tincanman99 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Speaking as a guy I think most of these sites are a total waste of time and energy. At one point a number of years ago I think it was better but today its horrible. I think the stats are total fabrications. I think the men far outnumber the women by a wide margin. I have read anywhere from 3 - 1 to 5 - 1 in terms of the men to women ratios. For women I guess this can be a good thing if they are decent guys but how are you to know? Here is the reality, you can email dozens of women and not get a peep out of them for any number of reasons including not having a paying account so they cant answer, they are not interested, blah, blah but a huge problem is FAKE profiles. I dont know if this a problem for the women in terms of fake guy profiles. But for guys there are literally thousands of fake profiles on these web sites. Some are so blatant that they are using pictures of porn stars. Check out these links: http://pofsucks1.wordpress.com/ http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090701.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20081226.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090920.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090827.htm I had always suspected this but here it is in black and white. I recently found one that was so blatant that it was using pics of a porn star and the porn star's name was on the bottom of th pics. So thats what men are contending with. My sister who is very attractive when she had a profile on Match got over 300 emails a day. Just how is someone supposed to go through this. This just proves the point. I like to go on and browse occasionally but I would never waste my time with it now. I think you are far better off meeting people in person via the gym, the supermarket, bars, dinner clubs, whatever. I wouldnt waste 2 cents on Match, POF, Yahoo or any of the others. Link to post Share on other sites
b52s Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Speaking as a guy I think most of these sites are a total waste of time and energy. At one point a number of years ago I think it was better but today its horrible. I think the stats are total fabrications. I think the men far outnumber the women by a wide margin. I have read anywhere from 3 - 1 to 5 - 1 in terms of the men to women ratios. For women I guess this can be a good thing if they are decent guys but how are you to know? Here is the reality, you can email dozens of women and not get a peep out of them for any number of reasons including not having a paying account so they cant answer, they are not interested, blah, blah but a huge problem is FAKE profiles. I dont know if this a problem for the women in terms of fake guy profiles. But for guys there are literally thousands of fake profiles on these web sites. Some are so blatant that they are using pictures of porn stars. Check out these links: http://pofsucks1.wordpress.com/ http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090701.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20081226.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090920.htm http://www.unblinking.com/arc/20090827.htm I had always suspected this but here it is in black and white. I recently found one that was so blatant that it was using pics of a porn star and the porn star's name was on the bottom of th pics. So thats what men are contending with. My sister who is very attractive when she had a profile on Match got over 300 emails a day. Just how is someone supposed to go through this. This just proves the point. I like to go on and browse occasionally but I would never waste my time with it now. I think you are far better off meeting people in person via the gym, the supermarket, bars, dinner clubs, whatever. I wouldnt waste 2 cents on Match, POF, Yahoo or any of the others. Wow! I agree man. What's funny though, lately......the women I have been meeting in person at meetups and other social events in person...I'm ALSO seeing online. That tells me they don't like the selection of the men they meet in person too (more limited options as well). Pretty sad. Link to post Share on other sites
FeelingLonely98 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Well lets see. Match. com has 20 Million Members. 910,000 are Paying Members. Lets assume thats $ 20 bucks a month to join . Thats close to 20 million dollars a month they are making... Sooooo...20 Million a month is their incentive...thats HOW much a year ? Why would over 19M people be on Match if they are non-paying? What good does it do to be a member of match without paying? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 You're initiating communication and then telling them that you'd like to meet up with them... careful, you're chasing. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Speaking as a guy I think most of these sites are a total waste of time and energy. Um yeah, just flick through this site and you'll see why people that conduct much of their personal business on-line are a waste of time and energy Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Please save your money and DON'T pay Match.com.. not one dime. The dating sites are full of married men / social retards / cheap / and men that could not find a date if it struck them in the face... Now I realize there are a FEW success stories but for the MOST part the only one SUCCESSFUL on ALL these dating sites is the site owners themselves who pull in millions of dollars... Invest your money in a nice kitty cat or puppy Better investment ! Which is funny because I had an awesome time with online dating, was taken out for numerous excellent dinners and nights out and had many evenings of entertaining company (I am more tenacious than most though, because as diverting as a lot of these guys were, I tended to not be romantically interested-but just kept dating as it was fun, figuring the right one might come along eventually)...now I've met the love of my life on one of those sites so don't use online dating anymore! Not on match but on another site, but the principle is still the same...fair point about the horror stories though - my friend seems to meet married men on there and gets horrified about it, whereas I didn't meet any the whole time I was dating... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamergrl Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 Well I did hear from the guy, just a short text saying he worked all day. Nothing special. So if he wants to go out, he'll ask. If not.. oh well, I've got other prospects Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 , I've got other prospects oh you'll have plenty of prospects but very little quality... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamergrl Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 oh you'll have plenty of prospects but very little quality... Why are you so anti online dating? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Why are you so anti online dating? cause i tried it for a few years and it was worthless. and i've only met a handful of people that have good things to say about it. if you have little experience with OD you'll figure it out soon enough Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 It looks like they cleaned Yahoo personals up a bit from back in the mid-90's when I used it last and there are even 50 women within a 25 mile radius of me in my age group. Most are, by their pictures and descriptions, regular folks. Lots of mentions of children, grandchildren and normal everyday stuff. I might give that a try next year after my divorce is settled. Match and American Singles appear to have more 'puff' listings, at least in my area. TBH, I think a lot of it is geographical. If I lived in the Bay Area or LA I'd meet people IRL since there's huge populations there. I can see why some people from big cities would poo-poo online dating since the percentages of flakes/scammers/married people with computers mean more literal people in big cities. Link to post Share on other sites
b52s Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Which is funny because I had an awesome time with online dating, was taken out for numerous excellent dinners and nights out and had many evenings of entertaining company (I am more tenacious than most though, because as diverting as a lot of these guys were, I tended to not be romantically interested-but just kept dating as it was fun, figuring the right one might come along eventually)...now I've met the love of my life on one of those sites so don't use online dating anymore! Not on match but on another site, but the principle is still the same...fair point about the horror stories though - my friend seems to meet married men on there and gets horrified about it, whereas I didn't meet any the whole time I was dating... Yeah, I heard of some women that like to use online dating for the Free meals and entertianment they get, as opposed to actually trying to find true love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamergrl Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 Well if I was more familiar with the actual city of Denver, it might be easier to go meet people. But in my area, there's not much, other then my work. There is stuff I plan on doing this winter, like learning how to ski or snowboard, which I could meet people, but I have to find someone to go with me first Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Well if I was more familiar with the actual city of Denver, it might be easier to go meet people. But in my area, there's not much, other then my work. why don't you try meetup.com...its a much more refined way of meeting new people Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 This thread convinces me how incredibly lucky I am. I met my gf through match.com about a year ago, within 4 months of signing up (and when I was thinking of unsubscribing). To make things better, I was the very first profile she winked at :love:, and the rest is history:bunny:. Link to post Share on other sites
Sharon1961 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 I've never been very impressed with dating sites. There have been some success stories I've heard about but mostly I just think "eww." It's interesting to me that it seems to mostly be people in their 20s who consider dating sites viable alternatives. (I'm a little older.) Maybe it's because they're more conditioned to ordering up things online?? That's what it always felt like to me - being ordered online. What I'm trying to do instead is find things of interest to do and figure if I meet someone along the way all the better. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 This thread convinces me how incredibly lucky I am. indeed Link to post Share on other sites
Sharon1961 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 why don't you try meetup.com...its a much more refined way of meeting new people That's what I'm looking at doing. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 That's what I'm looking at doing. i've been on meetup.com for 3 years and have hosted at least 40 or 50 dinners. met a bunch of chicks that i dated. great way to meet new people with similar interests Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Yeah, I heard of some women that like to use online dating for the Free meals and entertianment they get, as opposed to actually trying to find true love. Yeah, yeah! I was always looking for love, but why not just enjoy the great dining out experiences in the meantime! Everyone should do that...enjoy dating for the sake of dating - meeting new people, having new experiences, and diverting nights out! I did end up meeting the love of my life that way, as it happens! As did my friends who are M now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dreamergrl Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 why don't you try meetup.com...its a much more refined way of meeting new people I tried meetup when I was still in Wisconsin. Wasn't overly impressed, but that was Wisconsin. Now that I'm back in retail, I work crazy hours that are never the same. I have to know at least (at the very least) three weeks in advance to take off for anything. I hate taking off because I feel it gives a better impression working when needed (I'm trying to work my way back up again). I work most weekends. It's hard to get involved with those activities. I might look into again though, maybe there will be something on my days off I can go to. Link to post Share on other sites
Sharon1961 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 i've been on meetup.com for 3 years and have hosted at least 40 or 50 dinners. met a bunch of chicks that i dated. great way to meet new people with similar interests I actually just checked it out last night for the first time. Was impressed with what I saw. Found several groups with similar interests. Thanks for the recommendation. I'll definitely try it. Honestly, it seems more my type of thing. I hate the pressure of dating. Group settings, similar interests, sounds good. Do you think there's dating type pressure on the events? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Do you think there's dating type pressure on the events? no . Link to post Share on other sites
Sharon1961 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 no . Awesome! Thanks. I just want to have more of a social life first and foremost. Link to post Share on other sites
FeelingLonely98 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 i've been on meetup.com for 3 years and have hosted at least 40 or 50 dinners. met a bunch of chicks that i dated. great way to meet new people with similar interests I looked at a few here in Fla. It seems that they always have like 25-30 guys RSVP that they are coming and 2 or 3 gals. (I guess that's good news for your girls, huh?) What about those speed date events? Anyone have experience or thoughts on those? Do you ever meet someone that you later date? (even one time?) Link to post Share on other sites
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