Men if your wife was a porn star would you still look at porn

[MeaganRaye]

A woman who is confident enough in her own self to realize that said naked women are not a threat to her relationship.

But they are a threat. Because if I don't like it, then the relationship is defintely not going to last.

 

Maybe in another person's relationship it's not a threat but in one's involving me it will be.

[Trialbyfire]

It is your choice to not be bothered by it. But what about women who are bothered by it and don't find it acceptable? I shouldn't be forced to think its okay just because women like you are fine with it

Then stick to your plan of dating men who aren't into porn. Better yet, get a b/f first, before jumping to conclusions about how detrimental porn is to your relationship.

[carhill]

On an aside note, did you people know that there is PREGNANT porn?

 

Well, yeah. If you want to view or post amateur stuff, go to alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.pregnant. Most of the videos end up on the realwives, wives and/or creampie groups. Some of the amateurs who started years ago on the newsgroups have gone on to achieve commercial success. "Wifey" is one example. Her pix and videos likely will send/are sending their children to college. It's an interesting world

[lizzylizliz]

The problem here is less about what is socially acceptable (trust me, porn is, people talk about it foten enough, and sex is everywhere, but that's not for here). What you need to realise is exactly as I said...men and porn and men and you are two different things. I never made a conscious choice to be for or against it...I've just loved people before enough to not want to pick holes in their habits, of which are none of my concern anyway. Yes, you're right...there will always be a 'perfect' girl, taller, slimmer, hotter, better boobs...but so what? It seems that your problems stem from self worth, and inflated expectations. Unless you get with a vicar, you're going to have a pretty hard time finding a date.....just seems like you're passing what could be decent, loving people by just because you're a victim of your own insecurties.

[fishtaco]

Well, yeah. If you want to view or post amateur stuff, go to alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.pregnant. Most of the videos end up on the realwives, wives and/or creampie groups. Some of the amateurs who started years ago on the newsgroups have gone on to achieve commercial success. "Wifey" is one example. Her pix and videos likely will send/are sending their children to college. It's an interesting world

 

There's even more crazier stuff... I'm sure by now the famous 2 girls 1 cup have circumvent the globe multiple times. I'm betting even eaves dropping alien civilizations have seen it.

[Enema]

On an aside note, did you people know that there is PREGNANT porn?

 

Yes, thats right. Pregnant women doing porn.

 

I've used this type of porn plenty of times, can be hot... and I have no interest in kids or pregnant women.

 

No idea why I like it and I wouldn't want it in real life. Just goes to show how separate porn use and a sex life really is.

 

What really grinds my gears is women who think their partners use porn because they're unsatisfied with their sex life or because their wife isn't good enough. Such crap.

[carhill]

I wouldn't be bragging about this if I were her!

LOL, well, her real name is Bardizbanian, so you can see why she changed it for her career. I still don't think I can say that right

 

Edited to add.... OMG!

[redfathom]

You had to be TRAINED to think it's okay, though. Somehow, I am going to have to train myself to accept this. It goes to show you its not a natural reaction for a woman to think this is okay, there has to be a level of programming to not feel threatened by it. And some women, like me, may be resistant to this. So in this day and time, I guess I will be forced to remain single if I don't hop on this bandwagon of allowing my husband/boyfriend to look at porn and salivate over naked women

I think more of a problem is movies and books telling woman they can find this perfect love. Anything related to humans is never going to be perfect and I expected things out of my relationship that weren't fair to either of us. As I grew up I learned to make descisions for myself, not to conform to what was supposed to be normal. I don't expect to have a perfect relationship or a perfect partner. I do however expect to be respected by my partner, and that goes both ways.

 

I wasn't trained to do anything I didn't want to do. I grew up and formed my own opinions...there is a difference. Accepting porn in my relationship is my descision.

[BobSacamento]

I would. Sometimes I wanna see a redhead and sometimes I wanna see a blonde. I guess she could change her hair color......but what if I want to see an asian... this is getting weird

[CandyGirlXO]

I just want to say this... I am a 27 year old female

 

Porn used to really hurt/upset me. I used to cry, argue, be hurt by my exes porn usage. I didn't get it, and I didn't know that 99% of guys looks at porn.

 

It bothered me more than anything else. Then I became single and curious.... and lonely but horny.

 

So I started watching it, and I get it now. Its not a bad thing. Its not that horrible at all. I watch it, masturbate and it helps a lot.

 

Now I am in another serious relationship, and I still view it occasionally... when I am not with my BF. It no longer upsets me.

 

The only way it would upset me, is if it affected our sex life, and he rather watch porn then have sex with me. But as far as I can tell it hasn't affected our sex life.

 

All I am saying is ladies seriously give porn a try. Just watch it, and you will see its not about that hot chick.... they are mostly not even hot. Its about the act itself. Most of these guys don't want to F these girls, its just a visual.

 

When I watch it I imagine my BF doing that to me, not the guy in the video.

 

My ex tried explaining this to me, and I didn't get it. I thought he was lying, but its true. Now I kind of see it as being annoyed by porn is sort of in a way immature. Hate to say it.

 

People like variety. I don't look at these girl and compare my body to theirs, hell I know I look better than half of them. Its about the act, the positions, etc....

[JohnnyBlaze]

First, admins, may we PLEASE impose a limit on how many porn-based threads a person can start in any given calendar year?

 

Meagan, in the last two days, you've started three threads that all talk about men looking at porn. The theory is that over half of all men think about sex several times a day. Apparently, we don't have a choice in the matter! From reading your threads, that's all we're seeing! I don't think I've used the word "porn" as many times this year as you have in the past 48 hours.

 

Now, to answer your question, I probably wouldn't be married to a porn star. As theoretically good as it might be, I doubt either myself, or most guys (not all, but most) would be happy knowing that their wife was going of to screw a bunch of guys every day.

 

If it was a retired porn star, I'd probably watch some with her, just to get her comments on it. Sort of like those DVD's where you can set the audio to hear the director's commentary throughout. It would be great to hear it from an insider!

 

It's the male equivalent of those trashy romance novels where some girl is kidnapped by pirates and happens to fall madly in love with the head pirate, who's masculine, yet sensitive. It's fantasy, not reality. As with everything else, a small percentage of people get hooked and the lines between fact and fiction blur, but for the other 99%, we do actually get that how porn stars act in movies is NOT how women act in real life. Heck, it's not even how the porn stars themselves probably act in real life. Believe it or not, we DO get that.

[missdependant]

I'm a female and I can say that if my SO was a porn star I'd still look at porn.

 

This is hypothetical of course.. because I'd probably never be emotionally involved with someone in the porn industry. Gross.

 

edit* and I agree with this!:

 

First, admins, may we PLEASE impose a limit on how many porn-based threads a person can start in any given calendar year?

[missdependant]

No, I'm not. And who wouldn't be insecure when discussing the issue of your s/o looking at naked women. I have good reason to be

 

I, for one, can say I'm not.

[mr.dream merchant]

My GF is a porn-star in my mind. I've done everything to her and she thoroughly enjoys it. I wouldn't want it any other way. Lady in the streets, Porn Star in the sheets. This still wouldn't make me put away porn. I actually encourage my GF to look at porn as well, its not her steez.

 

 

****. My lighter broke.

[You'reasian]

Then he's also bisexual. And I do not want to be with a man who is bisexual and fantasizes about having sex with another man in a video

 

If you're insecure about you and your man watching couples porn, then switch over to female solo porn.

[fishtaco]

The only way it would upset me, is if it affected our sex life, and he rather watch porn then have sex with me. But as far as I can tell it hasn't affected our sex life.

 

All I am saying is ladies seriously give porn a try. Just watch it, and you will see its not about that hot chick.... they are mostly not even hot. Its about the act itself. Most of these guys don't want to F these girls, its just a visual.

 

Good post IMHO.

 

Bottom line, if porn doesn't take away your quality time with your SO, then who cares.

 

One doesn't have to like porn. But treating it like the debil and the source of all evil is sort of unnecessary.

 

But many times when people are outraged it's not because of the target of their outrage; it's because they need to be outraged, and they have to pick something.