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Old 13th March 2007, 11:59 PM   #1
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Married Men in Strip Clubs

why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

This is the situation. My partner plays in a cricket team who recently won their grand final. As a celebration they are getting together as a group and having a bbq and a few drinks. All good. It now turns out that they are having the BBQ, then heading into town to a pub and then going on to a strip club. All of them are married with kids, my partner and I are not married nor have any kids, and there is one that is under age as well but they keep joking that it is his initiation! The captain of the team is also a sleaze bag from some of the things I have heard about him and it is him organising the night.

I have stated to my partner how I feel about it but he says I have nothing to worry about. I am not worried per se but the thought of him with a bunch of drunken blokes in a strip club quite frankly makes me feel quite ill. If it is just about mixing with the guys away from the game then am I wrong asking him to not go to the club but to do all the rest. I haven't asked him not to go I have just told him how I feel about it.

I can sort of understand single guys going to a strip club, hell I've even been along to one myself with a whole group of people, they were all single guys mind you. A girlfriend of mine even stripped for a while.

I don't really have a problem with strippers or strip clubs, I have a problem with married men with kids and partnered men going. I have issues with a bucks/stag night winding up at a strip club or having strippers as their last final step before marriage. Is it that much of a sacrifice that it has to be done before getting married etc.

Thoughts anyone.

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.
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Old 14th March 2007, 12:06 AM   #2
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why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.
Me neither, and I'm a man.

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Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.
I don't go to them, and I would lock my wife out of the house if I found out she was at one. I keep myself fit...at 38 I still have the flat stomach and workout daily. If I'm not good enough for her to feel the need to go to a strip club...then she can leave and go find herself a stripper.

I think it is damn disrespectful whether it be a man or woman that goes to a strip club against their partner's wishes.
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Old 14th March 2007, 12:14 AM   #3
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why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

Thoughts anyone.

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.
I don't get it either but we all have our own tastes. Every relationship is different. Some relationships have no problem with the guy going to a strip club and for some it is a problem. That is where communication needs to take place and some sort of compromise needs to happen.

I have mentioned it before on here but I have no desire to go to any strip clubs but my SO has never been to one and she has said before that if an opportunity ever came up, then she would like for us to go just to see what its like.
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I have a bad opinion of strip clubs

I don't get it either. My boyfriend would go before he met me and he said really bad things about the strippers.

I just told him you were there with them. So if they are that sleazy then you are too. They are only sleazy beacus of men like you.

He wanted to go to one and I told him fine go. I will go out to a bar and flirt with men and get very physical with them, I know you know what I mean. You would probably want to be with me and them rather than a strip club. More action or should I say "mileage" But you can't because I don't want you to go with me and see what I do.

And he told me I was insecure.

I'm not insecure and that is what he should not have said to me. I then made him quite aware of the fact that I'm hot and a great catch, any man would be lucky to be with me. I only chose the good men.

much more was said in this long conversation.

to the end, he did not go because he did not want an open relationship.

I don't know why he would want to go to a strip club when he is with his partner in life.

I don't blame the strippers, they provide sex, and entertainment for single guys. it's the guy who walks in the strip club I blame. Sleazy atmosphere and sleazy people and if you walk in you are one.

I never dated a man who found strip clubs entertaining. I would date a higher class of men with morals.

I would be upset if he went and we would probably break up because I don't want to be with a man who wants to hang around naked girls and get ti -- in your face. Very low class in my opinion.

If he still wants to go ask him if he would feel differently about you if you wanted a man's c--- in your face.
I'm sure he will say Yes, he would feel differently about you
tell him that is the same way I feel about you wanting strippers on your lap
tell him it would just change you opinion of him
 
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Salicious, you are da bomb, and a real man to boot bud. Good for you for having such a high self esteem.

OP, I would not tolerate my husband going to a strip club, ESPECIALLY if I wasn't allowed to come along. But honestly, the idea of strip clubs, with the women that are terrible single moms there all drug addicted, abused alcoholics...the thought really bothers me that anyone could support it. Of course there are exceptions to that rule, but it's the exceptions that prove that a rule exist.

If it bothers you so, you need to let your boyfriend know that it bothers you and be precise as to the extent that it does. If he tells you there's nothing to worry about, tell him there is, and that is that it bothers you that your feelings would be insignificant compared to him being with his buddies at a function that you disagree with.

There are plenty of men that would enjoy the time going to the bbq and pub and bring their girlfriends along. There are plenty of men that would excuse themselves and go home to their loved ones and show them they respect their feelings by not going to the strip club. Be as honest and as frank as you can possibly be with your beau. That's what is going to help you establish a trusting relationship with him that could last a lifetime if you work it right.
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Old 14th March 2007, 8:42 AM   #6
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Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.
I couldn't care less if it was a once in a great while thing that he was totally open about. If it was habitual or on the sly, then I'd be concerned and we'd have some heart to heart talks about what was going on.
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Old 14th March 2007, 8:44 AM   #7
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Why would married couple go to a strip club? Why would they choose to see naked men or women? why on earth are they married for? That doesn't seem appropriate and it is a breeding ground for cheating, jealousy and lack of trust.
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i don't get it either. i hate strips clubs, i have been dragged to a more than few in my life time and every single time i have gone the place reeks of a certain desperation on par only with that of degenerate gamblers waiting between races at the dog track.

i don't understand how the other men there can't see just how pathetic it is. don't get me wrong, i love the sight of naked female flesh as much as the next guy, but really how can the patrons not feel the oppressive sense of collective debasement of both the men paying for the fantasy and the women who can find no better way to make a living that to fufill that fantasy? (yes i know that many strippers make good money, but so what? I've seen what it does to them outside the clubs as well).

on the other hand, just becuase it's not for me doesn't mean i can't understand why some like it. i have lots of buddies that make a habit of frequenting those clubs. in and out of relationships they still go, to see the girls, to drink the beer, to do some business, but just basically to leave their usual world behind for a couple hours. it's nothing more than blowing off some steam for them.
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Why do I need to pay to get sexually frustrated when I can get it at home for free. -- A little humor don't take it too seriously.

I never found strip joints appealing even when I was single.
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Old 14th March 2007, 11:47 AM   #10
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i don't understand how the other men there can't see just how pathetic it is. don't get me wrong, i love the sight of naked female flesh as much as the next guy, but really how can the patrons not feel the oppressive sense of collective debasement of both the men paying for the fantasy and the women who can find no better way to make a living that to fufill that fantasy? (yes i know that many strippers make good money, but so what? I've seen what it does to them outside the clubs as well).

This is my issue with even single men attending strip clubs. I feel that these women are often exploited and I don't see a reputable man taking part in that. NOW, that said, I also don't think that a once in a blue moon trip to a strip club is a terrible thing.

For women these "shows" are much more like reviews. I've been but the "fun" of the evening was in cutting up and laughing hysterically with my girlfriends, never gave the guys a second thought!
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Why do I need to pay to get sexually frustrated when I can get it at home for free. -- A little humor don't take it too seriously.

I never found strip joints appealing even when I was single.
Funny thing is...these strippers give these men a false sense of self-esteem....they make the guy feel special...when really their only agenda is to empty their wallets.

So this makes the guy who pays for this to happen the biggest idiot on the face of the earth.
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Old 14th March 2007, 12:23 PM   #12
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I went to one once for a friend's bachelor party 15 years ago. It was weird at first, but after a couple of beers I got comfortable enough to enjoy the experience. I never went again after that. What I did find intriguing is how expertly these women could make every single guy in the place think she was really into them only. Absolutely amazing. My friend eventually got divorced and then he spent a fortune going to these places because he felt like these women really liked him.
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For women these "shows" are much more like reviews. I've been but the "fun" of the evening was in cutting up and laughing hysterically with my girlfriends, never gave the guys a second thought!
And I suppose the sucking the whip cream off their dicks is harmless fun?
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Never seen anything like that basically they do little dances and skits and the women cackle. There was no physical contact other than posing for some pics after the show. It's more like burlesque than actually being at a strip club.
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Oh fellas...... not true.

I was at one where the guys are just in socks on the bar... (I covered my drink with my hand)

Stroking themselves doing body builder poses just a pubic hair away from you.... you can touch them feel their thighs............. and...................

You have to have a license for this sort of thing in most states.... when the Male review comes to town they usually just "thong it" as they don't have a nakie lic. in most places where they book a performance.

But there are nakie places where the up close stroke happens.

Hell in one of these nakie joints John Waters was hanging out with us.....
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