Mystic Dreamer Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Back in Sept I started dating a man I knew since we were kids. I stopped talking to him in Nov. The details can be explained in both of these threads (they are long so thanks in advance for reading): https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/430183-dating-single-dad-how-tell-if-he-s-busy-just-not-into-me https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/448603-leaving-him-alone-best-thing-do Since that last text that he sent me (as seen in the last thread) I never responded to him and haven't spoken to him since. He never contacted me after that. His birthday was in January and I decided not to wish him a happy birthday. I know it may be petty to some people but I had a lot of mixed emotions still so I thought leaving it alone was the best thing to do. We still follow each other on FB and Instagram and I saw that he posted some pictures from his birthday party. One of the pictures included him hugging or dancing with his ex at the party, the same ex who he still had pictures of from a year ago. There was never any proof that he was still dating her while we were seeing each other but I always felt some type of way because her pictures was still on his page. This bothered me a little but I thought to myself that since we stopped talking who cares if he went back to his ex anyway. Well last Saturday was my birthday and all of a sudden I got a surprise text from him wishing me a happy birthday. I didn't want to seem mean so I just replied "thank you". Then a few seconds later he texted me 2 more times saying "no problem" and "we should talk soon if that's ok with you?". I just replied "ok" and left it at that. That was a week ago. I still feel confused and I don't know what he has to say. But I don't want to be a fool either. Should I talk to him to see what he has to say or just leave him alone. Also if I was to talk to him was I expected to call him after I replied "ok" or should I wait for him to call?
newmoon Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Just leave it alone. I glanced at the other threads and this doesn't scream like a case of true love anyway. It sounds like you/he are in different places in your life and that his priorities are elsewhere, and will be for some time. It seems like he is either a) just being polite and reaching out to a friend b) trying to gauge your level of interest and hoping you'll respond. I hope you don't respond, but in any event I would leave it in the other person's court to initiate further contact. Just saying 'hey, we should talk' doesn't mean they actually want you to call, it can be taken as a form of politeness.
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