Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 And many people who carry out real life affairs are also lying to their SO, smiling in their face and treating them with "consideration"...in other words, they're capable of living a double life. Does that mean it's ok that they cheat then? I'm pretty sure most people with common sense wouldn't count cheating as being considerate. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 (edited) Not talking about looking and even collecting if that's his/her thing.. But actually liking a stranger's pic? A woman he doesn't know? Read my previous post 72 about real life, what if she likes his photo back? Now he is really curious and sends a message. Then she sends one back. And thus the impropriety begins....... what is his intention for liking her pic and her seeing that he liked her pic? Why not just look and admire ? Why is that not enough? He is in a committed relationship for heaven's sake. Asking for trouble IMO. But that would happen if this guy was a regular at a coffee shop and started talking to one of the regulars there who was a female and they hit it off. Or a female colleague. If people are open to cheating, they will cheat. In my view, in real life it's easier than via online because the person is just there, right in front of you. edit: in the original posts, the OP commented on 'following' women on social media. Not messaging. Edited May 30, 2016 by Emilia Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 ^ Ofc Idk if he is also messaging those women. But I do find it odd that almost every day he adds at least 1 new woman to his list of people he is following. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 ^ Ofc Idk if he is also messaging those women. But I do find it odd that almost every day he adds at least 1 new woman to his list of people he is following. Yeah it does sound too much. If I wasn't sure whether he was messaging and I couldn't have a conversation with him, I would have serious problems with the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 Sometimes I add lots of accounts to follow. E.g. I can add during one day 5 cute guys with puppies accounts. But still most of the accounts I follow are something totally different e.g. fashion, memes, architecture and so on. This guy has only like couple of other accounts and rest are ladies which he keeps adding more and more. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 So you both add opposite sex accounts, it's just that in your opinion his are more sex oriented than yours? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 Maybe I should have been more specific. When I was in relationship I never added accounts like those. Also I dont add local dudes. They are more like general accounts. Like I mentioned guys with puppies. I dont know if there really is difference adding regular good looking folks or these random guys accounts. I wouldnt add any eye candy if I was with someone. And after I added him I havent added anything like that. I see those accounts in my feed occasionally because I follow over 1000 accounts and of those maybe 20 are opposite sex eye candy accounts. But this guy follows like 1000 ladies and maybe 20 other accounts e.g. his friends. So I guess it is the amount that bothers me. Like I have no problem at someone watching porn. But it is problem if they do nothing else and e.g. dont wanna have regular sex with me because of porn. Get my drift? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Many of those instagram "models" are prostitutes And many of those girls online may not be prostitutes per se, and have jobs/school/etc. going on for them, but they "trick" men for money, rides, stuff - whatever they can get out of them, even if it's $10. Kinda like the whole "sugar baby" thing, but they have a lot of guys they hook and don't spend as much effort/time into hooking them besides posting up endless pics and probably sending them a sorry message here and there to keep them interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 (edited) Maybe I should have been more specific. When I was in relationship I never added accounts like those. Also I dont add local dudes. They are more like general accounts. Like I mentioned guys with puppies. I dont know if there really is difference adding regular good looking folks or these random guys accounts. I wouldnt add any eye candy if I was with someone. And after I added him I havent added anything like that. I see those accounts in my feed occasionally because I follow over 1000 accounts and of those maybe 20 are opposite sex eye candy accounts. But this guy follows like 1000 ladies and maybe 20 other accounts e.g. his friends. So I guess it is the amount that bothers me. Like I have no problem at someone watching porn. But it is problem if they do nothing else and e.g. dont wanna have regular sex with me because of porn. Get my drift? Not really. I don't see the difference between following 20 eye-candy accounts and 1,000. You either do this sort of thing or you don't. Some could say following 20 is worse because you pay more attention to individual ones. Would it be better if he followed 5? You would be unhappy that he spent too much time on the same women's accounts? I think you are bad as each other. Edited May 30, 2016 by Emilia Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 ^ Oddly that actually made me feel much better. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 ^ Oddly that actually made me feel much better. If he followed 5 women regularly, being very selective which ones he picked would make you feel better than if he picked a random 1,000? He would MUCH more likely to be messaging at least one of those 5 than any of the 1,000. Or at least would know much more about them potentially. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 ^I mean the part where you said we are both as bad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lorenza Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 Bf follows a lot of fitness models accounts - like 70% of them female and 30% male. He's into fitness so I don't mind, those women kinda inspired me to start working out too and now I'm hitting the gym regularly, seeing results and not feeling jealous at all Then there are some regular models and actresses, some girls from real life, but those girls got nothing on me - they're pictures and I'm flesh and bones haha. So lets say out of the 400 he follows, 70% are women, so what. If it was 70% out of a 1000 its even less significant - you get desensitized to those pictures and scroll through with no emotion. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 (edited) Bf follows a lot of fitness models accounts - like 70% of them female and 30% male. He's into fitness so I don't mind, those women kinda inspired me to start working out too and now I'm hitting the gym regularly, seeing results and not feeling jealous at all Then there are some regular models and actresses, some girls from real life, but those girls got nothing on me - they're pictures and I'm flesh and bones haha. So lets say out of the 400 he follows, 70% are women, so what. If it was 70% out of a 1000 its even less significant - you get desensitized to those pictures and scroll through with no emotion. Wow you have done a complete 180 from all your earlier threads about this guy. If you are happy Lorenza, then that is ALL that matters!! I am happy for ya, and hope it continues to work out! Edited June 1, 2016 by katiegrl Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted June 5, 2016 Author Share Posted June 5, 2016 Allright small update on this. So this guy continued adding all kinds of lady accounts to his ig. But I finally lost my nerve when he added some kind of porn account. I told him that I cannot take him seriously because of that. He then asked me why I am being so insecure and he wants to be only with me and is not doing anything with anyone and he is totally different from the guys I have dated. Well yeah that is true since all the guys I have been in serious relationship never followed any ass accounts. So I guess he really is different. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 Allright small update on this. So this guy continued adding all kinds of lady accounts to his ig. But I finally lost my nerve when he added some kind of porn account. I told him that I cannot take him seriously because of that. He then asked me why I am being so insecure and he wants to be only with me and is not doing anything with anyone and he is totally different from the guys I have dated. Well yeah that is true since all the guys I have been in serious relationship never followed any ass accounts. So I guess he really is different. If it's this prominent, you have a compatibility issue. Maybe time to call it a day, why suffer? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fruitee Posted June 5, 2016 Author Share Posted June 5, 2016 ^ Thats what I did. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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