I'm becoming the other woman- I know I'm going to get hurt

[Theeisor]

11 hours ago, Allupinnit said:

@Amitheotherwoman - I hope you are doing ok.

I suspect the temptation and loneliness might have won out here, I hope we are wrong.  I fear for you, going down this isolating path, as you probably now find yourself with one less place to talk about it for fear of judgement. 😕  

Such is the nature of affairs.

This is very nice of you to say this to her.  [ ] 
 

@Amitheotherwoman stay strong. Although in the long run it’s always for the best to stay away, it’s not always simple. Good luck. 

Edited August 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Bubble_20]

On 7/25/2022 at 11:12 PM, Amitheotherwoman said:

I did think maybe if we met up once & got it out our systems it may be enough but I think that’s naive tbh. 

Affair sex can be mind blowing and addictive. And I’m not saying that to glamorise or encourage you to do it! 
It won’t be just one time. That’s where the problem and danger lies. Because generally for the OW sexual intimacy will spark deeper feelings for MM and then you’re really emotionally screwed up!

Exit now and save yourself the heartache. 

[Amitheotherwoman]

On 8/1/2022 at 4:42 PM, Allupinnit said:

Yay!  I am so happy to hear this!   

He cancelled on me last minute. Gosh that stings!

[Allupinnit]

3 hours ago, Amitheotherwoman said:

He cancelled on me last minute. Gosh that stings!

Aw - I'm so sorry.  I know dating is brutal.

[Dale F]

Affairs come at a price. We all pay to play

[Will am I]

10 hours ago, Amitheotherwoman said:

He cancelled on me last minute. Gosh that stings!

That’s a guy you don’t need.

 

On to the right one! 

[Myabee]

On 8/2/2022 at 3:57 PM, Amitheotherwoman said:

He cancelled on me last minute. Gosh that stings!

Do yourself a big favor and walk away from this. Affairs are not worth it. Most of this not reality just fantasy. He is married and 9 times out of 10 they don't leave! Why put yourself through this kind of suffering? Just someone who had been there is all. 

[Vivalavi]

On 7/24/2022 at 1:35 PM, BaileyB said:

If you can, read this post. This is a married woman, who had a dysfunctional childhood and find herself in an abusive marriage. She is so desperately lonely and so in need of intimacy and validation that she finds herself begging her affair partner to continue after he tries to end it.  In turn, this simply lowers the bar of what he offers/she will accept…

They end up in a codependent relationship in which they are both using each other to meet entirely different needs.
 

So strange to read about myself like that. And very much true. 😶 

[Vivalavi]

On 8/2/2022 at 9:41 PM, Dale F said:

Affairs come at a price. We all pay to play

Isn't that a sad true??!  It isn't worth the price you pay.

[stillafool]

On 8/2/2022 at 3:57 PM, Amitheotherwoman said:

He cancelled on me last minute. Gosh that stings!

Sorry, but what do you expect?  He's married.

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

Sorry, but what do you expect?  He's married.

I think she may have meant the new guy she was talking to, not the MM. 

OP, if you're still reading, can you clarify? 

[stillafool]

 

35 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I think she may have meant the new guy she was talking to, not the MM. 

OP, if you're still reading, can you clarify? 

Oh I see and I hope so.

[Amitheotherwoman]

On 8/7/2022 at 7:57 PM, ExpatInItaly said:

I think she may have meant the new guy she was talking to, not the MM. 

OP, if you're still reading, can you clarify? 

Yes it was the new guy, he cancelled & vanished. It was a very bad week! 

[Will am I]

Hang in there. There will be good weeks!

[Amitheotherwoman]

Hope so x

[NuevoYorko]

Do you have anything good to look forward to - not necessarily having anything at all to do with men / dating?  If you don't, I suggest trying to plan something. That can really help.  

[Confused8647]

@Amitheotherwoman having read this thread in detail, as you have seen no one here has advocated you doing anything else with this MM. Having been a MM and had an EA and PA with a work colleague, who I was in love with, I will tell you the same as everyone else, please do not see him again, or reply to him if he contacts you which he will. The pain of being in any kind of A when it ends, which it will is not worth it. I am also in London and as everyone says he is not worth it if he could do what I did, late night messages, sexting, the meeting up. I feel guilt beyond measure but also have so many other emotions that I don’t even know how to rationalise. You will find someone who will want you for being you, you seem to have a good life, with friends and family, and have already planned other dates. It will happen for you just not with this man!!