Is interracial dating with asian men not popular?

[NuckingFuts]

"Why do Asian men feel that they 'aren't' attractive...?"

 

Who says we feel this way? I've never ever heard any of my Chinese buddies say "Wow, I woke up this morning, looked in the mirror and realized that, hey, I am one ugly dude!! I guess it's time to work on my personality!"

[aus_half]

Who says we feel this way? I've never ever heard any of my Chinese buddies say "Wow, I woke up this morning, looked in the mirror and realized that, hey, I am one ugly dude!! I guess it's time to work on my personality!"

Well, no, you probably wouldn't hear people blurt something like that outloud. Emotions aren't always vocalised (actually, most aren't). And How_Do_I_Know, with the kind of discrimination that is put towards Asian men, you wouldn't be surprised why Asian men feel like crap as a result. But having said that, my dad was the dead opposite. He came over to Australia from Japan in the 70s when racism was probably at its prime (esp towards the Japs due to WWII). He broke the nerdy, subservient Asian male stereotype and there he hooked up with my Australian mother. So I guess it all boils down to the attitude and personality, basically an Alphamale of any kind would be able to hook up with any women IMO.

[aznflava]

Its dead set simple. Its all about confidence. CONFIDENCE. You must be confident in yourself, and deal with the fact that you are who you are. You must accept yourself and be proud of yourself. Be proud that you are asian. This is the first step.

 

The second step is your attitude towards girls. Be confident.

 

Project yourself as a bold, male.

 

Be funny.

 

Dress well.

 

Work out.

 

Smile a lot (naturally of course).

 

Stop saying 'maybe, ok, i dont know' and crap like that and say 'yes' or 'no' with confidence.

 

The three golden rules:

 

*** Look confident and likeable

 

*** Act confident and likeable, but not arrogant

 

*** Above most, be yourself...but dont be wimpy. Understand this: Girls luv 'manly' guys/ nice guys who can stand up for themselves. They do not, do not like sensitive pushovers.

 

This is especially the case for white girls. They simply luv luv luv confident guys.

 

If you are a confident asian with a good sense of humour and fashion, yes asian guy.... they will be head over heels. Why? because you are different from the rest. You are a confident exotic man, not a geeky nerdy boy.

[NuckingFuts]

Good post! Check out my recommendations a few posts back. We suggest very similar things! And you're right, it's all about CONFIDENCE!!

[Hottie]

I have dated 2 black guys one white guy and an asian before and to report on that "all asians have small dicks" and hate to say its been true. Of the two asians one was 5 inches and one was 5 1/2 inches. The theory all black men are huge is also incorrect one of the black males was 6 and one was 7, the white believe it or not was the biggest he had a 9 inch penis.

 

 

Interesting, the most extensive study on Penis size was done in Canada. They found that Nordic Males had the largest dicks by far. Africans had the most diversity in size. As an Asian female. I like Nordic looking white boys!

[dragonstar]

2 asian guys? that doesn't mean ALL of us do...Isn't that the average size anyway. All races have small, large etc.. Most studies that have been done vary slightly in the findings, a recent study found the average erect penis length to be 5.5 to 6.5 inches...Don't like to brag but I definitely haven't had any problems or complaints in the bedroom, I'm above average, of course it's not all about size if you don't know how to use it then size means nothing..

Just go to any forum where there's a section for sex related topics, there's always a few threads about penis size( how to enlarge, not satisfied with size etc) Who do you think are posting those topics? Out of curiosity I visited some of the PE(Penis Enlargement) forums they posted links to and guess what..Most if not all of the guys that are members of those forums are white guys...

Also if you didn't know the penis enlargement industry in america is a multi million dollar one and who do you think are the number one "consumers".

It ain't asians that's for sure...Not trying to "start" anything here just stating some facts..

 

I myself am HALF asian and HALF Caucasian (my dad loves asian women, he and my mother have been married 30 years and he can't get enough of her). See I live in a small suburb of Minneapolis that doesn't have very many races other than white folks. So at my job I get hit on quite often by white men. A majority of them have told me that they have always dreamed and fantasized about being with asian women, and they also bring up the stuff on the 'private' regions. When I go out at times to the club or wherever I am going with the girls, I even get lots of attention from African Americans saying the exact same thing. The only ones that I haven't really been hit on by much would be Asians oddly enough and Hispanics. And my previous b/f's and husband, who were black and white loved watching asian porn and just told me the same as above.

So, I would like to hear honest opinions on THIS stereotype.

It's simple, why do you think they started fantasizing about asian women? the MEDIA and stereotypes portraying asian women as "submissive", "exotic",overly feminine etc.. No doubt that porn is also responsible. Where do you think the "tight" stereotype came from..Just type "asian" in any search engine and see what sites come up...From your pic you look more caucasian than asian, Lots of people find half asian/white attractive. If I saw you somewhere I'd probably hit on you, not in a sleazy way of course..

Ok... so this is kinda steming from the "asian men" thread but about asian women. It is a question about stereotyping. We all know that there is a sterotype on asian women. Whatever you heard is up to you but I was just wondering if it's true that many men, no matter what race, like asian women? Be it for the "exotic" look or the other thing that I'd rather not say....... ok then.... the thing down there being slanted also and nicely tawt...... ?

Why wouldn't men of different "colors" like asian women? Most men go for ANY woman, doesn't matter what she is especially in a country where there's a "melting pot" of different ethnicities...If she's attractive most guys wouldn't say no, of course there are some guys who prefer just to date within their own "gene pool"... Most guys only think with one part of their bodies anyway...

 

Finally I just wanna say I'm a pretty damn good looking asian guy and don't have trouble getting dates with girls. Been with asian girls in the past and decided it was time to "diversify"..I've dated mostly non-asian women since then. I love white girls and latinas and seem to be more attracted to them these days...

[fishtaco]

Why wouldn't men of different "colors" like asian women? Most men go for ANY woman,

 

Pretty much. Right now I'm also on an inter-racial kick, so if anyone asks me I'd say I prefer non-asian women. But if a hot asian girl with a cute face and the body of Brooke Burke wants to get it on, I'll be damned if I say no.

[Mark_Anthony83]

In reading most of the posts (I say most because there were alot/maybe too many to take in). I have to agree that the media has played an enormous role in the representation/'false representation of "asian men" in general. However the extent to which this proves detrimental to their dating success, is perhaps not the issue. I see it another way, in that the media has influenced these asian males as well, to see an image of beauty which is counterintuitive to their own natural instincts. What this means, to clarify, is that all men in western america (not just asians, but blacks, hispanics, middle eastern) have been bombarded by this standard of beauty which represents a white woman (usually blond) as the epitomy or femininity and a sexuality. Alot of asian male posters on this forumn complain about the difficulty they have in dating white women, without asking themselves why they want to in the first place. Is it because they have met a white woman who was of particular interest to them, or simply based on principle. This is not a criticism of asian men, it is simply a way to make them aware of the full scope of the media's effect, and encourage them to really analyse their motivations for seeking a specific race, when dating, while shunning people of their own race to chase an ideal which has been artificially created (much like their own negative self image) by the media they so abhor.

 

Thanks for your time. Any thoughts...

[breebree]

I'm a 17 year old female living in San Diego, and I only date asian guys (preferably Korean, Japanese, or Chinese). The guys I date are usually tall (I'm 5' 7", so it's hard not being taller than me) and they groom themselves very well and know how to dress. However, I do admit that over 80 percent of the Asian guys I come across are physically unattractive and well.. nerdy/dorky.

[Lucasarts]

^^ damn go out wit me then! ahahha

 

yeah i'm asian as well but apparently it seems i didnt get hit wit the "ugly" stick as they call it. I dont have much problems getting girls, or keeping them, but i def. can see/understand the points being made in this ridiculously long topic

 

course i was also adopted so i got raised in a white world and lived a white life (man i cant wait to get to college, sick of whitebread) so i am attracted to caucasian chicks mainly.

 

the stereotype? i find it interesting that its other white guys who try to bash me with this "small dick" bullshiz, but being 5"11 and still growing i can easily just fend it off with "i'm an exception to the rule, lemme prove it." And yes size does matter but so does knowing how to utilize the tools at your disposal

[Rocdiva]

Alot of asian male posters on this forumn complain about the difficulty they have in dating white women, without asking themselves why they want to in the first place. Is it because they have met a white woman who was of particular interest to them, or simply based on principle.

 

This small statement says so much. A thread should be started on this statement alone. The commentary it would incite indeed would require the reader/poster to ask themselves questions beyond the superficial, "Why don't they [White women] want to date us." With an issue this complex you can not truly explore the motivations behind why it is 'so called' unpopular to date Asian men.

 

Simply commentating on the surface value of problem, if there even is a problem, will not begin to fix it or help anyone to understand it as best as needed. Also I add, no where (that I can think of) is there a written rule that you must date White Women.

 

There are plenty of beautiful and great Asian women, and non-Asian/non-White women for that matter, everywhere I go. Usually Asian women are either with other Asians or with Asian men. Also, for an Asian man interracial dating, as a rule, does NOT equate to white women only. It is just as the thread starter said, "is interracial dating with asian men not popular" and not , "Is dating Asian men not popular with White women."

 

At any rate date who YOU find attractive-not the media. Beauty is wherever YOU find it. The media is NOT your friend anyway as most of you already know. It does not favor you so why should you favor it?

 

Good Day to All,

[Guest of Honor]

As someone might of already mentioned, some women might be reluctant to date Asian men because of the media. White male (especially Jews) dominated Hollywood media want to perpetuate negative sterotypes of Asian men.

I'm Korean American,I think I must of dated 20 or more white women, women who chose not let Hollywood racists tell them who should be desirable.

Don't believe the Hollywood racist propaganda, open your mind and expose yourselves to some Asian culture, rent Asian movies, travel to Asia, etc.

Now I'm married to another attractive white women(2 times around,lol)

We have a beautiful daughter who will learn to appreciate both her cultures and not be whitewashed like some Asian girls.

By the way, I find European womens' mentality more progressive than American womens' in general. This is another topic

[Pheenix]

Hi all,

 

new to this forum and i have to be honest - didn't read all 18 pages of this thread.... would have taken all night! (read the last few)

 

It appears that some asian men have complained about the difficulty in dating white women..... now as a white woman in a long term relationship with an asian man i can contribute a bit to this....

 

Prior to my previous bf and current (both asian), I always admired and liked asian men, but never thought that they'd ever want to date a white girl when they could date some of the gorgeous asian women around..... Silly I know, but hey - very few women aren't insecure about themselves.....

 

Also on this I noticed in Australia at least, that a white guy with an asian gf doesn't raise an eyebrow..... however myself and another female friend in the same situation get some funny reactions - from both white and asian people.... I never really thought about it, but it seems to be more culturally acceptable for white guy + asian girl, rather then the other way around..... Maybe this is impacting on why asian men find it harder to date white women???

 

I don't think there is anything specific you can do to attract women.... of course being clean, polite, nicely dressed, having a job will go a long way, but every woman has her likes and dislikes (hell i think little pot bellies are sexy! go figure! ) so get out there and keep trying - eventually you'll score.....

[reservoirdog1]

Well, I'm a hetero guy. So it's not very popular with me.

 

Or am I the wrong sample for the survey?

 

[Apex]

This is an old thread, and the original poster appears to be an imposter/troll.

The first clue should be the number of posts he has made over the years.

The second clue is the name. How many self-respecting Chinese guys would call themselves slantedeyez?

[Morticia]

Hi everyone! I'm a 20yo white female from Croatia and I find Asian men, especally Koreans very attractive. I have never actually dated an Asian man because there aren't any in my country. I, like all other white females, dislike unconfident, self-doubting men who call themselves ''nice guys''. These white ''nice guys'' almost always turn out to be creepy and everything BUT nice. I also dislike too confident men who cheat and treat women badly. Women want confidence, but they also want some stable quality in men. So guys, don't get discouraged. Work out, grow your hair a bit longer, wear trendy clothes and be open to communication...that's it. It works. I'd also like to know if all Asian men only want to date blondes. I'm not tall, have dark brown hair, and I'm quite slim. Do Asian men find that attractive?

[Guest]

I am a Chinese-American living in NYC. I have dated mostly Asian girls, except for 2. One was white (polish) and the other is hispanic I think(although she claims to be white).

 

I adore those two more than any of my Asian girls because they are just more fun to be around (including the sack).

 

Both relationships did go past 2 months thanks to my mom. So thanks mom.

[john ho]

you think every white person is hugh, i found a clip on another forum and found this white guy is not so hugh.

 

http://www.vimeo.com/clip=50956