kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 ...who is actively losing weight. Since I hear women say fat guys are unattractive, would you date a fat/overweight guy who is trying really hard to lose weight by: - watching what he eats (dieting) and stacking supplements (over 10 different pills and 3 powders) - works out (4-5 days a week for 1-2 hours) with cardio and lifting - formed some muscle definition - has become stronger and faster than ever - has already lost 85 pounds so far and has 30-40 more to go for his goal But, - Is still relatively fat - Has man boobs (abnormal) - Short on money due to the expenses of weight loss (food, pills, gym membership) Women, does the effort count for anything or is he still ugly regardless of what has done?
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Personally no. Little bit overweight is fine but much over that is a turn off.
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Personally no. Little bit overweight is fine but much over that is a turn off. What is a little bit overweight?
gaius Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Guys who are 30-40 pounds overweight can get dates. You should probably finish your weight loss first though and then focus on dating. You don't seem comfortable with where you're at now and women can smell that. Congrats on the 85 pounds btw, that's a nice achievement. 2
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 Would you date an obese woman? Not you ES! At least obese women are fetish. And I wasn't talking about obesity.
amaysngrace Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I wouldn't simply because I'm not that into food and it seems like overweight people are so it'd be more of a commonality thing for me. Plus I've noticed that people who struggle with weight shift their food obsessions onto their dieting obsessions and I find that to be another boring topic of discussion. But good for you for your weight loss. I hope that you find a healthy lifestyle that you can maintain and a woman who loves you for you.
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I wouldn't simply because I'm not that into food and it seems like overweight people are so it'd be more of a commonality thing for me. Plus I've noticed that people who struggle with weight shift their food obsessions onto their dieting obsessions and I find that to be another boring topic of discussion. But good for you for your weight loss. I hope that you find a healthy lifestyle that you can maintain and a woman who loves you for you. I did trade most of my food habits with mental distress. It's one of my main motivations.
Emilia Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I did trade most of my food habits with mental distress. It's one of my main motivations. It's a shame you are feeling that way. How long have you been dieting, you think you will be able to keep up the active lifestyle? Some women date overweight guys, others don't. A friend of mine married one but then she isn't a small girl either.
amaysngrace Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I did trade most of my food habits with mental distress. It's one of my main motivations. What? Mental distress?? So that's what it's called. Is that why people on diets like talking about their new diet and the foods they've been eating? Cause their distressed in their heads? Wow...you learn something new everyday.
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 What? Mental distress?? So that's what it's called. Is that why people on diets like talking about their new diet and the foods they've been eating? Cause their distressed in their heads? Wow...you learn something new everyday. That's my case, I can't say about others.
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 It's a shame you are feeling that way. How long have you been dieting, you think you will be able to keep up the active lifestyle? Some women date overweight guys, others don't. A friend of mine married one but then she isn't a small girl either. I've been dieting over a year now. I hope I can make it last for the rest of my life. If I achieve goals, I rather die than regress back into what I was. BTW I'm not picky myself. I've plenty of bigger girls claim only the fittest of men are good enough for them.
amaysngrace Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 That's my case, I can't say about others. I don't understand how that could be motivational though. Unless you mean being overweight causes distress?
Author kel22 Posted August 24, 2012 Author Posted August 24, 2012 I don't understand how that could be motivational though. Unless you mean being overweight causes distress? Self hatred and lust are also motivations for me. It's working. It could, it did for me.
amaysngrace Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Self hatred and lust are also motivations for me. It's working. It could, it did for me. Well I wish you the best of luck. Not liking yourself can be very unattractive to others so try your best to take pride in all that you've accomplished. Also if you work out at a gym you may find girls with similar qualities as yourself. Some may even share your struggles.
Emilia Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 BTW I'm not picky myself. I've plenty of bigger girls claim only the fittest of men are good enough for them. So is this just another thread about women being too picky?
yongyong Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 What do you want to hear? do you want them talk to you like your mom? 'hey son, you are a sweet and good looking guy, you will find a nice girl' and you realize what she have been saying was B.S in reality? (BTW, this is the huge problem in America. parents tell their fat girls how adorable they are and let them eat.) Do you think it's true when women here talks about personality is important? (when they are assessed by others, not the other way around) you will meet plenty of girls who will say how sweet you are blah blah. will they suck your cock though? (this is the point) My advice? lose as much as you can. hit on girls and find out on your own. don't make assumptions.
AlexDP Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 I wouldn't simply because I'm not that into food and it seems like overweight people are so it'd be more of a commonality thing for me. Plus I've noticed that people who struggle with weight shift their food obsessions onto their dieting obsessions and I find that to be another boring topic of discussion. But good for you for your weight loss. I hope that you find a healthy lifestyle that you can maintain and a woman who loves you for you. Not "into" food seems rather unhealthy. People need food to survive. That's like not being "into" breathing. If you don't like food, that's a bit of a problem. Now you're very correct in saying that some people seem to be obsessed with food and that can be a huge turn off. 1
darkmoon Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 some women are on semi or full diets we don't want chocolates or big dinners every day you could share in our lifestyle/s xx ask for diet tips and chat about them
tori0001 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Of course I would date someone who's over weight. I would date some who's low on money. If anyone so shallow to judge someone because of this, then, then those people have the problem.
Emilia Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Of course I would date someone who's over weight. I would date some who's low on money. If anyone so shallow to judge someone because of this, then, then those people have the problem. Why? What's wrong with having personal preferences?
tori0001 Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 There's more to human beings then physical beauty, or how much money is in the bank. There's good people out there from all walks of life. If you have preferences you stick to, and a good person comes along that does not stick to your preferences, well you could be losing out if you wont give them the time of day, hence omho, it's shallow. I've dated tall, short, shorter then me, morbidly obese, and over weight, very good looking. I'm an average person, average weight, average height, not beautiful, bit not ugly from what I've been told, I'm good looking, but I think ok. 1
kassy Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Have you considered taking up a social coed sport? Might hel with the healthy lifestyle and find someone with similar priorities. And it's fun!
Imported Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 Of course I would date someone who's over weight. I would date some who's low on money. If anyone so shallow to judge someone because of this, then, then those people have the problem. You should give the OP a chance....... however, I think you are the OP.
Emilia Posted August 24, 2012 Posted August 24, 2012 There's more to human beings then physical beauty, or how much money is in the bank. There's good people out there from all walks of life. Yes, agreed. If you have preferences you stick to, and a good person comes along that does not stick to your preferences, well you could be losing out if you wont give them the time of day, hence omho, it's shallow. I've dated tall, short, shorter then me, morbidly obese, and over weight, very good looking. I'm an average person, average weight, average height, not beautiful, bit not ugly from what I've been told, I'm good looking, but I think ok. But you stated in another thread that you are not looking for a sexual relationship. Many of us do. To me appearance matters because I want to be sexually attracted to the person. Otherwise they are just a friend I socialise with I think it very much comes down to what you think 'dating' is
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