KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Well since I didn't met my mother... It could be that in my case... but I just don't care what you think... I could reverse what you just said by saying that I find that women who are promiscuous have daddy issues... Wow. I'd be willing to bet that you could take any guy with an "unhealthy" outlook on woman and trace it back to mommy issues in some way. Which is what I've been harping on for a while now.
animalover Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Wow. I'd be willing to bet that you could take any guy with an "unhealthy" outlook on woman and trace it back to mommy issues in some way. Which is what I've been harping on for a while now. I guess then your mother really was a problem for you.. .because of all the people who write here you seem to be the most unhealthy ... I guess your real life sucks and you need to come here and pretend how good you are in sex, etc... that is really unhealthy!
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I guess then your mother really was a problem for you.. .because of all the people who write here you seem to be the most unhealthy ... I guess your real life sucks and you need to come here and pretend how good you are in sex, etc... that is really unhealthy! My mother was a HUGE problem...this is no big surprise around here. I think I'm VERY healthy now. Not so when I was younger. My real life is amazing. It's "pinch me I must be dreaming" amazing. Not bad for someone who once lived in a shelter and ate government cheese. I'm not good in sex. I'm ****ing amazing in sex. Just ask my wife.
animalover Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) My mother was a HUGE problem...this is no big surprise around here. I think I'm VERY healthy now. Not so when I was younger. My real life is amazing. It's "pinch me I must be dreaming" amazing. Not bad for someone who once lived in a shelter and ate government cheese. I'm not good in sex. I'm ****ing amazing in sex. Just ask my wife. It is funny that you actually recognize it... honestly I don't think you are over it! If you have a healthy life with 3 children and an marvelous wife, what do you do connected to LS the amount of hours you do every day? I am sure your wife has to find that as good as the sex...... Just click at your statistics and find about the average number of post per day... I think that would tell you a lot about how good your real life is! Edited January 31, 2013 by animalover
TheGuard13 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 What does that have to do with anything? Maybe he just likes discussing this stuff.
Drseussgrrl Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 It is funny that you actually recognize it... honestly I don't think you are over it! If you have a healthy life with 3 children and an marvelous wife, what do you do connected to LS the amount of hours you do every day? I am sure your wife has to find that as good as the sex...... Just click at your statistics and find about the average number of post per day... I think that would tell you a lot about how good your real life is! Why are you so hateful?
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 It is funny that you actually recognize it... honestly I don't think you are over it! If you have a healthy life with 3 children and an marvelous wife, what do you do connected to LS the amount of hours you do every day? I am sure your wife has to find that as good as the sex...... Just click at your statistics and bout the average number of post per day... I think that would tell you a lot about how good your real life is! I work very little. And I work from home as does my wife. So I have a lot of free time. My wife knows I come on here. She has no problem with it. She knows I've even posted pics of ourselves. We like to talk about people and relationships and I talk to her about everything I talk about here, including this topic. We both said that if didn't do what we did, we would want to be psychologist/sociologists. We also do this stuff outside of LS where we have friends come over, we smoke out, and just talk all night long about people, relationships, sex, etc.
animalover Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 What does that have to do with anything? Maybe he just likes discussing this stuff. When you have a work and 3 children and you enjoy time with your wife... believe me you don't get 5 hours extra to connect to LS... You need to have a family of your own to understand how much time you need to dedicate them... I am sorry any person who is average 3 or 4 hours connected to a forum ... is just not healthy.... It is ok to share some information in a forum but you should not exchange it for your real life!
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 When you have a work and 3 children and you enjoy time with your wife... believe me you don't get 5 hours extra to connect to LS... You need to have a family of your own to understand how much time you need to dedicate them... I am sorry any person who is average 3 or 4 hours connected to a forum ... is just not healthy.... It is ok to share some information in a forum but you should not exchange it for your real life! Read my post above.
TheGuard13 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 When you have a work and 3 children and you enjoy time with your wife... believe me you don't get 5 hours extra to connect to LS... You need to have a family of your own to understand how much time you need to dedicate them... I am sorry any person who is average 3 or 4 hours connected to a forum ... is just not healthy.... It is ok to share some information in a forum but you should not exchange it for your real life! Hmm... I'm currently unemployed, but when I was working, I spent just as much time on messageboards (4-5 hours is pushing it, more like an hour a day). Who says this is being exchanged for real life? I don't have children precisely because I want to have lots of free time.
animalover Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Read my post above. I did... it is still unhealthy... you could read a couple of post in 1/2 hour and enjoy the rest of the time with your wife and children... or real life friends, or doing sports... Everything in your life seems too perfect to fit reality... I am sorry but it is so easy to create a profile and make up who you are...I just don't believe you!
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I did... it is still unhealthy... you could read a couple of post in 1/2 hour and enjoy the rest of the time with your wife and children... or real life friends, or doing sports... Everything in your life seems too perfect to fit reality... I am sorry but it is so easy to create a profile and make up who you are...I just don't believe you! Thanks! Appreciate the compliment.
Drseussgrrl Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I work very little. And I work from home as does my wife. So I have a lot of free time. My wife knows I come on here. She has no problem with it. She knows I've even posted pics of ourselves. We like to talk about people and relationships and I talk to her about everything I talk about here, including this topic. We both said that if didn't do what we did, we would want to be psychologist/sociologists. We also do this stuff outside of LS where we have friends come over, we smoke out, and just talk all night long about people, relationships, sex, etc. My kinda peeps. Can I come over?
Drseussgrrl Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I did... it is still unhealthy... you could read a couple of post in 1/2 hour and enjoy the rest of the time with your wife and children... or real life friends, or doing sports... Everything in your life seems too perfect to fit reality... I am sorry but it is so easy to create a profile and make up who you are...I just don't believe you! What's unhealthy is your obsession with what people do in their personal lives that is of no concern to you, and sit in judgment of them.
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 My kinda peeps. Can I come over? Hell...to be perfectly honest, if you lived in socal, I would say hell yeah! There's a few people here that I would have loved to participate in our little pow wows.... 1
Emmms Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Well put. You should make a bumper sticker or fridge magnet out of that.
William Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Let's refocus onto the topic. In part: "I have a big hangup re: these new girls having had many previous sexual partners." If the issue raised by the thread starter has been resolved, then we'll close this up. The amount of time spent or number or type of postings on Loveshack by various members is not the topic of the thread. Work the topic, folks. Thanks.
MrNate 2.0 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Well, JB, what say you? Has it been resolved?
Author jamesbob Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I think I understand what you think now. You think that a person does not value a monogamous relationship or the person they are in one with if they have been with lots of people. I don't share that view. Right. If sex is only a number, like how many times she's gone bowling, or how many times she has been to a concert. It's irrelevant if she adds to that number while in a relationship. What's the difference in sex and going to a concert? Can she not go to concerts with her friends now that you guys are together? You want her all to yourself I thought?
Author jamesbob Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Well, JB, what say you? Has it been resolved? Nobody can give me a reason why this is false, I'm going to presume it is true, so I suppose it is resolved: Virgin gal: Me: How many sexual partners have you had? Her: I am a virgin, I haven't yet met a man who is worthy of sleeping with me. Me: You have high standards. If you have sex with me, that means you think I am awesome. You value me as a person and a human being. Experienced gal: Me: How many sexual partners have you had? Her: About 50, I go through maybe 12 a year. Me: You have low standards. If you have sex with me, it doesn't mean I am important or valued by you in any way. I am only a sex object to you.
Leigh 87 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Jamesbob, you have it ALL WRONG. I had a traumatic time in my teen years. I was extremely messed up, and had sex with about 10 men frm ages 16 - 18. It was extremely traumatic, as I went from never holding hands with a guy at age 15, to kissing and having sex with a boyfriend who was not interested in me and who I did not talk to ever again after the sex.... THEN I had another boyfriend, lost him, then ended up having sex a lot more than was healthy for me. ........I was depressed and had mental issues, and I tried to forget about my issues by having sex with guys. A lot of guys. I cannot remember every guy I slept with really. Probably about 10 al together, give or take though. That was my PAST though......... .................................................................................... .....I had ISSUES that contributed to me sleeping with guys that did not care about me. I HAD no standards back then. I had to have extensive threapy after wards, because I treated my body like a hooker: I did not care who had sex with me, I did nto need the guy to like or respect me. I was traumatized for years after, and when I eventually DID get some self respect and started to like myself as a person, I was SOOOOOO turned off sex!!!!!! I swore to myself that there was NO WAY that I would EVER let a guy who did not really like or love me, have sex with me EVER again. The idea of sleeping with a man that did not adore me and who was nto super into me - was a complete turn off. It still is NEVER something I would do. It disgusts me. These days, a guy really has to love or at least be falling in love with me, in a comitted relationship, before I have any sex.
Author jamesbob Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Right. If sex is only a number, like how many times she's gone bowling, or how many times she has been to a concert. It's irrelevant if she adds to that number while in a relationship. What's the difference in sex and going to a concert? Can she not go to concerts with her friends now that you guys are together? You want her all to yourself I thought? Adding to this Instead of not wanting to have sex with anyone else, and not wanting her to have sex with anyone else, why don't you not want to eat oranges with anyone else instead? Just eat oranges with her exclusively now. Why do you value a monogamous sex life if sex is the equivalent of any other enjoyable activity?
Author jamesbob Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Jamesbob, you have it ALL WRONG. I had a traumatic time in my teen years. I was extremely messed up, and had sex with about 10 men frm ages 16 - 18. It was extremely traumatic, as I went from never holding hands with a guy at age 15, to kissing and having sex with a boyfriend who was not interested in me and who I did not talk to ever again after the sex.... THEN I had another boyfriend, lost him, then ended up having sex a lot more than was healthy for me. ........I was depressed and had mental issues, and I tried to forget about my issues by having sex with guys. A lot of guys. I cannot remember every guy I slept with really. Probably about 10 al together, give or take though. That was my PAST though......... .................................................................................... .....I had ISSUES that contributed to me sleeping with guys that did not care about me. I HAD no standards back then. I had to have extensive threapy after wards, because I treated my body like a hooker: I did not care who had sex with me, I did nto need the guy to like or respect me. I was traumatized for years after, and when I eventually DID get some self respect and started to like myself as a person, I was SOOOOOO turned off sex!!!!!! I swore to myself that there was NO WAY that I would EVER let a guy who did not really like or love me, have sex with me EVER again. The idea of sleeping with a man that did not adore me and who was nto super into me - was a complete turn off. It still is NEVER something I would do. It disgusts me. These days, a guy really has to love or at least be falling in love with me, in a comitted relationship, before I have any sex. I would consider you an exception. As I said earlier it's primarily the motivation for having many partners, not the number of partners itself that is so important. You are definitely not in the majority, I'm talking about these girls that are being pushed into hookup culture by neo-feminism.
Leigh 87 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 DONT YOU DARE tell me that I did not value or adore my boyfriend, because as a teen I was a silly, misguided sl*t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How the HELL does what I did as a TEENAGER, dictate what I DO NOW!?!?!? I HATED sleeping around as a teen! HATED IT. I go THERAPY for it. Because it is NOT what I wanted for myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your lucky you did not tell me this in real life; I would smack you in the head if you bloody told me that yeah, I must not be into my boyfriend or any guy I hook up with, because I have low standards:sick: You dont bloody know me, wake up to yourself, and keep your stupid views to yourself in real life, or your gunna get smacked in the head. BY A GIRL. .................... From ages 20 - 26, I have slept with TWO MEN all up.
Author jamesbob Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 DONT YOU DARE tell me that I did not value or adore my boyfriend, because as a teen I was a silly, misguided sl*t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How the HELL does what I did as a TEENAGER, dictate what I DO NOW!?!?!? I HATED sleeping around as a teen! HATED IT. I go THERAPY for it. Because it is NOT what I wanted for myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your lucky you did not tell me this in real life; I would smack you in the head if you bloody told me that yeah, I must not be into my boyfriend or any guy I hook up with, because I have low standards:sick: You dont bloody know me, wake up to yourself, and keep your stupid views to yourself in real life, or your gunna get smacked in the head. BY A GIRL. .................... From ages 20 - 26, I have slept with TWO MEN all up. Please read the whole thread, I addressed this earlier. I would have no problem dating you.
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