ascendotum Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 He seems to think I am gorgeous. He is into the Kate Winslet, full lip unique beauty type of look. But I am deff friend zoning him. No way would he be satisfied or even able to fall for a woman of my level of attractiveness. Did you photoshop your nose in the pics on your OLD profile. I assume you didn't so why would he agree to go on a date with you, when your nose makes you look less worthwhile. He likes what he sees as you look now, and same as all the other guys in your past (unless you dont think they were good enough) and same as the modelling scout that you got work from yrs back. Its pretty clear you have your heart set on plastic surgery now sooner than later. Maybe it might add maybe 3-5% more single men finding you better looking IDK, but I don't think you would appreciatively notice it terms of the msgs hitting your OLD inbox. A talented hand with makeup could result in similar outcome imo. Good luck with the date 1
GemmaUK Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Did you photoshop your nose in the pics on your OLD profile. I assume you didn't so why would he agree to go on a date with you, when your nose makes you look less worthwhile. He likes what he sees as you look now, and same as all the other guys in your past (unless you dont think they were good enough) and same as the modelling scout that you got work from yrs back. Its pretty clear you have your heart set on plastic surgery now sooner than later. Maybe it might add maybe 3-5% more single men finding you better looking IDK, but I don't think you would appreciatively notice it terms of the msgs hitting your OLD inbox. A talented hand with makeup could result in similar outcome imo. Good luck with the date I agree that the nose job isn't going to make any significant difference but she seems hell bent on it. It's not really a date now though as she has already decided to friend zone him. I am just hoping he knows that and knows it will only be friendship, otherwise if he is looking to date she will be wasting his time which is not fair on the guy. 1
loveweary11 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 To be clear, I have no input on a different nose, Leigh. I just understand and can see what you mean about it with the more profile oriented picture. I agree it will be good, not a mistake, given all else is done well. I don't know type/shape. Guys: See? Women do spend a lot on dating as well.
Brigit_1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 For what it's worth here is my input. It's better to be attractive than unattractive in our society because attractiveness is a useful tool. Everyone should strive to keep their mind body and spirit as happy, healthy and beautiful as they can since it will lead to an easier time navigating oneself through life. That being said... Being too aware or concerned about how attractive you are or aren't can be very harmful. I've always relied upon my looks to get positive reinforcement of my worthiness. It's made me do silly things like post VERY sexy pictures on a fitness site (recently) just to get my fill of attention. Right now I'm itching to reopen an account on that site just to post my recent bathing suit shots so men can shower me with compliments. I'm refraining. But it's hard. Please don't get too obsessed with how you look. The more energy you put into your looks the more compliments you get the more crazy you get. I had so much attention and complements and it wasn't enough. It's never enough.
Author Leigh 87 Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 I agree that the nose job isn't going to make any significant difference but she seems hell bent on it. It's not really a date now though as she has already decided to friend zone him. I am just hoping he knows that and knows it will only be friendship, otherwise if he is looking to date she will be wasting his time which is not fair on the guy. Well it was definately a date. It wasn't a friend zone type of thing............
Haydn Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Yeah but are your lips full? They are now Cerri. But my Blusher is well off...... 2
MidwestUSA Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Yeah but are your lips full? Oh dear, you've reminded me of a childhood memory. I had the biggest lips as a kid. My older brother started calling me a name at home, then at school. I was in third grade. It stuck, everyone used it (well, not inside the building of a Catholic grade school). I can't say it here, but it was bad. 2
cerridwen Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 They are now Cerri. But my Blusher is well off...... Bless. I didn't want to say anything. Oh dear, you've reminded me of a childhood memory. I had the biggest lips as a kid. My older brother started calling me a name at home, then at school. I was in third grade. It stuck, everyone used it (well, not inside the building of a Catholic grade school). I can't say it here, but it was bad. Trust me. I have the mind of a depraved septic tank. I know in my BONES what that name is... To the OP: Good for you for recognizing that a long midface won't host a pert little nose well. Forgo trying to look cute" and shoot for a look that is "elegant." Continued luck with therapy too. 3
jen1447 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Ok leigh, here's my take on things - Overall you have a very angular face, so you have to bear that in mind and accentuate some things and lessen others. Hair - you have a somewhat square jaw, which is probably not a highly sought after feature in women, so you can use your hair to lessen that effect. In your case, straight long hair will be best, as it counters the horizontals brought out in your jaw. If you have curled or fluffy hair, that tends to just float around angular features. So go with the look in 1091, 1089 and 1094, and avoid the look in 0797 and especially 1092. As for color, I think the sandy brown in 1091 etc. suits you well, less so the darker brown of 0797. Get it highlighted so that it doesn't look uniform. You also have somewhat dark features, so you want to avoid too much contrast. Makeup - Your lips and eyes are prominent - maybe too prominent. Prominent eyes give you a staring or glaring impression which can be offputting. And prominant lips/teeth make you look like a vampire. Seriously tho, your lips and eyes will stand out just fine on their own, so I'd back down on the eye liner and lashes, and avoid harsh colored lipstick like bright red. Use only a moderate amount of eyeliner with no color around the eyes, and use a much more subtle lipstick. Also avoid much gloss. What you can do however is continue to keep your brows accentuated, as that'll take the focus away from your eyes directly and spread it out. Combined with lighter toned hair, this should give you a more muted appearance, eg 'natural,' and no so striking. There's nothing inherently wring with striking, but in your case you've got enough natural strong features going that you don't need to enhance anything. Your skin tone looks good and healthy (a bit olive? It's hard to know for sure in pics) so let it be and get your others features to blend with it easily rather than fight it with harsh lines and/or contrasts. Body - looks fine in that little pic. Style - can't really tell much what you've got going on but your business suits look fine. Don't get too cleavage-y with those. You have nice boobs so let their form do the talking for the most part while at work. Cleavage is great and it's a woman's prerogative to share as much as she likes, but again with your obvious bodily attributes, less is really more in your case. Nose - hm, given your angular lines and square face I'm not sure I agree that a little cherub nose would look good on you. I think I'd maybe reduce it and have it generally straight, not upturned or concave. Hope this is helpful.
MrNate 2.0 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 I also know this goes without saying, but attraction is relative. No one (outside of me) is universally attractive. 2
Brigit_1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Oh dear, you've reminded me of a childhood memory. I had the biggest lips as a kid. My older brother started calling me a name at home, then at school. I was in third grade. It stuck, everyone used it (well, not inside the building of a Catholic grade school). I can't say it here, but it was bad. Not fair! Now you must share said comment with the rest of the class. (Where is the picture of Leigh?) 2
Phoe Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 I think by putting too much color on your eyelids, you're making the blues of your eyes compete with that color. The photo where your eyes are nude, lets the blue of them shine through. Full lashes IMO, is enough to bring focus to them. Too much color is distracting to the eye. I also agree with Jen's sentiment that your lips are full enough to be noticed on their own. A light sheen from chapstick or a neutral gloss would be plenty! 1
RedRobin Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 (edited) Wanting my future partner to think I'm gorgeous as opposed to initialy thinking I am meh nothing special and then having to " grow" to find me sexy due to getting to know my " lovely personality " isn't not working. I've only been single for less than one year. Wanting to have that initial infatuation and strong connection and honeymoon phase, the chemistry and great attraction is normal. Please of men feel besotted and totally attracted to their wives Grumpybutfun even divulged in another thread that he was taken by his wife at first glance. I am the type of woman who can obviously get a guy who is initialy very attracted to me. And all other factors aside, I can now try and play with different looks once I have him one day in the likely distant future. True Love doesn't come knocking very often after all. I enjoy being single and trying to gain more potential suiters to notice me **MORE** to being with. The more men who fancy me the more options I have silly. I don't know why you think grumps now wife was wearing a ton of makeup, was model material, or had 'perfect' features according to you, when they met. There is something called the law of diminishing returns... Where even a little improvement requires vast amounts of effort. I believe you are close to that point. You are already a very attractive woman. I don't believe the effort of getting the nose job will achieve your desire of attracting tons more men. Especially not the kind of men you might want long term. Ever occur to you that there are tons of men who might be initially attracted to you, but reject you when they learn you got plastic surgery? The superficial ones won't care, that's true. They might even hand you a laundry list of other surgical improvements. Think about that. Edited July 5, 2015 by RedRobin 1
Brigit_1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 They might even hand you a laundry list of other surgical improvements. Think about that. I highly doubt that will happen. 1
loveweary11 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Not fair! Now you must share said comment with the rest of the class. (Where is the picture of Leigh?) I can tell you exactly what the comment was. It was racial. That's why she can't say it anymore. It would offend people terribly now. Kids used to say it back in the day. 1
loveweary11 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Leigh also doesn't have to tell anyone about her surgery. Unlike boobs, she could get by without anyone knowing.
Brigit_1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 I can tell you exactly what the comment was. It was racial. That's why she can't say it anymore. It would offend people terribly now. Kids used to say it back in the day. I think I know what that comment was...LOL shhhhh..... 2
Rejected Rosebud Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 What a lot of people miss is that the superficial is just as important as the real stuff.no its not just important The superficial is what gets you the opportunity to get into the real stuff. Leigh has told us about a million times how hot she is and how many men are after her nonstop, I don't know what has caused this thread but whatever it is i pretty much guarantee you that our OP will not be attracting enough droves of men even after a nose job or blonded hair or whatever! 1
Brigit_1 Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 no its not just important Leigh has told us about a million times how hot she is and how many men are after her nonstop, I don't know what has caused this thread but whatever it is i pretty much guarantee you that our OP will not be attracting enough droves of men even after a nose job or blonded hair or whatever! I feel like I'm the only one who hasn't seen a pic of Leigh.
MuddyFootprints Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 I have never understood the time and money invested in a cosmetic world. At some point you will have to take the contacts out, wash the makeup off and portray what's under your mask. I don't get the focus on something so temporary and superficial. 3
xxoo Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 OP, are you concerned about being attractive, or fixated on being considered beautiful? You're clearly attractive as you've attracted partners with ease. Beautiful is a whole different ball of wax. Random body parts and features don't add up to beautiful. There are beautiful women with big noses, thin lips, and all sorts of eye shapes, as well as plain women with big eyes, small noses, and big lips. Objective beauty is rare, which is why it's special. Fortunately, subjective beauty is a different story I can tell you exactly what the comment was. It was racial. That's why she can't say it anymore. It would offend people terribly now. Kids used to say it back in the day. I got that one, and also a sexual one. DSL is the abbreviation. Check urban dictionary. 1
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