UPDATE: Sexless Marriage

[stillafool]

You are lucky that you two don't have kids as that will make the divorce much easier. You are completely incompatible and he won't have sex with you. Maybe it is because he has suddenly taken a liking to big ums. Whatever his issue is with you how much more of this can you take?

[UnsureHusband]

You obviously haven't read this poster's history.

 

The guy was HAPPY to live with his mother for YEARS. They'd still be living there this DAY if it weren't for the OP insisting they move to their own place. He's equally happy to do nothing all day while SHE supports him.

 

The ONLY one who ever makes an effort in this marriage is the OP. And yes, we're obviously only getting her side of it - which is the way message boards WORK. Sorry, but that's all were given to work with. Maybe if her husband can find the time to pull up his pants and leave the Spank Me, Mommy! chat room for an hour, he can post here too and tell us his side of the story.

 

And lastly, just because YOUR wife isn't interested in you sexually doesn't automatically mean that's the same dynamic in the OP's marriage.

 

But again, I only have YOUR side of the story to make my judgment on, don't I?

 

You make some very good points, and I agree. Thanks, this helped me see some things differently.

[TrustedthenBusted]

Man wants X in bed. Woman thinks X is gross or weird. Man watches other people enjoy X on computer.

 

This is porn addiction?!?

 

The cure for vanilla sex is chocolate sprinkles. Geez! How hard is it to just ask your mate what they like in bed, and just do that?

 

I don't watch much porn at all, but my wife once said something like " Guys just like that crazy stuff because because they see it in porn."

 

I corrected her. This is no chicken/egg thing. That stuff is IN porn because it's what guys like.

 

Once she understood that....I got my chocolate sprinkles.