Author denxnis Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 Really dull weekend, debating whether or not I should check up on the ex's facebook/google just to see if she is alive. a** hole or not there's still a small part of me that cares about her well being. FML Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Really dull weekend, debating whether or not I should check up on the ex's facebook/google just to see if she is alive. a** hole or not there's still a small part of me that cares about her well being. FML Nah not worth it. Cav 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author denxnis Posted April 8, 2013 Author Share Posted April 8, 2013 I feel stupid writing about this but what the hell. Driving home from the gym I saw you driving and you waved good-bye as I pulled into my street. It means nothing yet I find myself thinking about it... Oh how I look forward to the day I move, no more worrying about these chance encounters will be a huge weight off my shoulders. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I feel stupid writing about this but what the hell. Driving home from the gym I saw you driving and you waved good-bye as I pulled into my street. It means nothing yet I find myself thinking about it... Oh how I look forward to the day I move, no more worrying about these chance encounters will be a huge weight off my shoulders. Remeber that 1st time you saw her in you car months ago. not sure why i remeber that. See how much better you are. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author denxnis Posted April 17, 2013 Author Share Posted April 17, 2013 Finals are approaching, graduation is nearing, starting my new job in a couple months, planning my first home purchase already, yet I keep running to this website. Call it my safe haven perhaps, why am I thinking of her? It's been over 6 months. Maybe reminding myself why we broke up will help... I always had to act like her dad, pushing her to save money and not blow it on frivolous thingsShe was terrible at sports and we could never play tennis or go kayak together because we just ended up arguing She became very lazy and self-centered (opposite in the beginning of the relationship), several family members pointed this out.We both broke each other's trustWas never interested/motivated to travelShe was EXTREMELY up/down with her emotions, e.g. moods changed every day and acted very different around me than she did with her friends. Also very flirtatious since beginning of the relationship.She dropped out of collegeSaid negative things about me behind my backShe never really had any goals in life, was never driven and was comfortable with where she was at in life 1 Link to post Share on other sites
justletgo07 Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 It can take a long time to recover and move on from a break-up, especially when you were in it long-term. Don't be too hard on yourself. Having bad days is just part of it, and the goal is really just to have less and less bad days. It's good that you're focusing on all of the things you have to look forward to. Sounds like you have a lot of exciting things coming up! Focus on those things, and on how far you've come since your break-up. I also think its good that you seem to be working on taking your ex off a pedestal, and are working on being realistic about your relationship and its flaws. You should ask yourself the following: Would I have made the changes/improvements in my life if we had stayed together? No doubt the last 6 months have been tough, but they have also clearly been a major opportunity for growth. As weird as it is and as hard as it sounds, try to be thankful for that. Be thankful that you've had the opportunity to become a better person, both for yourself and for the next person you may end up with. Link to post Share on other sites
justletgo07 Posted April 17, 2013 Share Posted April 17, 2013 It can take a long time to recover and move on from a break-up, especially when you were in it long-term. Don't be too hard on yourself. Having bad days is just part of it, and the goal is really just to have less and less bad days. It's good that you're focusing on all of the things you have to look forward to. Sounds like you have a lot of exciting things coming up! Focus on those things, and on how far you've come since your break-up. I also think its good that you seem to be working on taking your ex off a pedestal, and are working on being realistic about your relationship and its flaws. You should ask yourself the following: Would I have made the changes/improvements in my life if we had stayed together? No doubt the last 6 months have been tough, but they have also clearly been a major opportunity for growth. As weird as it is and as hard as it sounds, try to be thankful for that. Be thankful that you've had the opportunity to become a better person, both for yourself and for the next person you may end up with. Link to post Share on other sites
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