Author Auspecial Posted March 1, 2015 Author Posted March 1, 2015 I think some people have "selective reading."
SawtoothMars Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 I think some people have "selective reading." My thought is that you just hit a spot of bad luck. Most guys really don't put that much value on what a woman does for a career. It's pretty damn rare in my experience. That makes me think you perhaps overvalue these traits yourself in a man... and are kind of projecting. That's just a guess though. Keep dating and don't let the bad guys get you down. There are plenty of good ones out there. The men who condescended you, embarrassed you and made you feel inferior to themselves are narcissists - and you should thank your lucky stars that you found this out about them now, BEFORE you invested any time or emotions with them! A man who is truly decent, empathetic and humble would NEVER have treated you that way. What should be important to any man who dates you (and should actually be impressed about you) is that you are WORKING. There are SO many women who are LAZY, spoiled divas who DON'T work and expect any guy they're with to take care of THEM. And not only are you working - you're working FOUR jobs - because you're a RESPONSIBLE person who PAYS their bills and SECURES their obligations with NO help from anyone else!!! I, for one, am impressed with how hard you work just to make ends meet. Thank God I've never come across those types of men! I don't have what anyone would call a "successful" career, but you know what?! It's an office job that PAYS my bills and PROVIDES for me and my family! I'm proud of what I do and it doesn't matter to me one bit what someone else thinks of my job. All of the guys I've ever dated have asked me what I do for a living, and when I tell them that I'm an administrative assistant for a property management company, they all reacted positively and proceeded to tell me about their careers - which were way more lucrative and prestigious than mine. Yeah, sure you never run into guys like this. Let's be honest 99.999% of the people in America who are crazy over career prospects are women. So unless you are a lesbian... and not the short hair flannel kind... you probably wont run into this kind of shallow. On the other hand, guys will often care a lot about how you look! Shallow Hal syndrome. 1
Macattack Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 Careful now, your bitterness is showing. How is that bitterness? That's how it is in my city.
Macattack Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 I understand the relationship, as both are posts about income and dating. Except, I think you are describing a true double standard, where the women absolutely refuses to date a man unless he makes a certain amount of money. My OP is more about being labeled as not good enough although still being pursued by the same people who don't fully respect you. I have zero expectation of income, but I have a strong expectation of basic respect. Re: double standards that you are mentioning, I think they still exist, but are nowhere near what they were in the past. These days, I think its just a few "individual" women who do this, not the vast majority of women who are seeking a decent partner. Can you show some proof? I would to see some data on this.
SawtoothMars Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 Google it. I was just thinking how atypical and weird it is for guys to act how you are describing... and trying to decide what may cause that. I mean very few guys will dog your career. Are you perhaps on the plus size?
h0000 Posted March 1, 2015 Posted March 1, 2015 not really sure what answer you want OP. do you want us to tell you "yes men look at your jobs" or "no you just haven't met the one yet". I suppose your own experience has given you the answer. if you want a successful man, either be a 25 year old blond bombshell model or a successful woman yourself. if they think you are below their league, they will want some fling with you but nothing serious. i also wonder exactly what kind of jobs are you doing? if they are that bad, maybe you should start finding problems on yourself?
Author Auspecial Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 I was just thinking how atypical and weird it is for guys to act how you are describing... and trying to decide what may cause that. I mean very few guys will dog your career. Are you perhaps on the plus size? No, I am very fit. My bmi is 20.8 I think that the demographic of guys who will dog your career has grown, and is growing. And personally, I tend to date unusual people, so I guess that time I ended up with an unusually career-dogging guy.
Author Auspecial Posted March 4, 2015 Author Posted March 4, 2015 I was just thinking how atypical and weird it is for guys to act how you are describing... and trying to decide what may cause that. I mean very few guys will dog your career. Are you perhaps on the plus size? No, I am very fit. My bmi is 20.8 I think that the demographic of guys who will dog your career has grown, and is growing. And personally, I tend to date unusual people, so I guess that time I ended up with an unusually career-dogging guy.
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