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Old 6th March 2018, 6:18 PM   #91
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------Sooo, Do we want to walk this post back any...Just sayin'. The OP has been officially c-worded... Niice.
And on top of that, the WW now admits to affairs all the way through the relationship. WOW. Yup, no feeling of empathy.

1 thing to do here....Divorce and get all wills and funding out of her hands! God only knows what you have been paying for after all these years. And ofcourse she wants to keep the relationship the same. Hilarious. She stole years and children from you. But you can still take your dignity and respect with you where ever you go from now on. She will be the antiquated someone else's sex object.

Just mind boggling!
Time to file for a divorce.

Have you yet to ask your WW how she is ok that she denied
you the opportunity to father your own children?

Ask how can she make you being a dad happen now with you
at 74?
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Old 6th March 2018, 6:22 PM   #92
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Fraud is fraud. You signed the papers under the guise of YOU being the dad... Now times that by 4. That is a case a worthy lawyer would take in any of the 50 states... Just sayin.
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Old 6th March 2018, 6:46 PM   #93
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Men need a #metoo movement. Divorce, Ali-money and Paternity rules should be updated to the 21st century.

If the bio dad or the mother knew of the paternity and willfully chose to commit fraud, the Man should be compensated. Compensation is a financial issue and has nothing to do with fatherhood.

If a man can be held in prison for failure to pay child support, why shouldn't the real father be held to the same standard, especially if he or the mother knew or should have known.

Laws can be changed.

#tomanymistakes.

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Old 6th March 2018, 7:09 PM   #94
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Fraud is fraud. You signed the papers under the guise of YOU being the dad... Now times that by 4. That is a case a worthy lawyer would take in any of the 50 states... Just sayin.
I agree! Sue her for fraud as well! Make her pay you for a lifetime of deceit!

And you will always be their father... but compensation for the deceit should be an absolute!
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Old 7th March 2018, 9:14 AM   #95
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And lets all remember this little gem...

( She said she wouldn't do it and it should be kept from them. She said she had no idea they weren't mine. )


She stated before on earlier pages, that she was true and loyal the WHOLE MARRIAGE. It was only before army boy got deployed overseas....

Welp, yet another lie. She is pathological and broken. I would be interested to see what HER life insurance policy is written too. The other man? Wouldn't be surprised this late in the game.

Do not take this golden girl to the 50 yard marker! You got what you got. But now it's her turn. Send her to the poor house. Maybe OM can take her back.
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Old 7th March 2018, 9:44 AM   #96
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Hi Rog,, I am indeed sorry for the position you have been placed in after this latest bit of sordid information has been revealed. Maybe it would have been better to let sleeping dogs lie and not carried out those paternity tests. Your so called wife has completely emasculated you your whole married life. I am also sorry that some of what I had written about your marriage has come so horribly true. As others have advised, it is still not too late for you to wrest your dignity from your treacherous wife and divorce her so that she gets knocked off the comfortable perch she has occupied for all these years and faces the reality of growing old on her own. If you are 74 years old she must be hitting 70 at least. Not much chance of her finding a knight in shining armour to save her now. She will also have to face the humiliation of her children treating her with scant respect for the way she brought them into this world and the horrible way she has treated you, their 'Father' all these years. Wish you the very best going forward.
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Old 8th March 2018, 10:44 AM   #97
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I would seek to have yourself declared to not be their dad, telling the judge that they are adults and no longer need you to parent
them, because of the paternity fraud committed against you.
Regardless of his wife's unconscionable deceit and fraud, they're still the OP's kids (and grandkids) in the truest sense of the word. He should think carefully before proceeding with any action that affects them as they're victims to the same extent he is...

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As much respect as I have...

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Regardless of his wife's unconscionable deceit and fraud, they're still the OP's kids (and grandkids) in the truest sense of the word. He should think carefully before proceeding with any action that affects them as they're victims to the same extent he is...

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As much respect as I have... for you and your writing,

Are you really serious. This man has been betrayed his entire adult life by this woman. He deserves for his children to know what kind of mother they have.

I know what some of this feels like, not the raising someone else's children, but being lied to for years and thinking you are doing the right thing, yeah, I lived that.

There is no way for this man at 74 to reclaim his life after what she has done to him, at the very least his kids should know what their mother is...
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Old 8th March 2018, 1:25 PM   #99
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As much respect as I have... for you and your writing,

Are you really serious. This man has been betrayed his entire adult life by this woman. He deserves for his children to know what kind of mother they have.

I know what some of this feels like, not the raising someone else's children, but being lied to for years and thinking you are doing the right thing, yeah, I lived that.

There is no way for this man at 74 to reclaim his life after what she has done to him, at the very least his kids should know what their mother is...
Thanks for your kind words though in this instance my writing was obviously not very clear. I was reacting to this:

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I would seek to have yourself declared to not be their dad
Of course the kids need to know what's happened, if for no other reason than the medical history and effect. This level of extended deception over decades is almost hard to fathom...

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Old 8th March 2018, 8:11 PM   #100
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Regardless of his wife's unconscionable deceit and fraud, they're still the OP's kids (and grandkids) in the truest sense of the word. He should think carefully before proceeding with any action that affects them as they're victims to the same extent he is...

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As much respect as I have... for you and your writing,

Are you really serious. This man has been betrayed his entire adult life by this woman. He deserves for his children to know what kind of mother they have.

I know what some of this feels like, not the raising someone else's children, but being lied to for years and thinking you are doing the right thing, yeah, I lived that.

There is no way for this man at 74 to reclaim his life after what she has done to him, at the very least his kids should know what their mother is...
To be legally declared not the dad is not the same as having
to abandon the kids and grandkids. His estate planning should
have no legal mandate. As well as his kids must learn the truth
about ho'ma.
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Old 8th March 2018, 8:25 PM   #101
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How are you doing roq?

Have you taken any action this week to get your future back on track?

Have you made your wife move out? Filed for divorce?
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Old 12th March 2018, 6:04 PM   #102
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To be legally declared not the dad is not the same as having to abandon the kids and grandkids. His estate planning should
have no legal mandate.
What have his kids done to deserve this ?

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As well as his kids must learn the truth
about ho'ma.
Pejoratives aside, agreed...

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Old 12th March 2018, 10:08 PM   #103
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What have his kids done to deserve this ?



Pejoratives aside, agreed...

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He is not abandoning the relationship with his kids if he does not
want to. He is taking legal precautions to protect his estate. He is
taking the courts out of his estate planning.

Once the manure hits the fan there is no telling the outcome. He
is the only person that can protect himself.
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He is not abandoning the relationship with his kids if he does not
want to. He is taking legal precautions to protect his estate. He is
taking the courts out of his estate planning.
You're not answering my question. The only reason to take "the courts out of his estate planning" would be to avoid the normal outcome of having children inherit your estate. What have his kids done to deserve that? I'd guess the news they're about to receive will be just as devastating to them as it was for him.

And unless he dies intestate, he can plan to direct his estate in any way he chooses. I have friends who have left one or more children out of their will...

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Old 13th March 2018, 10:22 AM   #105
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You're not answering my question. The only reason to take "the courts out of his estate planning" would be to avoid the normal outcome of having children inherit your estate. What have his kids done to deserve that? I'd guess the news they're about to receive will be just as devastating to them as it was for him.

And unless he dies intestate, he can plan to direct his estate in any way he chooses. I have friends who have left one or more children out of their will...

Mr. Lucky
In my state there are laws that effect inheritance. Whether there is a
will or not.

Depending on what happens after his kids find out and the further
fall out from his WW and who knows what else. He needs to get
full legal protection so that his wishes are carried out.

What he wishes he has not stated. And I have not stated what his
wishes should be. Only that he needs to plan ahead and protect his
own interests.

You seem to be getting exercise jumping to conclusions.
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