary. Recently I've tried "meetups" which has been a lot more fun. It's more social, gets you out of the house and off the computer and nobody is arbitrarily rejecting you based on whatever picture you might have posted on a dating site.
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 OKC is my favorite. The problem is that there is not that many men signed up in my area. I think I have already interacted with all the cute ones I catch myself trolling OKC for new members I also think that I have now kind of exhausted the supply of men on all the sites. Either I met them or didn't like them enough to meet them. It sucks because it didn't really work out with anyone.
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I think the whole idea of "rating" someone is ridiculously shallow. I would never ever ever participate in a site like that. Ick. It's actually data mining and probably part of their match algorithm. By having a sample of people you have rated, they are better able to accurately predict who you might like when making the suggested profiles for you. It's much more sound of an approach than any of the paid sites, since it's data driven, rather than the paid site's method (some person makes up short list of tailored questions and there is some kind of hand designed alchemy that attempts to match you based on that). It is shallow on an individual level I guess, but taken as a group it provides useful information. OKCupid is free and they tend to mostly show you (as in promoting to you, showing in your matches, etc, unless you search deeply and change the settings to "Logged in Ever" or whatever) people who are logging in regularly. At least that's been my experience. Yes, and they also show new user's profiles to more other people, to hook those new users in by getting them a lot of attention up front. Likewise when you do something on the site (upload more a photo, answer questions, whatever) they drive traffic to your profile. It's a pretty effective model for them, I think. Online dating sites are a rip-off for the "average" guy. Craigs list is just plain scary. Recently I've tried "meetups" which has been a lot more fun. It's more social, gets you out of the house and off the computer and nobody is arbitrarily rejecting you based on whatever picture you might have posted on a dating site. Meetup.com is a good site. Don't do this guys: http://k3.cdn.okcimg.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/16/150x150/558x800/0x0/65535x65535/0/2705770818958760891.jpeg D-Baggery can actually get you farther there. There was a rather in depth statistical analysis they posted on this (http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ - part of a series of generally thoughtful analysis). My ancedotal experience is that a d-bag profile gets me more visitors and winks than a "normal" one. I stopped really messaging people or replying, though, so I don't know if it does anything more effective than that. Although, god, if that guy is serious I hope that particular picture is too far along the b-bag spectrum to generate any interest... OKC is my favorite. The problem is that there is not that many men signed up in my area. I think I have already interacted with all the cute ones I catch myself trolling OKC for new members Yes it can be a small world on there, especially if you have specific interests or have a "niche" type of appeal.
CaliGuy Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 In perusing the mega-site of dating, Match, I get 13 results from ages 18-55 within ten miles of my location. I think I'll stick to beer Agreed! Besides, online dating is for women because a good majority of the men posting ads (not all, but a lot) are either married or dating and are looking for something else. Food for thought....
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