phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Ok, so basically I have hooked up with a girl that I work with. We are very much in love but recently we discovered that our mothers are cosuins. So I guess that makes us second cousins but I am unsure. We realise that there are genetic implications when it comes to having children but would a relationship be legal and moral? Personally, I don't see a problem. Finding this out changes the way we feel about each other. And we were already in a relationship before finding out. I kinda guess the replies will vary as alot of people may find it wrong and the rest will think it's right. Surely, we should do what we want and not what we think is right?
ls3360 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Just to clarify.... you share a great grand parent, right?
whichwayisup Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 we discovered that our mothers are cosuins. So I guess that makes us second cousins but I am unsure. What are they? 1st or 2nd cousin? You and this girl are not second cousins. My 1st cousin is my Aunts kid, my 2nd cousin is my 1st cousin's kid.
tanbark813 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 What are they? 1st or 2nd cousin? You and this girl are not second cousins. My 1st cousin is my Aunts kid, my 2nd cousin is my 1st cousin's kid. Actually the OP is correct. Your 1st cousin's kid is actually your 1st cousin once removed. ls3360 is right about them sharing a great grandparent. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_cousin To the OP, I have no idea about the legalities but I would think that would be pretty weird.
Author phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 My mum's mum and her mum's mum are sisters
whichwayisup Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Whatever smartass Tanny...Eitherway these two are cousins and they need to be careful....
IpAncA Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Sure it's legal. But I think this is a decision what you both have to make. You didn't know so I wouldn't be freaking out about it but if your both ok with it and realize the whole genetic thing then go for it. I would just be careful who you tell because some people will think thats just wrong for you and her to be together.
Author phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 ...Finding this out changes the way we feel about each other. And we were already in a relationship before finding out. I meant to put 'Finding this out doesn't change the way we feel about each other'. I couldn't edit the post though
Author phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 Sure it's legal. But I think this is a decision what you both have to make. You didn't know so I wouldn't be freaking out about it but if your both ok with it and realize the whole genetic thing then go for it. I would just be careful who you tell because some people will think thats just wrong for you and her to be together. This is totally how I feel about it. It isn't like we grew up together or anything and both halves of our family don't bother - something to do with an argument. So it isn't like it is going to feel weird. We actually decided to stay together yesturday after a chat about it. I feel that it is right and so does she. We only want each other to be happy really and we will be when we are together. I think it just sounds weird
IpAncA Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 This is totally how I feel about it. It isn't like we grew up together or anything and both halves of our family don't bother - something to do with an argument. So it isn't like it is going to feel weird. We actually decided to stay together yesturday after a chat about it. I feel that it is right and so does she. We only want each other to be happy really and we will be when we are together. I think it just sounds weird But how does she feel about it?
Guest Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 aint' love grand and mysterious - enjoy life - just with the having kids thing - maybe get a sperm donor
Author phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 But how does she feel about it? We both feel the same - she wants me and I want her. And we also want what will make us happy and that is each other.
IpAncA Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Well then there's your answer. Just don't go around telling everyone that she's your cousin unless you want to.
Author phat_mike Posted January 5, 2007 Author Posted January 5, 2007 What are they? 1st or 2nd cousin? You and this girl are not second cousins. My 1st cousin is my Aunts kid, my 2nd cousin is my 1st cousin's kid. Could somebody confirm this If our grandparents are siblings we are second cousins and have the same great grandparents [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_cousin] My mums mum and her mums mum are sisters making us second cousins right?
tanbark813 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 My mums mum and her mums mum are sisters making us second cousins right? Yes, that's right.
IpAncA Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 Could somebody confirm this If our grandparents are siblings we are second cousins and have the same great grandparents [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_cousin] My mums mum and her mums mum are sisters making us second cousins right? I thought it went first cousins were your aunt/uncles kids and then second cousins were the first cousins kids. Because my first cousin is my aunt/uncle's son. Maybe I'm wrong but thats what I thought. And actually I take that whole legal thing back becasue in somes states you can't now I looked it up more. But thats only if you were to marry.
tanbark813 Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I thought it went first cousins were your aunt/uncles kids and then second cousins were the first cousins kids. Your first cousin's kid is your first cousin once removed.
Author phat_mike Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 And actually I take that whole legal thing back becasue in somes states you can't now I looked it up more. But thats only if you were to marry. We are from the UK
Island Girl Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 This might help: http://www.sonic.net/~fredd/cousins.html It illustrates this pretty well. There are also links relating to the legalities of marriage, etc.
Author phat_mike Posted January 6, 2007 Author Posted January 6, 2007 This might help: http://www.sonic.net/~fredd/cousins.html It illustrates this pretty well. There are also links relating to the legalities of marriage, etc. That is really helpful thanks. Anybody have any idea as regards to the law and getting married in the UK. I'm only 18 and she is 21 so it is very early days yet, but I guess it's best to know these things
IpAncA Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 Your first cousin's kid is your first cousin once removed. You know what I'm so confused now. :laugh: Now if you go by that link posted it shows what I was talking about.
tanbark813 Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 You know what I'm so confused now. :laugh: Now if you go by that link posted it shows what I was talking about. Look at the chart in the wikipedia link I posted. It's pretty clear.
Island Girl Posted January 6, 2007 Posted January 6, 2007 You can look up the applicable statutes in the UK online. It shouldn't be too difficult to find out.
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