Married Men in Strip Clubs

[Lezbean]

they think it's ok b/c they are getting paid for it, it's a job for them. I don't know if all of them necessarily LIKE it, or think it's ok., but some get pretty big bucks for it if they are in the right one...from what I hear!

 

 

My Sis was a stripper at the Diamond Cabaret in Denver and pulled in about $175,000 a year. It was a very good living. she did it for many, many years.

 

I don't know how she did it though!

[outofdarkness]

My Sis was a stripper at the Diamond Cabaret in Denver and pulled in about $175,000 a year. It was a very good living. she did it for many, many years.

 

I don't know how she did it though!

yeah, I saw something on the tube the other night about this very thing and how messed up these girl's lives end up like...The only good thing is that they DID make some good money...BUT most of them ended up spending it on drugs, etc...I think it's a pretty sad life w/ that rare exception...I know I couldn't do it...

[rainfall]

Rainfall Number one My point is That if he is going to strip club He will be bringing his horny Butt back home.

On the other hand if he is hanging at some of the popular watering holes he could up to no good.

The only way she will be putting her boobs butt or pussy near him is when he is waving dollar bills at her.

 

If he goes to a strip club he better not bring his hormy butt anywhere near me. If he is a cheating scum bag then he will be up to no good no matter where he is. However no matter how "faithful" a man is if he is in a strip club he is up to no good. He might not get a lap dance but he sure is looking at the strippers wishing he could be with them.

[Rhyla]

Me neither, and I'm a man.

 

 

 

I don't go to them, and I would lock my wife out of the house if I found out she was at one. I keep myself fit...at 38 I still have the flat stomach and workout daily. If I'm not good enough for her to feel the need to go to a strip club...then she can leave and go find herself a stripper.

 

I think it is damn disrespectful whether it be a man or woman that goes to a strip club against their partner's wishes.

<3 men like you are so rare. i'm lucky my partner has the same views as you on the topic.

[Rhyla]

In this case though we are talking about a team bonding situation. One of the leaders is probably a PL but not all of the team. In this specific case if the boyfriend does not go without a reason like he religious and he won't sin against God he has to deal with the boys calling him a P*ssy. Being married or mentioning the girlfriend will just encourge shouts of p*ssy whiipped.

 

So what? It's more important for a guy not to endure a bit of harassment from his friends than to respect the feelings of his partner and their relationship? I would never be with a guy whos priorities laid in that order.

[Rhyla]

you Know If your Husband or B/F is hanging out at a strip club with the guys every once in a while his chances of having sex with one of those woman is about 1 in 100 million. On the other hand if he is an attractive guy dressed nice and has some charm. if he is hanging out in a high Class Bar in a nice downtown location . There is a pretty good chance some woman will be hitting on him.

 

It's not always about a fear of them actually sleeping with the stripper. sometimes, it's just about respect for the partner, and the relationship.

[Wantingtogetitright]

It's not always about a fear of them actually sleeping with the stripper. sometimes, it's just about respect for the partner, and the relationship.

 

my issue has nothing to do with fear of him cheating. As I stated I don't have an issue with these clubs, I have a very very close friend that stripped. The women have all the power. And if you are single and want to see naked female flesh then all well and good, get exploited by the women that can make money off that!

 

It is purely to do with the fact that he or any other man in a committed relationship should not be going to a place where they are getting tits and pussy shoved in their faces. The only naked women that they should be seeing or want to see is their partner. Forsaking all others ring any bells. I find it completely disrespectful to me, our relationship etc. And I know for sure if he gets home and as much as touches me I will be flinching away. It just makes me feel sick to my stomach.

[taiko]

My Sis was a stripper at the Diamond Cabaret in Denver and pulled in about $175,000 a year. It was a very good living. she did it for many, many years.

 

I don't know how she did it though!

Unless she has the cover of a porn video she works about 3 nights or afternoons a week. As a regular dancer she pays the club rent, the stage fee to dance there. About once an hour she will dance a 10 minute 3 song set on stage.

 

The guys at the tip rail on her part of the stage will tip $1 to $5 a song. If Denver allows it they will also stuff larger bills into her garter, g string strap etc. The pimps running the club will take about 30% of what she makes off of the stage.

 

After a short rest she will work the floor and attempt to sell herself for private dances which run about $20 to $40 for a two minute song. The club keeps half.

 

If she is lucky she finds a suit, a customer with no sex demands, as a regular. He will buuy overpriced drinks for them. Clubs make there money off those drinks and the private dances, where allowed. The suit will tip her directly

 

If she has no suit available to her she will provide more service then the basic private dance to her customers. If she has the reputation of a good dance she will remain busy all night. In some cases she will have to bribe the bouncer, floaters, and managers to let her provide service above the law or the stated club standard.

 

Sometimes if the customer is a hard core PL known to the club he will make the bribe or club management will look the other way knowing he is bringing $100s of dollars next week or tomorrow in some cases I know of.

 

If this still doesn't add up tp $175,000 then she was an outcall prostitute to some of her regular PLs on top of the club work.

[Wantingtogetitright]

which is completely off topic, regardless of what the strippers earn or don't earn etc. The question here is should married men be in strip clubs, period?

[CynicalP]

which is completely off topic, regardless of what the strippers earn or don't earn etc. The question here is should married men be in strip clubs, period?

 

No they should not. That's stepping over the line there in my opinion. The experience is too interactive and does involve physical touching, and flirting.

[CynicalP]

Unless she has the cover of a porn video she works about 3 nights or afternoons a week. As a regular dancer she pays the club rent, the stage fee to dance there. About once an hour she will dance a 10 minute 3 song set on stage.

 

If this still doesn't add up tp $175,000 then she was an outcall prostitute to some of her regular PLs on top of the club work.

 

 

I think you are not including the Lap dances that's where I think the ladies make the big tips. The stage show is the teaser and the lap dance and private rooms is where they earn their real money.

[kimberlyk]

What happens in the 'private' rooms???

[jmargel]

What happens in the 'private' rooms???

 

My brother bought me a VIP dance for my bachelor party. The dancer knew I was getting married in a week. Basically what happened was, she led me back to this room (about three times the size of a dressing room), which had a small couch and a small jukebox on the wall. She told me to lay down, she put on some music and took off her top (this is a full nude strip club). Then started playing w/ herself. Not very erotic, because it just felt kinda business like. She then took off her panties and laid on top of me. She nuzzled my neck for awhile by then the song was just about over. Got up and mentioned "tips were allowed"

 

Honestly it didn't turn me on and at that time my fiancee told me she didn't care what I didn't, she just didn't want to hear about it. Well the stripper left her red lipstick on my white collar. So I mentioned to her since she was doing laundry.

 

I guess every stripclub is different, I was at a more raunchy one, and the one dancer wanted me to stay after they closed so we could 'party'. I graciously turned her down.

 

I'm sure with the right money you can get anything you want. Though if you can't trust your guy in the strip club, then good chance you shouldn't trust him at all.

[Kwo-ne'-she]

which is completely off topic, regardless of what the strippers earn or don't earn etc. The question here is should married men be in strip clubs, period?

No. They shouldn't. It is disrespectful to their wife and the marriage.

[Erik]

You could turn it to your advantage with a bit of psychology. If you bitch and moan about it, you only enhance the value of the strippers in the eye of your husband, but if you are cool, and I mean 100% indifferent as if he was going to a toy museum or something, it could work the other way around. You H will sense that you don't consider these girls a threat to you, he will get the impression you simply don't consider them in the same league as yourself. And he will believe it if you believe it. And when he believes it, you will believe it too and it will become reality. Eventually he will become very proud that no stripper on Earth holds a candle to his wife, and you will become proud that no stripper on Earth could threaten your marriage.

 

I bet a psychologist would have a name for it. It doesn't always work, but most of the time it does.

 

I've done this kind of thing several times. I never had such problems in my marriage, and my wife was a very naughty girl.

[Kwo-ne'-she]

You could turn it to your advantage with a bit of psychology. If you bitch and moan about it, you only enhance the value of the strippers in the eye of your husband, but if you are cool, and I mean 100% indifferent as if he was going to a toy museum or something, it could work the other way around. You H will sense that you don't consider these girls a threat to you, he will get the impression you simply don't consider them in the same league as yourself. And he will believe it if you believe it. And when he believes it, you will believe it too and it will become reality. Eventually he will become very proud that no stripper on Earth holds a candle to his wife, and you will become proud that no stripper on Earth could threaten your marriage.

 

So, you are saying to make it a game? To pretend it doesn't bother us, hide our real feelings about it? Meh. I'm not into game playing. What you see is what you get. If you don't like it ~ take a hike.

[Salicious Crumb]

You could turn it to your advantage with a bit of psychology. If you bitch and moan about it, you only enhance the value of the strippers in the eye of your husband, but if you are cool, and I mean 100% indifferent as if he was going to a toy museum or something, it could work the other way around. You H will sense that you don't consider these girls a threat to you, he will get the impression you simply don't consider them in the same league as yourself. And he will believe it if you believe it. And when he believes it, you will believe it too and it will become reality. Eventually he will become very proud that no stripper on Earth holds a candle to his wife, and you will become proud that no stripper on Earth could threaten your marriage.

 

I bet a psychologist would have a name for it. It doesn't always work, but most of the time it does.

 

not in this case it won't

[Erik]

Social interactions are always games. Some play the honesty game, some pretend they don't play games, some are not aware of it. I'm not suggesting she lie to him, am I?

 

The "talk to him, show your feelings, be honest" - all that is self-evident, isn't it, nobody ever heeds it, and if it worked, we wouldn't need sites like this. I was just trying to suggest something concrete.

 

As I said, I played this "game" many times, it's fun and it does both parts good. I loved my wife more, she loved me more. Point to a loser. At one point, I even explained her how it worked, she appreciated it. It's no more a game than when the BF tells his GF: "Oh, no! Of course I feel no lust for you until you are ready, I respect you too much."

[Kwo-ne'-she]

Social interactions are always games. Some play the honesty game, some pretend they don't play games, some are not aware of it. I'm not suggesting she lie to him, am I?

I disagree. They are only "games" when players are involved. There are some people in this world who actually like to be completely upfront and honest, and respect that in others.

The "talk to him, show your feelings, be honest" - all that is self-evident, isn't it, nobody ever heeds it, and if it worked, we wouldn't need sites like this. I was just trying to suggest something concrete.

 

"nobody"? As for sites like this, yes there are those who have had trouble in love. The ones who were fortunate enough to find a good partner for life have no need to come to a site like this.

[Erik]

If you consider the question of roleplaying from a sociological perspective, there is nothing but games. There is no untainted, inner core 'Me' beneath all the masks. Some masks fit you better, you wear them more often and you tend to call them 'me' but you can't say to yourself: "Today I will show her the true me beneath the mask" It's a human thing, only animals have true selves.

 

As for honesty about emotions, I find that a very odious concept, emotion and truth are incommensurable.

[portableversion]

I went to a 'mixed' strip club (meaning for gay men and straight women) and had a blast.

 

There were two types of strippers there: the buff ones, and then the 'fairy' ones (very thin and wiry, like adolescent boys). Of course we partied with the buff ones. We sat on their lap, gave them money. I made the mistake of going up to the bar though, this buff was dancing on it, and he then shoved his cock in my face!! UGH! I gues that was 'normal'.

 

anyway, this was the kicker. I stuck i dollar bill between my tits (i was wearing a kind of low cut shirt) and i asked Buff if he take it out for me! And he did! What's even funnier is that he looked at my tits like they were the thankgiving turkey. So all of my friends did the same, and i daresay that Buff really enjoyed himself.

 

I've been to a strip club for straight guys, and IMO, the vibe at those places is a lot more negative.

[kimberlyk]

You could turn it to your advantage with a bit of psychology. If you bitch and moan about it, you only enhance the value of the strippers in the eye of your husband, but if you are cool, and I mean 100% indifferent as if he was going to a toy museum or something, it could work the other way around.

 

I bet a psychologist would have a name for it. It doesn't always work, but most of the time it does.

 

I believe that is called reverse psychology...and it's just a game. No man should every marry if he plans to put his wife in a position where she has to question his love for her...ever! ...that is just ridiculous!

 

Marriage is a partnership...not monopoly!

[rainfall]

My brother bought me a VIP dance for my bachelor party. The dancer knew I was getting married in a week. Basically what happened was, she led me back to this room (about three times the size of a dressing room), which had a small couch and a small jukebox on the wall. She told me to lay down, she put on some music and took off her top (this is a full nude strip club). Then started playing w/ herself. Not very erotic, because it just felt kinda business like. She then took off her panties and laid on top of me. She nuzzled my neck for awhile by then the song was just about over. Got up and mentioned "tips were allowed"

 

Honestly it didn't turn me on and at that time my fiancee told me she didn't care what I didn't, she just didn't want to hear about it. Well the stripper left her red lipstick on my white collar. So I mentioned to her since she was doing laundry.

 

I guess every stripclub is different, I was at a more raunchy one, and the one dancer wanted me to stay after they closed so we could 'party'. I graciously turned her down.

 

I'm sure with the right money you can get anything you want. Though if you can't trust your guy in the strip club, then good chance you shouldn't trust him at all.

 

If my man did the same thing you did there is no way in hell I should trust him. His sorry cheating shallow butt would be out the door so freakin fast. No one but me should ever be naked on top of my boyfriend nuzzling him.

How can anyone think this type of behavior is OK?

[Carbine]

*Snorts* I don't care what anyone says - Stripclubs = Cheating.

 

Why? There are a thousand reasons why but, after discussing this topic for the umpteenth time, there's only one I can really be bothered mentioning:An attached man who willingly enters a SC and participates in any of it's offerings (watching/lapdance/etc) is actively pursuing a sexual service with the intention of receiving some form of sexual gratification (can be mental, physical or both). If this is received from anyone other than his SO at the time then it is cheating and not only that, it's highly disrespectful to his SO. No doubt some will argue that a SC is not a sexual service but a form of entertainment. For crying out loud, if it's not 'sexual' then why the hell are there semi/fully naked girls participating in acts that are designed to arouse a man?? It makes no difference whether he's married or not, cheating is cheating!

 

Rainfall Number one My point is That if he is going to strip club He will be bringing his horny Butt back home

 

Every time I come across this...excuse, it makes my blood boil. I've heard it from guys, girls, from my ex, and no matter how many times it happens, I'll always roll my eyes in exasperation/disgust and ponder whether or not the person is actually for real. Serious question to everyone but guys in especially: Can you actually reason your way the above excuse and justify how it's actually healthy for the relationship/not disrespectful to your partner/not cheating?

[Topper]

So a woman reading a sexy romance novel must also be cheating? After all it might be mildly stimulating. Or going to a movie that has some nudity and or a sexy scene is also cheating. I mean it might give you some thoughts. How about a Las Vegas style show with Topless dancers is cheating. How about going to the beach? I see alot more skin at the beach then you see in some clubs.

There was a time that men could go to men's clubs places that were off limits to woman. The woman's movement put an end to that type of club. Under pressure that started allowing woman to join. I Know a great many men that go to strip clubs to simply socialise with other men. They Know that most woman would not show up in one of those clubs so they hang with the guys. The Topless dancing is a secondary thing. Guys get to hang out with other guys and just be a guy. Have a cigar a few drinks swap stories tell some dirty jokes and then go home. They have no desire to sleep with those woman in fact if they even make a to forward advance they could get their arms broken by a Bouncer.

Carbine, If you see it as cheating then thats your business. Don't try to put your sense of morality on others. You better just lock yourself in your home no HBO or TV for that matter. turn off the radio there justt might bea song with suggesive lyrics. so read the Bible Oh wait There isa lot of sex in the bible so better not go there either.