so i saw my 1st ex to talk about my current situation about the current Ex.

[SoConfusedAndInShock]

ex from few years ago came to talk to me about my current issue with new ex from 2 weeks ago:

 

yea ok i know this sounds so weird and crazy, but i actually have been waiting for this day. my 1st bf ( lets call it Ex #1 from 3 years ago) and i met for a coffee today. im 19 and hes turning 21 in few weeks. i just got dumped 2 weeks ago by the love of my life and im still in a lot of pain, to the point where i cant talk to friends and family without bursting into tears.

 

well, i told him i needed a friend so he came by to tlk to me, which was actually unbelievable since our break up was so bitter and i was a reck. i told him how my current ex(the guy i dated after him who just broke up with me 2 weeks ago) and i broke up and how life was with him. he was so open about telling me how i was the one that got away in his life and im sure this guy (ex #2) will come back later when he realizes what hes lost because im such a special person. i was in tears when he said that. i never though i would hear these words from a guy that tossed me like trash 3 yrs ago. he said to work on myself no matter how hard it is because some day Ex # 2 will call to say how wrong he was. we talked for so long caz he knew how hurt i was this time. he said he wanted me bck in his life now but he knows my heart is stuck with this guy.

 

ugh honestly, i don't want to be ungrateful for the so many thing God is giving me in my life, but i just want my best friend, my brother, and my lover back. i maybe hurting so much right now but all i can do is be hopeful and pray on the matter. its just way out of my control. i want him back in my life but time will tell i guess. im just very surprised how life bring back the people from the past in a very funny and weird way. i found some comfort in seeing how his life was horrible after he let go and seeing how hes changed and all im praying for is that my current ex will wake up in time and have a change of heart like this guy did. ugh this is just to much to handle for one person. idk where to go or who to tlk to. my current ex was my everything now i have nothing to do or someone to be with.

 

LoveShackers please tlk to me on this matter...i just need some motivation from people who've been in my shoes. this NC crap is so not working. today i woke up crying because i wated to call him and tell him how much i missed him, butttt i will NOT. im not willing to push him away even further.

 

previous threads to my story:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/334714-nc-4-days-now-im-going-crazy

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/335095-so-gets-worst-huh

[january2011]

Your first ex has the benefit of hindsight and emotional distance from you. Until your newest ex has those things, he is not going to be able to come to any clear and lasting conclusions about your relationship and whether or not he wants you back in his life.

 

Thus, NC you must maintain.