Why Does She Act Like This?

[rkc2]

Should also note that she included the ? after the "oh yeah?"

[d0nnivain]

Looks around desk for virtual 2x4 to virtually hit rkc2 upside the head with.

 

 

Duh . . . the emoticon was redundant. It just drove home the fact that SHE LIKES YOU. Now do something about it.

[ExpatInItaly]

Alright I sent "You". She responded super quickly like she normally does with "oh yeah?"

 

Don't really know where to go from here

 

Ask her out, on a proper date.

 

For heaven's sake, man. You need to stop cloaking your fear of rejection in humour and sarcasm and show a little more confidence. This girl is waiting for you to make a move and you're dropping the ball.

[rkc2]

Ask her out, on a proper date.

 

For heaven's sake, man. You need to stop cloaking your fear of rejection in humour and sarcasm and show a little more confidence. This girl is waiting for you to make a move and you're dropping the ball.

 

How am I doing that? Because I won't admit that I have a huge interest in her like she has in me? It takes me a while to like a girl. You can't deny that both of us enjoy the joking, touching, butt touching, drinking sharing, Chapstick sharing and all of the other sexual innuendos as well.

[rkc2]

Respond with

 

 

Do you think you will fit under my tree?

 

 

 

Now stop with LS & concentrate on her. Call her & go shopping or catch a movie.

 

Okay she replied with "For sure. I'll be there with a little bow on my head."

 

How the hell am I suppose to respond to that?

[ExpatInItaly]

How am I doing that? Because I won't admit that I have a huge interest in her like she has in me? It takes me a while to like a girl. You can't deny that both of us enjoy the joking, touching, butt touching, drinking sharing, Chapstick sharing and all of the other sexual innuendos as well.

 

Because you are tying too hard to play hard to get, and you have yet to actually take this girl out.

[d0nnivain]

Okay she replied with "For sure. I'll be there with a little bow on my head."

 

How the hell am I suppose to respond to that?

 

Great! Can't wait.

 

Now ask the girl to do something . . .anything. . . not sexual with you. Try Do you want to go Christmas shopping with me on ______ [insert a day]? When you get to the Mall if the line isn't too long get your picture taken with Santa & give it to her.

 

You are overthinking this. Just spend time with her.

[rkc2]

So she texted me today and this is how the convo went.

 

Her: so um were you serious about me being under your tree?

Me: why does it matter?

Her: Because I want to know

Me: It was meant to be a joke. It doesn’t have to be though.

Her: Well I don’t want it to be a joke

[ExpatInItaly]

So she texted me today and this is how the convo went.

 

Her: so um were you serious about me being under your tree?

Me: why does it matter?

Her: Because I want to know

Me: It was meant to be a joke. It doesn’t have to be though.

Her: Well I don’t want it to be a joke

 

Good grief, man.

 

If you're trying to drive this girl away, you're going to succeed. Why do you ask for input if you're just going to turn around and say bone-headed things like the above?

 

 

I'm out. Good luck!

[rkc2]

I’m not intentionally trying to do it. The truth is that she has a history of leading guys on so when they actually make a move she turns them down. How that works when she has multiple times maybe like 5 told me that she’s into me and wants to be more than friends when I on the other hand have told her that I just want to be friends I’m not sure.

 

I don’t know how she would justify making those comments multiple times only to have me make a move and then turn me down. I was gonna type more but I’m limited on time right now.

[d0nnivain]

STOP TEXTING HER!!!!!

 

 

Spend some time with her. What you do doesn't matter just spend time with her. Hence I suggested Christmas shopping . . . very low key, easy to pass off as a non-date; equally easy to ratchet up especially if you can find some mistletoe

[rkc2]

We have hung out multiple times. One time I took her to a party once where she followed me upstairs when I had to go to the bathroom, asked me to escort her to the bathroom later in the night. I told her I would and would wait outside while she goes. After we left and she was in my car, she looked in the back seat and appeared upset that I had all kinds of stuff back there and there was no room. We then hung out in my car for the next 5-6 hours and just talked.

[d0nnivain]

But what have you done for her lately? This girl is doing everything possible to get your attention. Why are you making her work so hard? You are going to push her away.

[snowboy91]

I’m not intentionally trying to do it. The truth is that she has a history of leading guys on so when they actually make a move she turns them down. How that works when she has multiple times maybe like 5 told me that she’s into me and wants to be more than friends when I on the other hand have told her that I just want to be friends I’m not sure.

 

If you like her, ask her out. If she turns you down you are more than entitled to ask "what gives?" given the way she's throwing herself at you. If a friendship is all you want then be clear about it. What you're doing is giving her false hope with some of the banter you two share.

[rkc2]

I have told her multiple times that I just want to be friends. I think she’s starting to get the hint but I can still tell that she digs me. She knows that I’m a very decisive person so why she has made every attempt to get me to like her back. I have no idea.

 

The truth is that there is some attraction on my part. If there wasn’t, I wouldn’t be here typing this. Part of me just feels like I’m too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought. We work side by side and it just makes things that more complicated.

[rkc2]

Just asked her

 

Me: what are you doing on Sunday?

Her: probably nothing why

Me: wanna go to the game?

Her: just us?

[rkc2]

So I said yes and she said first tell me if you were really kidding about the tree thing.

[rkc2]

So we hung out last friday night and went to a game. I asked her to drive so she picked me up at my place. I have a big vehicle so its difficult parking in the city. Anyway things went really good. When we got back to my place, she pulled into a parking space. It appeared like she wanted to at least talk for a little bit. I told her thanks for driving and that I should really get going. I got out and went inside.

 

 

This is our most recent text convo.

 

Me: So do you still wanna be under my tree?

Her: Do you still want me under it?

Me: I asked you 1st

Her: Yeah mhm you did. So tell me first too

Me: Yeah

Her: Yes I do

Me: You're tiny so no problem fitting down the chimney

Her: So who do you live?

Me: Why do you wanna know I live with?

Her: Just wondering if you live on your own. I have a couple questions because I want to move out is all. Plus I was curious if you have any siblings.

 

Why is she so curious about my living situation?

[mortensorchid]

I think she likes you. Ask her out. You like her too I think.

[mischalove]

DUDE! Grow up. I dated so many guys like you in my 20's. The way you're behaving is selfish and downright mean. You are telling her you want to be friends than behaving otherwise. You are leading her on. Either date her or let her go so she can start moving on. If it's because you are afraid of rejection get over it and grow some balls. You are constantly giving her mixed messages and to be frank you sound proud of it.

[Sara1989]

DUDE! Grow up. I dated so many guys like you in my 20's. The way you're behaving is selfish and downright mean. You are telling her you want to be friends than behaving otherwise. You are leading her on. Either date her or let her go so she can start moving on. If it's because you are afraid of rejection get over it and grow some balls. You are constantly giving her mixed messages and to be frank you sound proud of it.

 

He has rejected this poor girl MUTIPLE TIMES. Yet is still leading her on, he gets a total thrill that this young girl is so into him.

 

If that was my sister I be shaking her and telling her to stay away from this guy.

 

OP, stop leading this girl on. You do not want to be with her. She has tried to pin you down multiple times, she must have low self esteem as after the first rejection any other girl would have nexted you.

 

You should be looking into why you are getting such a kick out of leading this girl on? what are you missing in your life that you are getting pleasure in this. Strange man.

[rkc2]

Maybe I’m just inexperienced. I’m trying my best I guess. Am I leading her on because I’m not making a move on her?

[Sara1989]

Maybe I’m just inexperienced. I’m trying my best I guess. Am I leading her on because I’m not making a move on her?

 

You have constantly rejected her yet you are leading her on by giving her hope there could be more, you know this yet keep doing it. You also said this

 

"Part of me just feels like I’m too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought."

 

If she knew you felt this way, she would be very hurt and really it is a nasty way to think, you are no better than anyone else.

 

If you are decent, you would keep away from this girl. Like I said, look into why you are getting a thrill out of leading this younger girl on. How would you feel if a woman you really liked was leading you on?

[olivetree]

The way you act creates distance between you two.

You're making her take the lead and chase you.

Come on, that's not very manly and really off-putting.

 

Take a risk and put yourself out there or end it if you're not really into her.

[rkc2]

You have constantly rejected her yet you are leading her on by giving her hope there could be more, you know this yet keep doing it. You also said this

 

"Part of me just feels like I’m too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought."

 

If she knew you felt this way, she would be very hurt and really it is a nasty way to think, you are no better than anyone else.

 

If you are decent, you would keep away from this girl. Like I said, look into why you are getting a thrill out of leading this younger girl on. How would you feel if a woman you really liked was leading you on?

 

Isn’t it possible that she is just doing this all for the attention? I mean why else wouldn’t she have given up by now. She also keeps pestering me to know if I live alone.