Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 So what's up with guys who follow like thousand people at Instagram and most of those are women.
ForeverAlone2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 My ex used to do this. He claimed that it was to receive followers back. Did I buy it? Yes. Did it make me uncomfortable? Yes.
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 Most of those women are not some models etc. But random women. I guess most of them are also hot and have all kinds of more or less sexy selfies.
gimlynick Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 It's nothing too special. Just enjoying someones body, we need this!
ForeverAlone2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Yea exactly. Models and actresses are fine. It was the everyday women that concerned me. However, I don't like being possessive or appearing insecure so I let it slide on the basis that it was 'just social media'. Probably not one of my wisest decisions.
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 It's social media. It's meaningless. If it bugs you stop dating him but don't try to change him. Following that many women means a). he has too much time on his hands. b). he likes looking at pictures of woman c). he wants his ego stroked because somehow IG makes him feel better about himself. 3
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 I dont think social media is meaningless. 1
ForeverAlone2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 ^ So what happened then? We broke up for other reasons. During our relationship, I did ask him to not 'like' other females photos but he didn't respect me enough to do on multiple occasions. Eventually he stopped 'liking' the photos when he finally saw how upset I was on my birthday. He still followed a lot of females though. But soon after we broke up (2 days), his instagram posts started driving me crazier than usual. He was liking a lot of females photos, leaving comments (kissing emojis) etc etc. His justification 'he knew it would get to me' and it did. In the end, I deactivated my instagram account because it was too much for me to handle.
SammySammy Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 On Instagram, what's a model? What's a regular girl? Just because a woman is not on a runway or in magazines doesn't mean she's not a model. On Instagram, at least. Likewise, having a lot of likes on Instagram doesn't mean she's not a regular girl. Does it matter anyway? The answer to the the question is he's a man and he finds women attractive. The problem is not that he finds women attractive. It's in your insecurity. The idea that it's wrong for a man to find other women attractive if he's with you is problematic. Or that it "would be okay" if she was a model or an actress suggests unrealistic and unreasonable expectations. An irrational view of the world. 2
Buddhist Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Honestly following randoms on IG and liking photo's? Big deal. What are you going to do when you step outside the house? Blindfold him as well. God I've been known to peruse some of the hotties on IG, just for the eye candy. It doesn't mean I'm msging them (they probably wouldn't notice) or trying to develop a relationship with them. As far as I'm concerned if someone wants to strip down to their undies and post soft porn of themselves, then people are going to look. That's the whole point. Attention whores do serve a purpose, they relieve me of boredom from time to time.
Buddhist Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 ^ Sure it is just boredom? :D Sure, I can appreciate a 6 pack as well as the next gal.
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 About seeing women out at the streets. I think there is difference wether person is actively looking for women e.g. at insta or fb or at the streets than just bumping into good looking people and then looking at them. Also it is different to go to movies and drooling over James Bond than spending all day long looking at ass pics at ig. I may be insecure about my looks but I know what I am or who I am. And I would never post ass pics at ig and surely dont really understand people who do such things. Not jugding tho. I can appreciate nice looking guy when I see such at my feed. But not 99 % of what I follow are shirtless guys.
Emilia Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 So if he isn't allowed to follow IG women, does that mean he isn't allowed to watch porn either? I'm not trying to turn this into a 'porn right or wrong' thread, only curious where you draw the line. 1
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 I never said I restrict anyone doing anything.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 I dont think social media is meaningless. I'm interested in hearing your take on this point.
Emilia Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 I never said I restrict anyone doing anything. Sorry, I wasn't having a go. What I meant is, if you are uncomfortable with IG, are you uncomfortable with him watching porn too?
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 I'm interested in hearing your take on this point. Well social media is part of our life now a days. It is not meaningless. People for instance put there their wedding photos and mark down birthdays and what not. People keep in touch via social media. They tell about themselves. If social media is pointless then whats the point of this forum? This is social media as well. Dont people get help from here every day.
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 Sorry, I wasn't having a go. What I meant is, if you are uncomfortable with IG, are you uncomfortable with him watching porn too? I guess it depends on how much one watches it.
Jabron1 Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 (edited) Well social media is part of our life now a days. It is not meaningless. People for instance put there their wedding photos and mark down birthdays and what not. People keep in touch via social media. They tell about themselves. If social media is pointless then whats the point of this forum? This is social media as well. Dont people get help from here every day. I completely agree. Social media isn't pointless at all (as much as I sort of which it was, because I don't like it ). It's called 'long-game', and it works. My cousin regularly gets girls to date off of Facebook. A guy just has to be careful not to come across like a typical orbiter. It's just a tool like anything else, I suppose. Everything depends on how you use it. Edited May 27, 2016 by Jabron1
Author Fruitee Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 ^ Yeah to me it seems like guys who post e.g. shirtless photos and follow lot of women are not serious relationship types.
Emilia Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 I guess it depends on how much one watches it. But if you are ok with him watching women naked every now and then, why is IG not ok? Is it really the amount of time he has been spending on it?
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