Married Men in Strip Clubs

[Woggle]

Strip clubs are a guy thing that most women will never understand. It is about hanging out with the guys and acting like a bunch of pigs. In a pc world it is one of the few places men can be men.

[taiko]

 

Well jeez then you better poke out his eyes and do some brain-washing since I think this is the only way you would feel comfortable with a man. Honestly I feel for your guy. I just hope one day he grows a set and actually stops comforming to your insecurities. But, to each his own..

 

And that is the point us guys are trying to make. Back in the day I admit I went for the lapdances. The near sex experiences with 3 different people a week.

 

But

In the original post it was a shared team experience, not lapdances which caused the upset feelings. I along with others said he had to go to avoid the label of being pussy whipped. If women come off like this in real life like they are in this net world then that is a real concern. A man can not been seen as leadership potential if they are ruled by the wife

[a4a]

Strip clubs are a guy thing that most women will never understand. It is about hanging out with the guys and acting like a bunch of pigs. In a pc world it is one of the few places men can be men.

 

:lmao:

 

Maybe men that are immature or were brought up in a realm of male piggiotry were this action is the acceptable norm. :lmao:

 

I guess men cannot be men playing football, hockey, or even darts! :lmao:

[a4a]

And that is the point us guys are trying to make. Back in the day I admit I went for the lapdances. The near sex experiences with 3 different people a week.

 

But

In the original post it was a shared team experience, not lapdances which caused the upset feelings. I along with others said he had to go to avoid the label of being pussy whipped. If women come off like this in real life like they are in this net world then that is a real concern. A man can not been seen as leadership potential if they are ruled by the wife

 

:lmao: oh but if he is such a wimp to be goaded into going by his friends that makes him leadership material....... :lmao: :lmao:

 

It's ok for men to boss this guy around and manipulate him? :lmao:

[Woggle]

:lmao:

 

Maybe men that are immature or were brought up in a realm of male piggiotry were this action is the acceptable norm. :lmao:

 

I guess men cannot be men playing football, hockey, or even darts! :lmao:

 

Like I said it is a guy thing. As for your question before no I would not mind if my wife went to a male stripclub. I am secure enough in my marriage and with her to let her have some harmless fun.

[a4a]

Like I said it is a guy thing. As for your question before no I would not mind if my wife went to a male stripclub. I am secure enough in my marriage and with her to let her have some harmless fun.

 

It is not a guy thing ....... it is a YOUR TYPE of guy thing.

[Woggle]

It is not a guy thing ....... it is a YOUR TYPE of guy thing.

 

Most men agree with me. Like I said before actual chetaing is much worse than going to a stripclub yet women who cheat are lauded as liberated feminists while men having some harmless fun are pigs. It is very hypocritical.

[a4a]

Most men agree with me. Like I said before actual chetaing is much worse than going to a stripclub yet women who cheat are lauded as liberated feminists while men having some harmless fun are pigs. It is very hypocritical.

 

Oh please woggle get off comparing apples to oranges.

 

so you go to strip clubs for revenge on women? :lmao: oh thats right you said you liked having them do your bidding for a buck.......

 

The acorn does not fall far from the tree.

 

And yes men of your caliber would probably agree with you.

[Sevenmack]

A4a wrote: Maybe men that are immature or were brought up in a realm of male piggiotry were this action is the acceptable norm.

 

I guess men cannot be men playing football, hockey, or even darts!

 

Not so. My grandfather, a sous chef for a 4-star hotel, taught me how to appreciate fine wines, carve ice sculptures and dress like Cary Grant. He also bought me my first bike, taught me carpentry, how to lay out a sidewalk and install light fixtures.

 

But at the same time, he taught me how to enjoy the pleasures of the flesh, including admiring women without pinching their bottoms and treat each and every one like a lady. You can be a man and do plenty of things, including going to strip clubs.

 

As far as I'm concerned, going to strip clubs is no big thing: I go once every three months with my pals (who spend far more time there). My little lady knows exactly what I'm doing: Not a thing. She understands the reality that men are going to enjoy looking at the other flesh; stifling that in any way isn't going to work. And besides: When I get home, I pounce on her and give her all the affection (and sex) that she wants.

 

If she wants to go watch men at strip clubs, she can. That's just not her thing. I trust her. More importantly, it's not the stripper that's the problem: It's the relationship problems that cause all the problems. If you're not communicating well and treating each other like crap, a stripper isn't going to do any damage; she's not interested in doing it anyway because she just wants the money. And the stripper can't: You and your significant other are doing all the damage to your relationship.

 

The problem lies within, not without.

[a4a]

Learned skills have nothing to do with self respect or values.

 

 

 

People have their own value systems. To me and my H people that attend such places are beneath us. That is our opinion.

 

I certainly am not trying to convince you not to go, I could care less. But the hypocrites that state it is ok for them to go when they have a partner that it does upset, yet they are not willing to allow the woman to dance with a stranger or have a man rub all over her........ those are the people that annoy me.

 

Carry on bolstering the economy by attending clubs.....

[Sevenmack]

if done right, learned skills do have plenty to do with respect and values. for most people, it's how you learn values and gain character.

 

If my little lady wants to dance with a stranger at the club, she can certainly do so. Again, it's not that guy who threatens my relationship, but her actions and mine when it comes to communication and growing together as a couple. This doesn't mean that one can't get jealous -- that's instinctive -- but you realize that at the end of the day, if the relationship is in the crapper, it doesn't matter what someone outside of it does.

 

That's why I blame the person committing the infidelity, along with the cukolded spouse, not the other person. The other person is no epitome of virtue -- anyone who sleeps with another person's significant other can't be -- but it's not that person's fault that the relationship is falling apart. It's the couple that's responsible. Marriages and long-term relationships are destroyed from within, not from without.

 

If you and your husband don't like going, so be it. No one's asking you to approve of anyone else's decisionmaking and besides, you have no ability to do so anyway; you can have a judgement about it and that's all. And if a person doesn't like their spouse going to strip clubs, they should make their objections known, but also realize that their opinion isn't one that their significant other might share; this means compromise -- each person getting some of what they want and some of what they don't want -- plain and simple. But those arguing that strip clubs equals piggishness and infidelity are simply arguing in the wrong on this one. The problem isn't the strip club, but how you're handling your relationship.

[Guest]

My husband went to a stag 7 months ago and broke my heart.....the reason is because he LIED about everything that went on. I have been together for 20 years, and the rule has always been look all you want but do not touch. Well he touched and broke his own rule. I don't really care about the nude dancer who rode him like a pony I just feel violated that I wasn't worthy enough for the truth....anyway this isn't my thread.....you two need honesty all the time, and your trust will not be ruined, believe me it takes a long time to recover trust. He did wait to long to tell you but he did.....and that is what counts. You will be OK it will take awhile.

 

Good luck.

[Guest]

If you and your husband don't like going, so be it. No one's asking you to approve of anyone else's decisionmaking and besides, you have no ability to do so anyway; you can have a judgement about it and that's all. And if a person doesn't like their spouse going to strip clubs, they should make their objections known, but also realize that their opinion isn't one that their significant other might share; this means compromise -- each person getting some of what they want and some of what they don't want -- plain and simple. But those arguing that strip clubs equals piggishness and infidelity are simply arguing in the wrong on this one. The problem isn't the strip club, but how you're handling your relationship.

 

Much truth there, but really it is the problem of the strip club, the strippers and the men who go there!.

The relationship is the ultimate source of love and trust and if one partner is unable make that compromise where it comes to SC then the guy should understand and not challenge the emotional well being of his partner. If it is ONLY entertainment it can be easily let go of for other more acceptable means of entertainment. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO TO A SC--IT IS NOT A LIFE OR DEATH NEED.

but your relationship should be of the greatest value and importance and trying to give up certain actions for your partner is also acceptable in a relationship---- give, take, compromise or sometimes yes, stop a behaviour that is hurtful to the partner and R.

 

ps. She understands the reality that men are going to enjoy looking at the other flesh; stifling that in any way isn't going to work. And besides: When I get home, I pounce on her and give her all the affection (and sex) that she wants.

 

THAT IS A MAJOR COMPROMISE IMHO--- I WOULD NEVER EVER WANT MY MAN NEAR ME FOR ANY SEX OR INTIMACY IF HE WENT TO A SC AND THEN CAME HOME LOOKING TO GET SOME BECAUSE HE GOT ALL TURNED ON OGLING THE STRIPPERS AND THEIR BITS---

 

so, would you feel comfortable if your woman went on line9 with your knowledge) that same time you went to the SC and signed on to a chat room with some random guy on a web cam getting himself off for his viewing audience for their entertainment and then you came home and she was all hot and bothered by him ---- and then ended up having sex with you....??

[Guest]

if done right, learned skills do have plenty to do with respect and values. for most people, it's how you learn values and gain character.

 

If my little lady wants to dance with a stranger at the club, she can certainly do so. Again, it's not that guy who threatens my relationship, but her actions and mine when it comes to communication and growing together as a couple. This doesn't mean that one can't get jealous -- that's instinctive -- but you realize that at the end of the day, if the relationship is in the crapper, it doesn't matter what someone outside of it does.

 

That's why I blame the person committing the infidelity, along with the cukolded spouse, not the other person. The other person is no epitome of virtue -- anyone who sleeps with another person's significant other can't be -- but it's not that person's fault that the relationship is falling apart. It's the couple that's responsible. Marriages and long-term relationships are destroyed from within, not from without.

 

If you and your husband don't like going, so be it. No one's asking you to approve of anyone else's decisionmaking and besides, you have no ability to do so anyway; you can have a judgement about it and that's all. And if a person doesn't like their spouse going to strip clubs, they should make their objections known, but also realize that their opinion isn't one that their significant other might share; this means compromise -- each person getting some of what they want and some of what they don't want -- plain and simple. But those arguing that strip clubs equals piggishness and infidelity are simply arguing in the wrong on this one. The problem isn't the strip club, but how you're handling your relationship.

 

What if your little lady wanted to be a stripper, would you be cool with that? Her shaking her thing in all the strangers faces, doing lap dances and such?

[Sevenmack]

Golly Guest, you take things to extremes, don't you? There is a difference between the scenario you laid out and the issues at discussion on this thread. All I'll say on this is get a damn clue.

[a4a]

Golly Guest, you take things to extremes, don't you? There is a difference between the scenario you laid out and the issues at discussion on this thread. All I'll say on this is get a damn clue.

 

if done right, learned skills do have plenty to do with respect and values. for most people, it's how you learn values and gain character.

 

Nice to see your character coming out there big mac daddy! :lmao: :lmao:

[Sevenmack]

Actually, I should have read Guest's comments further. My apologies to Guest for overreacting. A person with character knows when to apologize for overreacting, a4a. So yes, I'm showing my true character: I'm flawed like everyone else, but I will apologize when I'm off-the-mark.

 

And in all honesty, as long as she was just watching -- and not hitting him up for a phone number or to meet up offline to have sex -- it's perfectly fine for her to watch.

[a4a]

Actually, I should have read Guest's comments further. My apologies to Guest for overreacting. A person with character knows when to apologize for overreacting, a4a. So yes, I'm showing my true character: I'm flawed like everyone else, but I will apologize when I'm off-the-mark.

 

And in all honesty, as long as she was just watching -- and not hitting him up for a phone number or to meet up offline to have sex -- it's perfectly fine for her to watch.

 

hey you got a web cam mac daddy....... I got some time on my hands this afternoon! :D

[radionovice9696]

why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

 

This is the situation. My partner plays in a cricket team who recently won their grand final. As a celebration they are getting together as a group and having a bbq and a few drinks. All good. It now turns out that they are having the BBQ, then heading into town to a pub and then going on to a strip club. All of them are married with kids, my partner and I are not married nor have any kids, and there is one that is under age as well but they keep joking that it is his initiation! The captain of the team is also a sleaze bag from some of the things I have heard about him and it is him organising the night.

 

I have stated to my partner how I feel about it but he says I have nothing to worry about. I am not worried per se but the thought of him with a bunch of drunken blokes in a strip club quite frankly makes me feel quite ill. If it is just about mixing with the guys away from the game then am I wrong asking him to not go to the club but to do all the rest. I haven't asked him not to go I have just told him how I feel about it.

 

I can sort of understand single guys going to a strip club, hell I've even been along to one myself with a whole group of people, they were all single guys mind you. A girlfriend of mine even stripped for a while.

 

I don't really have a problem with strippers or strip clubs, I have a problem with married men with kids and partnered men going. I have issues with a bucks/stag night winding up at a strip club or having strippers as their last final step before marriage. Is it that much of a sacrifice that it has to be done before getting married etc.

 

Thoughts anyone.

 

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.

 

before reading all the other posts...let me ask...do u watch pornos with ur man....if you do...whats the difference....does ur man watch pornos without you...if he does whats the diff....so much revolves around in a mans mind...if hes NOT cheating...let him see some naked breasts...whats the harm...this may be your hang up not his

[1DeadB]

It's hard for us girls to understand, I know. But don't you take advantage of the situation when he gets home?

 

I do!

[womensrea]

For the guys who don't get strip clubs - They're about naked breasts and looking at them is fun.

 

For the women who don't get strip clubs - Stop trying to figure it out. Testosterone's a hell of a drug.

 

For me there is no difference between a Playboy and a Stripclub if used in the same manner.

 

Men & Women SHOULD always be attracted to other men & women. Being in a relationship does not stop you from being human. My wife doesn't like male strip clubs but if she did & had to go I wouldn't stop her - I trust her so why be a jerk? But she is infatuated with Ben Affleck. Should I stop her from watching Ben Affleck movies? Should I change the channel when he comes on the TV?

 

The women on this thread seem very ignorant about relationships in general. The guy who said the problems are between the couple & not the outside forces got it right. Give a $hit about each other first. Once you tackle that then move on to strip clubs. Being happy about keeping your partner down means you don't have a partner, you have a dog.

[TheEvilEdge7]

While I don't I think there's any problem with a man or woman looking to see what's out there, I don't understand the allure of strip clubs.

 

Let me get this straight. You're going to wave something in my face that I can't touch, have and charge me to boot?

 

I don't get it.

[womensrea]

For men who don't get strip clubs: Naked breasts are fun to look at

 

For women who don't get strip clubs: Stop over-analyzing and see above

[Guest]

just because it is fun to look at doesn't make it okay when the partner is not comfortable with her man going to a SC.

 

that is SELFISH AND SELF CENTERED to ignore his partner's feelings and concerns just so he could have his "fun"

please----there are many othere mediums of fun!

 

women don't over analyze ---they see if for what it is and how it effects them

don't patronize women who have feelings of dedicated committment for their man and are uncomfortable with SC.

 

and please tell me why a man would be okay with his wife/partner getting off to another man as per the above quest ? and response.

you really truly don't care if she goes and watches something like this 3-4 times a year for her entertainment and knowing this you feel okay having sex with her knowing she was aroused by another dude??!!!!

[AnneB49]

I am confused with what all the fuss is about...I send my hubby to strip clubs at least once a month...he comes back randy as hell and takes it out on me all night...I try to make sure though it is not on an evening when I have a tough schedule at work the next day...I am always exhausted and sore afterwards...Men will always be pigs...it is just a matter of harnessing their piggishness to our own advantage...