VeveCakes Posted March 9, 2017 Share Posted March 9, 2017 I don't live at home I OWN the home. I rent out a spare room. Why would that effect my long term potential? Link to post Share on other sites
hamsterhouse Posted March 10, 2017 Share Posted March 10, 2017 You know what? This happened to me a couple of weeks ago as well. I matched with a girl and we talked for a couple of days in-app. She seemed totally legitimate and I wasn't suspicious of anything. Eventually she asked, "What's your last name," then proceeded to say something like "I want to give you my number so I can stop using this app and I want to make sure you aren't committing identify fraud." I found it strange but not suspicious, and I shared this with a couple of friends who agreed. So, I sent her a link to my Facebook profile to which she responded, "well, you seem to be a real person" and gave me her number. We texted for a few days and it was very engaging. I know her job, where she went to school, certain events she was up to that weekend, etc. Also, within this time I also found her on Facebook and can confirm that she was a real person. She texted me a few "check-ins," asking me how my day was, etc. We agreed to meet for coffee a few days later and she seemed excited to meet me, but a couple of days beforehand we didn't speak, and the next day I texted her saying "See you tomorrow!" She responded, "actually, I don't think I'd like to do that anymore." I said a polite farewell and haven't heard from her since. I think sometimes you might have to worry about catfishing, but there comes a point where you know enough details about the person that it allows you to make an educated guess. Sometimes people are just overly cautious, and I can't blame them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SevenCity Posted March 10, 2017 Author Share Posted March 10, 2017 I don't live at home I OWN the home. I rent out a spare room. Why would that effect my long term potential? I know you own the home. My example was how it WOULD NOT matter to a guy short term. Let me provide an example: Initial Interaction Girl: "I live with 3 roommates" Guy: She's hot. I don't care if she lived on the street Initial Interaction: Guy: "I live with 3 roommates" Girl: Although he's attractive, I don't know if he is responsible enough at his age. Shouldn't he have a place of his own? How come he never invested in a house? Is he irresponsible? Where are we going to hang out when we are not going out? Do I have to worry about roommates walking in when we are having sex? Is he broke? How can we afford to have children? Long term: Girl: "I live with 3 roommates" Guy: I wonder if she makes a lot less money than I do. If we were to get married and divorced she would take me to the cleaners. Point is, women often look for stability / security with a guy. Men do not start out thinking that - for the most part we don't care. Men are visual creatures and we are more concerned about looks / attraction than a girl's finances. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 10, 2017 Share Posted March 10, 2017 I lost track. Did you meet her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SevenCity Posted March 12, 2017 Author Share Posted March 12, 2017 I lost track. Did you meet her? No, she unmatched me after I didn't give my last name. Link to post Share on other sites
Dis Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 I can see both sides The way she asked and the context of the convo was fishy I could see if she asked your last name and offered to share her own...that would be fine But I think I remember you asked her a question and she followed it up with asking you for your last name out of the blue....I dont like that As long as a woman is communicating in a respectful, open manner then I think asking for a last name is fine This woman just didnt seem right Link to post Share on other sites
Dark Horse Posted March 12, 2017 Share Posted March 12, 2017 Tell em your last name is Trump. Link to post Share on other sites
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