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Old 6th March 2019, 6:19 PM   #271
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Do you make efforts to get noticed? That kinda sounds negative but what i mean is, its more likely (depending on guys you find interesting/compatable as well) they dont think you accept any advances. Im 24 but ive got friends up to age 38 and the diffrences aren't much other than the one whos now 38 tends to want to either stay home and drink or go out and drink and typically sticks to blind dates and online conversation, i think its a loss of confidence for him still not finding anyone and worrying hes running out of time. So for older guys id say confidence is an issue, if younger guys are your thing, it seriously matters what ur looking for for the attention you will get, if u want something serious youll have to talk a bit -either way you most likely wont be ignored- but if u just want a hook up thats really all u have to do wave smile sonething and youll have attention. But dating wise talk for bit and if hes still there hes interested in more than a cougar, i dated a woman well older than ne once i guessed she was maybe 33 or close to it, wasnt until months into the realationship she actually told me her age and asked if i was still ok with it she was 19 and half years older than me, bothered me a little at first because my moms only 16 years older than i so i was dateing someone who could have went to school with my mom or very easily been one of my friends moms but i liked her soul enough i over looked it and was happy for a while until i realized i was just a trophy for her, but that dosent mean itll always end bad, she just wasnt for me. But she was pretty overweight and looked older than me and i still showed her tons off attention and affection. So thats why i say make a move some how. She met me at her friends house and actually made fun of me , and the mutal friend didn't tell me until id had a very bad day -wich she told her about- that the woman told my friend to tell me if i wanted to smoke some bud to help calm me down to come by her house, and then the friend told me she told her that she thought i was hot.
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Old 8th March 2019, 8:40 PM   #272
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I try to be noticed. I go out (not as much these days since it's winter) and I associate with others. But I am consumed with working and traveling a lot, between jobs. The only way I get dates is through the internet, and they all turn out to be duds. People keep saying it will happen when you least suspect it. I suppose so. Just have to keep waiting. But I still feel like I am too old anymore.
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Old 8th March 2019, 9:26 PM   #273
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Originally Posted by mortensorchid View Post
I try to be noticed. I go out (not as much these days since it's winter) and I associate with others.
Have you got the hang of smiling yet? People are more likely to be attracted when we put out a warm and welcome vibe
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Old 9th March 2019, 1:33 PM   #274
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I feel the same way as the OP--and I am a senior. Way too old and have been for a long time. Greyish hair, wrinkles, and do not care to stay up late at night like I used to. Women in my age bracket are usually unattractive to me -- So many of them where I live don't care about their appearance--they dress down and with white hair, they think is trendy. It makes you look 10-20 years older. You are perceived as an old man and people cannot imagine that you once had very risky youthful adventures.

the OP may feel old inside, tired of the Chase and the tension or anxiety of dating and potential disappointments. Sorry if this sounds negative.
This situation has been written about--in the play Six Characters In Search of an Author and a novel I read.
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Old 16th March 2019, 4:58 PM   #275
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You are never too old.

Why do you need someone anyway? You don't.
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Old 25th March 2019, 10:22 AM   #276
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I absolutely agree that you are never too old... but the other part is a lie people tell themselves. It's human nature to want to be bonded to another human. And while it may be true that you don't need someone... it's not in our psyche.
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