hotpotato Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 I don't think some people realize how hard it is for some people to meet others to date. Finding someone you like, who happens to be single and wants the same type of relationship you do, and also happens to like you back can be hard for a lot of people. If you're the nerdy introverted type who'd rather sit on the couch and play video game then go out to "da club" with your homedogs, then it's harder to meet people to date because you're not the type who goes out much. Why would I want to go to a bar and try to pickup girls and get rejected in favor of tall buff dudes, when I can have way more fun playing League of Legends in the comfort of my own home? I don't care what anybody says, rejection hurts. (especially when it's in favor of tall buff dudes) And let's just say you're in school and you're in a classroom of 25 people. Well chances are, there may only be 1 or 2 girls in that class whom you're attracted to. If you were to strike up a conversation with them, chances are low that they happen to be single and are attracted to you enough to want to go on a date with you. There's always the option of online dating, but online dating is a destroyer of confidence for many average men who don't resemble a greek god. Unlike decently attractive women who can virtually match with every single guy who are ready to have sex at moments notice, most guys will have to swipe right again and again and again and again and again and again -gasp- and STILL only get anywhere from 20-50 matches assuming he's swiping right to every girl. And let's just say he messages 20 of these girls, only which half of them respond, and then another half ghost him mid conversation. He asks the remaining 5 girls out on a date, which only 2 of them actually show up to the date. The other 3 flake. Online dating is a crap hole for men unless you're in the top 10% of male attractiveness. Especially as you get older and people start getting married off. You think being single at 30 is bad? Trying being a 30 year old dateless virgin who's options are single moms or those looking to settle down. No hating on single moms or those looking to get married, but most people who are starting out in the dating world arne't looking to get married to the first person they see naked. Only one or two??? You must have very stringent standards. Most women are at least decent looking, and I dont usually see unattractive young women. This is coming from a straight woman! Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 5, 2017 Author Share Posted November 5, 2017 (edited) Only one or two??? You must have very stringent standards. Most women are at least decent looking, and I dont usually see unattractive young women. This is coming from a straight woman! Well you're definitely wrong on that one. Not all 18-25 year old girls are hot. In fact, I only find anywhere from 20-35% of girls my age attractive. In one of my classes which has around 25 people, I would say there's 4 girls in that class that I think are cute and would date. Two of them are single. The problem is that I made the mistake of choosing to sit by and talk to a girl who has a boyfriend. So let's just say there are 12 girls in that class. That means i'm attracted to 1/3rd of the girls there. Edited November 5, 2017 by GuitarGuy7 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Well you're definitely wrong on that one. Not all 18-25 year old girls are hot. In fact, I only find anywhere from 20-35% of girls my age attractive. In one of my classes which has around 25 people, I would say there's 4 girls in that class that I think are cute and would date. Two of them are single. The problem is that I made the mistake of choosing to sit by and talk to a girl who has a boyfriend. So let's just say there are 12 girls in that class. That means i'm attracted to 1/3rd of the girls there. Many men would disagree! This is something that distinguishes you from a lot of men. Many men are perfectly happy to date a woman who is attractive even though shes not a beauty queen. I wish i could,see these unattractive college coeds youre around! Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 There are plenty of dull or unattractive women in that age bracket, but the number of good looking ones is way higher than 25 percent. If OP thinks this to be true, he's going to hate his life in 10 years when these women are going to start showing their age. Do you watch porn on a regular basis, OP? That's going to skew your perception of the women around you over time, whether you're conscious of it or not. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Only one or two??? You must have very stringent standards. Most women are at least decent looking, and I dont usually see unattractive young women. This is coming from a straight woman! There's a difference between recognizing objective beauty and feeling attracted to someone, but of course I learned that from women 2 Link to post Share on other sites
warp123 Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 Do you watch porn on a regular basis, OP? That's going to skew your perception of the women around you over time, whether you're conscious of it or not. Hahaha this is actually true. I have a friend that is 30yo and only had sex with two women. The second was hot, pole dancer and thinks like that, but she was with him probably because of convenience. He follows a lot of fitness models on instagram and doesnt care much about every normal cute girl that approaches him, i guess he thinks he will be with models from now on... I cannot understand some people Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted November 5, 2017 Author Share Posted November 5, 2017 I realize there's a lot of beautiful women out there, and in my age bracket it's more than 25% of women. But you have to realize there's a difference between someone being hot, and someone you find hot. They're not always the same. Some guys like tall athletic blondes. Others like petite brunettes. We all have a physical type we tend to be attracted to. When I mean I find 25-33% of women my age attractive, it means they are my physical ideal. I like short girls with cute faces. For me, that's what I am naturally attracted to simply because i'm a short guy myself. However, if I were to meet a girl who wasn't my physical ideal but I fell in love with her confidence and personality, then it can override this. As long as she isn't physically repulsive to me. It really all depends on the demographics as well. Where i'm from, many of the women are heavy and don't take care of themselves. You're making assumptions that i'm only attracted to models when that's definitely not true. In fact, I probably woudn't even find the majority of them attractive since a lot of them are tall and skinny. I don't like that. Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted November 5, 2017 Share Posted November 5, 2017 I realize there's a lot of beautiful women out there, and in my age bracket it's more than 25% of women. But you have to realize there's a difference between someone being hot, and someone you find hot. They're not always the same. Some guys like tall athletic blondes. Others like petite brunettes. We all have a physical type we tend to be attracted to. When I mean I find 25-33% of women my age attractive, it means they are my physical ideal. I like short girls with cute faces. For me, that's what I am naturally attracted to simply because i'm a short guy myself. However, if I were to meet a girl who wasn't my physical ideal but I fell in love with her confidence and personality, then it can override this. As long as she isn't physically repulsive to me. It really all depends on the demographics as well. Where i'm from, many of the women are heavy and don't take care of themselves. You're making assumptions that i'm only attracted to models when that's definitely not true. In fact, I probably woudn't even find the majority of them attractive since a lot of them are tall and skinny. I don't like that. Being attracted to a personality is amazing thing but also a curse because you wont ever find that personality again, whereas you might well find 5.2 cute face. Link to post Share on other sites
TheTraveler Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 You sound like a picky dude who hasn't dated much and have your own flaws, for example, being short and possibly others uninteresting traits 3 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 Being attracted to a personality is amazing thing but also a curse because you wont ever find that personality again, whereas you might well find 5.2 cute face. There is more than one good personality out there 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 There is more than one good personality out there "Good" I wasn't referring to good but if you like someone for their own unique personality you simply wont find that self same personality again. I think its far easier to find physical attraction then it is to find a personality you really like. In theory its the personality a person should like most I believe doing so could be fundamentally flawed but its not like you can go and find the same person again. Whereas physical attraction is easier to find. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 For me Physical Attraction is more easy to scope out. Personality wise. Its harder to match people. I would not even match my parents, if I knew them seperetly. Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 Being attracted to a personality is amazing thing but also a curse because you wont ever find that personality again, whereas you might well find 5.2 cute face. That makes absolutely no sense at all. Faces are just as unique as personalities. No two people look alike nor do any two people have the same personality. The only reason you think it's easier to find a pretty face is because you're not meeting enough women. You can stare at women walking down the street or swipe profiles all day long, but actually getting to know their personality requires meeting them... Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 That makes absolutely no sense at all. Faces are just as unique as personalities. No two people look alike nor do any two people have the same personality. The only reason you think it's easier to find a pretty face is because you're not meeting enough women. You can stare at women walking down the street or swipe profiles all day long, but actually getting to know their personality requires meeting them... In terms of meeting people yes I agree with you but when you meet people you might actually find that many of essentially the same. I'd wager in the OP age group of 19-22 most of those girls will have similar interests be influenced by similar media, behave in similar ways and mostly just be largely the same. I believe you can tell within 30 minutes if you like someone or not and by that I must mention it cuts both ways, you have that 30 min window to impress or do whatever to captivate the other person. I hate personally hate this but its simply how the world seems to work. As others have said the OP has a considerable advantage being around a lot of people, in that sense its easy to meet people but in my view he needs to make himself stand out somehow, offer up something different perhaps but not too different to be shunned as being non conformist. What is very hard is when you need to actually go out and find people, I'd wager this is the primary reason why guys who hit 30+ with no experience wont ever get any because it just becomes harder and harder to meet people, the 20 something they want don't relate to them and the 30 something's they aren't interested in. OP, my suggestion to you is to speak to anyone you want to, even the most random thing can help, try this, its awkward but you might find some confidence in being able to do it and others might see that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 "Good" I wasn't referring to good but if you like someone for their own unique personality you simply wont find that self same personality again. I think its far easier to find physical attraction then it is to find a personality you really like. In theory its the personality a person should like most I believe doing so could be fundamentally flawed but its not like you can go and find the same person again. Whereas physical attraction is easier to find. No, you will never find that unique personality again. But you will find another unique and terrific personality. Physical attraction does little for me. It's all about the cerebral here. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Basil. We all need that Physical Attraction. If its not there. Nothing can happen. All the Cerebral does is make it last longer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 Basil. We all need that Physical Attraction. If its not there. Nothing can happen. All the Cerebral does is make it last longer. Sorry I wasn't clear. For me, cerebral attraction creates physical attraction. How you look has nothing to do with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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