I am so so very angry,he is such a liar.. [UPDATE]

[Ms. Faust]

It makes no sense why he got so aggressive with his sister at just the mention of my name.

Must hate me a lot.

 

It doesn't matter anymore.

[stillafool]

It makes no sense why he got so aggressive with his sister at just the mention of my name.

Must hate me a lot.

 

It' not that he hates you he hates the mention of your name because it reminds him of his cheating and he wants to forget it. Now why don't you do the same and the next time you see his sister coming turn around and walk the other way.

[Lurkeraspect]

Sad thing is I was Doing great till I bumped into her.

Been going on dates,he rarely entered my mind and her discussing everything kind of switched a light on.

I'm under no illusion that he used me I just thought it was pathetic that he couldn't even admit what he had done tried to play the she came on to me cardx

 

Will you please stop wasting brain waves and time obsessing about this whole messed up family. He's a loser. He's a drunk. He used you for sex. He's a cheater. Basically, he's a punk. Why he got (if you believe what his sister told you, I wouldn't) angry and violent is anyone's guess. He's probably upped his game from sloppy drunk to violent drunk.

 

You're doing fine. Keep dating and STAY AWAY from that entire family of crazy.

[ShatteredLady]

This guy is a screwed-up alcoholic with a long history of cheating & a busing women. He had sex with you, stayed out ALL night a couple of weeks after his baby was born!!

 

Let me tell you about my uncle. He's still an attractive, charismatic man in his late 60's. His last child was born to her 24 year old mother a couple of years ago!

 

We're a close family. My Dad will never disown his brother but most others have. We HONESTLY don't know how many times he's been married or how many children he has!! That's crazy!! He doesn't even know the NAMES of some of his children! He's NEVER seen some of them!

 

He first married when he was 21. He got drunk, abused her, cheated on her. The marriage lasted a few years. Her best friend stayed in contact with him. She always held a flame for him. She KNEW him!! She knew his history of alcohol, drugs, women & violence. He's a con man & broken.

 

The friend married him when they were in their late 50's. She was constantly on the phone crying to family. He took all her money. He took drugs & hit her. He was having affairs. He got a young woman pregnant. What did she expect????

 

She too saw "the good man deep inside". She thought that she would be the one to save him because they had been 'friends' for so very long. Why did it take him nearly 40 years (& her being widowed with lots of money) for him to get with her? He'd been single many, many, many times over the years but NEVER chose her!

 

Come on! You know that your friends brother has no SELF CONTROL!...didn't he DRIVE to his Mums house completely drunk with his BABY bitching about his gf? He makes bad choices & even worse choices. He uses women, including you! I have no doubt that he's good looking, charismatic & can spin a good "Woe is me" story or he wouldn't be able to bed all of these girls.

 

Stay away from that family! Your 'friend' seems to always bring drama. She's enjoying the soap opera & keeps it going!! Ugh! Do you really need this in your life?

[dreamingoftigers]

I have a drunken uncke that has AT LEAST six different kids by six different women.

 

I say AT LEAST because those are the ones we know about and that was before he burnt down a rooming house by falling asleep smoking, 15 years ago.

 

His first marriage lasted six months. He's been like a pinball ever since.

[spiderowl]

Can anyone shed any light on why he got angry after my friend ( his sister )

Said "can't believe Louise hasn't even bothered wishing me happy new year" then he stands up raging and says "don't you mention her name" then pins her up by her throat?

He had brought me up hours earlier plus he said to his sister you only use her anyway cos you have no other friends.

 

Because he is unhinged. You had a narrow escape. Names are personal, they make someone seem real. Maybe he's one of these people who compartmentalises things - he can be married and still tell another woman he's madly in love with her. Guys like this don't even know themselves. They certainly can't be trusted.

[Louisesarah]

I don't even know if I'm so bothered because of feelings I had for him or if it was my pride that was hurt.

I still get angry at myself for allowing myself to be in that situation.

I get angry because I think I deserve better than he treated me.

I know I've got to somehow let it go and like someone said be indifferent.

It's not like he is a fantastic man anyway Is it,

[Louisesarah]

Ok so I did something stupid ..looked at his Facebook and there he has uploaded a pic of his gf saying "she's amazing "

It actually hurts like a knife in the stomach ..I do hate him now! Everything he said clearly was fake.

[stillafool]

You're obsessed with a guy who is not thinking about you. Get over this already. Why are you checking his FB page if you could care less about him?

[Louisesarah]

I don't even know why I looked.

[Lovetoohard]

You must be a masochist. Based on what you've shared this guy seems to be a total loser. I know that a lot of MM/MW say and do selfish and hurtful things but this is extreme. We can only blame him for being such scum to a certain extent, but it's up to YOU to maintain your dignity and self respect...something which is 100% in your control! You are engaging in really self destructive behavior.

[Louisesarah]

I think I'm just a total fool.

I honestly don't know what's wrong with me anymore.

[spiderowl]

I think I'm just a total fool.

I honestly don't know what's wrong with me anymore.

 

You had feelings for him. You haven't done anything wrong so don't blame yourself. You'll know what to avoid in future. You do deserve better and have a right to feel angry. I'm sure you'll go on to meet a great guy, especially now you know what to avoid. xx

[ladydesigner]

(((Louisesarah))) I have not read the entire thread, but most MM/MW are liars, cowards, and fakes. Don't even try to figure this out anymore. Move on and be happy. Find out what makes YOU happy, and not in the relationship sense of making YOU happy.

 

Leave these people behind, they have caused you an enormous amount pain and chaos. Cut them out!

 

Edited to add: I am wondering if you are stuck in an obsessive cycling of thoughts? I have had to use medication to help me with this. It might be something worth looking into with therapy.

Edited February 12, 2016 by ladydesigner

[OWAmy]

I am in total agreement with what other posters have written. I have nothing new to add that hasn't already been said by others in this thread, but thought I'd add more fuel to the fire.

 

This 'man' is a low class peasant of the highest order with nothing and I mean NOTHING going for him. He will always be a loser - guys like this always are. He lashes out in anger because he is a base character with a low intellect. I feel really sorry for his child with him in the picture.

 

Your life can only improve by eliminating him and his family from your life.

 

Please come and join us on the other side, you really need to!!

[Forceawakensme]

This MM wins the award for the biggest douche (his only competition are the ones who impregnate then abandon their OW) on LS that ive read about.

 

Analysis is paralysis! --- If you make it your mission to figure out why an irrational, illogical, immoral loose canon acts a certain way you'll never find peace as there is no reason other than hes an immature brat.

[yodelwithyu]

Hey LouiseSarah, I have not commented on any of your threads before because everyone on here gave you such good advice. But this time I cannot help myself. Your exMM is like the absolute f**king worst, rivaled only by MayDay’s exMM. Trust me. I have gone back almost 300 PAGES (didn’t read every post or anything, but still) and he still looks like one of the worst. I am currently bookmarked on posts around August 2011 of the OW/OM forum.

 

The guy you are writing about seems heinous AF. I picture a guy sitting in front of the TV drinking beer all night, eventually slurring his obscene words at his SO to get things done or “tell the baby to shut up” or something along those lines. I can see him as a guy who spits all over the place when trying to talk drunk. I can imagine him as one of those who wakes up in the dumpster outside a pub, having had his ass beat the night before for being inappropriate or aggressive. I can totally see him as one of those people who would cheat on in tier own house and if caught in the act would say something like “well, if you were doing a good job satisfying me, I wouldn’t have to get it somewhere else innit?” Of course, this is not actually him, but this is who I picture. Someone really f**cking gross and terrible. I mean seriously, who chokes someone over something like that? Especially his own sister.

 

Let him be. Leave him behind, and his whole family as well. I can’t even with this guy. Neither should you.

[Louisesarah]

I do need to find a way to cut out the obsessive thoughts maybe distracting myself.

I have low self esteem and I think his rejection has hurt and I think what did she have that I don't and I mean before she got pregnant and they lived together.

When he was talking about us getting together why he never chose me.

I know that isn't healthy and I will never get answers.

I do know il be ok then bumping into the sis triggered me.

I can't wait till I can hand on heart say I feel nothing.

I honestly don't want to care.

[Forceawakensme]

I do need to find a way to cut out the obsessive thoughts maybe distracting myself.

I have low self esteem and I think his rejection has hurt and I think what did she have that I don't and I mean before she got pregnant and they lived together.

When he was talking about us getting together why he never chose me.

I know that isn't healthy and I will never get answers.

I do know il be ok then bumping into the sis triggered me.

I can't wait till I can hand on heart say I feel nothing.

I honestly don't want to care.

 

 

I know it doesn't matter how much we tell you hes a loser and you shouldnt care what he thinks... But when we feel rejected (especially by a 'loser' -- low self-esteem has you thinking 'if HE rejects me then i really must not be valuable.. even a loser doesn't want me -- Its flawed, but you'll only see that in time.) Perceived rejection stings. No denying it.

 

I think time and space will restore your rational thinking. You WILL see it the way everyonelse does eventually, right now you cant see the forrest for the trees.

 

Be pro-active -- Make it your top priority right now to erase every trace of this entire family from your life... Then add in some time and you'll start to feel the indifference..

[Louisesarah]

Honestly it's getting to a point where I have to laugh.

Walk in a massive supermarket and my friend is there with her nephew and she is saying doesn't he look like his dad.

I think the gods up there hate me.

His son is gorgeous too.

[Louisesarah]

You might remember me I haven't been on here for ages.

I was texting my best friends brother then we slept together blah blah.

Me and my friend have recently became friends again and trying to rebuild our friendship.

Me and her went out for drinks on Tuesday and she started talking about him.

Brought it all back basically.

She was saying how lonely he is and how he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend,she was telling me how he spends a lot of time at mums and has been staying over and was talking about a travel cot for his son.

She went on to say she does think he has feelings for me and she doesn't mind it was just the lies we told( I get it)

The Wednesday I commented on her Facebook post and within 30 seconds he commented trying to join in our conversation.

Yesterday I was walking down the street,I was looking quite nice(well I think I was) as I was off to meet friends and just happen to look to the left and there he was..he was looking directly at me ,I looked back at him then just kept walking.

My heart was beating so fast,I hadn't seen him for months then there he was.

The day after I was walking home and just got to the traffic lights and his car pulls up right in front of me,I seen him and he seen me.

I just still have feelings for him.

Seeing him brought it all back

[13Hearts]

You might remember me I haven't been on here for ages.

I was texting my best friends brother then we slept together blah blah.

Me and my friend have recently became friends again and trying to rebuild our friendship.

Me and her went out for drinks on Tuesday and she started talking about him.

Brought it all back basically.

She was saying how lonely he is and how he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend,she was telling me how he spends a lot of time at mums and has been staying over and was talking about a travel cot for his son.

She went on to say she does think he has feelings for me and she doesn't mind it was just the lies we told( I get it)

The Wednesday I commented on her Facebook post and within 30 seconds he commented trying to join in our conversation.

Yesterday I was walking down the street,I was looking quite nice(well I think I was) as I was off to meet friends and just happen to look to the left and there he was..he was looking directly at me ,I looked back at him then just kept walking.

My heart was beating so fast,I hadn't seen him for months then there he was.

The day after I was walking home and just got to the traffic lights and his car pulls up right in front of me,I seen him and he seen me.

I just still have feelings for him.

Seeing him brought it all back

Way to go! Excellent work not letting yourself get all crazy and go running to him!! It seems a little weird he keeps popping up all over the place all of a sudden. Keep ignoring him. If the guy is really that miserable and is going to split with his GF, then he needs to do that and get a whole lot of time and distance from that before you get wrapped up with him again. Right?

 

xMM still texts me every once in a while. He might ask how I'm doing or tell me something. I just reply one brief text or ignore it completely. I've told him point blank that if he wants to be with me he has to be divorced. End of conversation.

 

Keep up the good work! We are all proud of you.

[Louisesarah]

It's so strange 7 months never seen him anywhere then twice in two days I've seen him.

I keep going over it did he see me,did he think I looked good etc

Really stupid things

[georgia girl]

Louisesarah,

 

The challenge for you now is not to romanticize this guy or let him back in.

Let's face it, some guys are just not good partners. As much as we may like them, heck even love them, they are not good partners and we will never have fulfilling, empowering relationships with these guys.

 

Hopefully, you have done the work on you to never accept agai less than what you deserve. Seek out single guys willing to put themselves on the line to get to know you, spend time with you and build something fun and exciting with you.

 

This one is not for you. He has already proven he's a rotten partner to his baby momma, he has treated you like crap and he is unkind, moody and morose to family members who he expects to solve his problems for him. YOU are so much better than that and you deserve more! Really - well and truly - GROW this time. Keep him shut out completely and move on with your life.

 

PS - I would rethink the friendship with the sister as well. She treated you badly and was unfair to you. Unless she is willing to make it up to you - and it sounds like your conversation was the other way around - you don't need her in your life.

 

Be strong. It's sexy, beautiful, beguiling and it will make the right guy fall in love with you!

 

Hugs,

GG

[sandylee1]

I've no idea why you went back into that friendship after everything that's happened. Why is she telling you about him ....when she knows what's happened?

 

Being involved with her will only lead to more drama and it's already setting you back from healing..... but you'll do what you will and update us with how hurtful she's been to you in a while from now.

 

Whilst you can forgive people... it would serve you well to remember how this so called 'best friend' used you in the past.