Im back to dating again and having issues already, what should I do?

[Lamron300]

On 7/29/2026 at 4:06 AM, basil67 said:

I'm afraid I have nothing else to offer.   I think you're experiencing a lot of bitterness and cynicism in dating.  Either one of these will make you a bad candidate for dating, but having both means that you're not at all set up for success.

Yes, I definitely am and if people had similar experiences to me, they would feel the same way about dating/relationships. 

[ExpatInItaly]

That's your cue to take time off dating. 

It won't go well until you're in a better place mentally. 

[flitzanu]

3 hours ago, Lamron300 said:

Yes, I definitely am and if people had similar experiences to me, they would feel the same way about dating/relationships. 

all of us have similar experiences to you in dating.

that's why we're here.

 

[Lamron300]

3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

That's your cue to take time off dating. 

It won't go well until you're in a better place mentally. 

That’s how it always is till it goes right. Time on, time off. I don’t need time off, I need to filter my criteria better. Even from a first date, why did I ask that person on a date? Did I feel good vibes, reciprocal flirting? Etc.

In my time, I’ve noted the worst dates are with people who either want to leave the city or are new to the city ‘looking to meet new people in town’. Without interviewing someone, I need to get to the bottom of what they’re looking for.

My previous relationship spiraled out of control very gradually, then at rapid pace. We wanted one thing the same, but different ways of getting there, which would never work. I was also naive about the age difference. You learn stuff but I would have preferred to learn without becoming jaded. Maybe it’s just dating apps I’m tired of. 

 

[Lamron300]

56 minutes ago, flitzanu said:

all of us have similar experiences to you in dating.

Onlinedating course

 

that's why we're here.

 

Really? Have you been ghosted out of nowhere in a 6 month relationship? Blamed for a miscarriage? Used multiple times and lied to. 

[ExpatInItaly]

57 minutes ago, Lamron300 said:

My previous relationship spiraled out of control very gradually, then at rapid pace

To be fair, there were multiple red flags waving for a while. You stuck around in that chaos far too long