WorldIsYours Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 I don't see how what the OP's H said to her can be considered "bullying" because she's not supposed to be having an affair in the first place, right? Exactly. All of this could've been avoided by her. Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 LOL...oh I get..you can read her mind...As a matter of fact, I do not even know why wheelwright has to post here, when you are making up things about her...If she says this, you say-no, she means this...what in the heck? Thank you. Not sure what your purpose here on this thread....are you just here to negate everything she says? or make up your version of her story? What is your purpose here? To disparage her? Not sure what your purpose is on this thread either. To support her disrespecting her husband and making up lies and rationalizing her destructive behavior? To encourage her to keep lying and deceiving instead of being mature and doing the right thing for once? I know I am here because YOU are bullying her-all lies and all designed to cut her down to pieces...and for what reasons? And I am here to give her advice like many others, not validation. If anyone is being cut down it is the H. could it be because you are incapable of channeling your anger to the right person who found you unworthy of her fidelity? I could ask you the same question. Link to post Share on other sites
PorkRinds Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Exactly. All of this could've been avoided by her. What I would be interested in knowing, is what if anything Wheelwright has actually done to encourage and improve the relationship between her husband and children. Since that connection is so important to her. Link to post Share on other sites
thomasb Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Wheel, please answer the question as to whether these are his children, or are they steps? Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 i think she already said a long time ago that yes they are his children. Link to post Share on other sites
whathesaid Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 wow:mad: talk about nasty... I hope no one reports these nasty words and this is allowed to stay up for all to read your true colors. WW seems to be having a nice discussion and really exploring her feelings and has thanked everyone for this thread and there comments. If she has done this why to you feel it is necessary to be so nasty and attacking? What is the big issue with that post? There are some people who are not worthy of your fidelity and some who are. I don't understand why everyone is taking such issue with this comment. Is an abusive spouse worthy of fidelity? Is a spouse who lies to you worthy of your fidelity? Is a spouse who cheats on you worthy of your fidelity? Is a person you do not love worthy of your fidelity? Is a person who does not love you worthy of your fidelity? The answer is no, in all of those cases. However, if you choose to honor them with your fidelity in cases like that, then you are doing so at the risk of dishonoring yourself, and allowing their desire for fidelity overpower your desire for love. That is fine if that is how you wish to conduct your life, but not everyone in this world choses to live a chaste life in order to please someone who doesn't deserve their chastity. Link to post Share on other sites
PorkRinds Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 i think she already said a long time ago that yes they are his children. Maybe OP's husband has his doubts about that. Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Unworthy of fidelity? What a mean, nasty way to look at deceiving others. Where does that come from? Report anything you find bullying as it is against the TOS. wow:mad: talk about nasty... I hope no one reports these nasty words and this is allowed to stay up for all to read your true colors. WW seems to be having a nice discussion and really exploring her feelings and has thanked everyone for this thread and there comments. If she has done this why to you feel it is necessary to be so nasty and attacking? Oh I am sure you guys did not find anything "WorldISYours" said nasty. I understand that-since he was also "betrayed"- but even WW addressed that fact that he was not helping and yet he persist to disparage her. And let me just remind YOU greengoddess, YOU also made a similar comment about me and my MM-except that you were wrong because we are actually together(we are both divorced from our spouses). What you were trying to do to me is exactly what I was trying to do to WorldIsYours. So if you think I was wrong, then go ahead and report yourself for "attacking" me. Let's see some integrity here at play. Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Tami, CHILL OUT. She can post here if she wants to. OMG, you are arguing with the one person who isn't truly helping her, and advising her more or less to stop posting because you don't like how afew others come across. WHAT about the GOOD advice she's getting? She's a grown woman and can decipher what advice to take and what to ignore. This thread HAS been helpful and she appreciates it. Why not just ignore other replies that are upsetting and bothering you Tami? All it's doing is taking away from her thread, when actually most are getting along, giving her great advice and heartfelt answers. The side bickering is ridiculous and dramatic. WWIU..way to quote me out of context-you absolutely misunderstood the post. Of course she can post here....what is the matter with you? I am pointing out the fact that WorldIsYours is making up his own scenarios about WW's story. If WW says this is what was said, WorldIsYours would say "no that is not what she meant"-he has no respect for her perspective. ( I know, I know, some of you do not think she deserves respect because she cheated). It is as if it does not matter what she feels or thinks or what her doubts are , etc-he makes up his own and that's all that matters...so what is the point of her posting or anybody in her situation if we are just going to make up our own scenarios? This is what is wrong with this forum...people tolerate people like WorldIsYours disrespecting someone in WW's situation and nobody calls him out on it...and it is not like WW is not being polite and open...she is and yet, he is relentless in his attacks. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 WWIU..way to quote me out of context-you absolutely misunderstood the post. Of course she can post here....what is the matter with you? I think I did..abit.. Sorry Tami. part I bolded.. That was so.. My mom! I mean that nicely, actually with humour as my two siblings and I got that line thrown us when we'd do something stupid.. Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Not sure what your purpose is on this thread either. To support her disrespecting her husband and making up lies and rationalizing her destructive behavior? To encourage her to keep lying and deceiving instead of being mature and doing the right thing for once? To encourage her to find out the issues that contributed to her decision to cheat and why that relationship was very fulfilling to her emotionally-so that perhaps, in the future she will have a better way of handling issues that come up in her marriage. And I am here to give her advice like many others, not validation. If anyone is being cut down it is the H. Maybe you are..but I think you are trying to cut her down-shaming her...I think she feels that too, but you do not seem to care.Do you feel you shouldn't care about her feelings because she did not care about how hurt husband would be about her cheating? But she is not here to be hurt by you, you know? but whatever.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 This is what is wrong with this forum...people tolerate people like WorldIsYours disrespecting someone in WW's situation and nobody calls him out on it...and it is not like WW is not being polite and open...she is and yet, he is relentless in his attacks. I guess I'm tired of over-all engaging in stuff like that on here. Better to report it than react to it. Or WW can put him or anybody else who she feels is bothering her on ignore. Link to post Share on other sites
tami-chan Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 I think I did..abit.. Sorry Tami. part I bolded.. That was so.. My mom! I mean that nicely, actually with humour as my two siblings and I got that line thrown us when we'd do something stupid.. No worries. It happens, esp. to me since I failed ESL. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 No worries. It happens, esp. to me since I failed ESL. You did just make me . Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) I am pointing out the fact that WorldIsYours is making up his own scenarios about WW's story. If WW says this is what was said, WorldIsYours would say "no that is not what she meant"-he has no respect for her perspective. ( I know, I know, some of you do not think she deserves respect because she cheated). It is as if it does not matter what she feels or thinks or what her doubts are , etc-he makes up his own and that's all that matters...so what is the point of her posting or anybody in her situation if we are just going to make up our own scenarios? This is what is wrong with this forum...people tolerate people like WorldIsYours disrespecting someone in WW's situation and nobody calls him out on it...and it is not like WW is not being polite and open...she is and yet, he is relentless in his attacks. I agree with ALL the above. Relentless is right. I understand that people have to make their points but this goes way beyond making a point. :sick: Sorry for the T/J but this stuff that WIY spews is getting old. Edited March 24, 2011 by BB07 Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 And let me just remind YOU greengoddess, YOU also made a similar comment about me and my MM-except that you were wrong because we are actually together(we are both divorced from our spouses). Congratulations!!! You got the golden ticket!!! Why do you sound so angry though all the time. You should be a shining example of a success story. Why the anger? Link to post Share on other sites
jthorne Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Wheelwright, I am going to make one last attempt to get this thread back on track. I'll admit to not making it through all of this thread, but I don't recall you answering mine and Owl's question. Which was.. What did you expect your BS's reaction to be when he learned of your infidelity? Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 To encourage her to find out the issues that contributed to her decision to cheat and why that relationship was very fulfilling to her emotionally-so that perhaps, in the future she will have a better way of handling issues that come up in her marriage. So instead of giving advice that will help her, encouraging this destructive behavior is the way to go..... Maybe you are..but I think you are trying to cut her down-shaming her...I think she feels that too, but you do not seem to care. No one is being cut down over an internet board, and from what has been posted, she does not care about her marriage. Do you feel you shouldn't care about her feelings because she did not care about how hurt husband would be about her cheating? But she is not here to be hurt by you, you know? but whatever.... No one but you is assuming that, so... Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Sorry for the T/J but this stuff that WIY spews is getting old. So is yours. Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 So is yours. BB07 is actually someone who has been there and back and in circles and everywhere with the cheating mess. She is someone who is truly trying to help ow with her reality and the pain she endured. Link to post Share on other sites
WorldIsYours Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 BB07 is actually someone who has been there and back and in circles and everywhere with the cheating mess. She is someone who is truly trying to help ow with her reality and the pain she endured. No she hasn't and just because a few cheaters back her up doesn't mean squat. She doesn't like my view, oh well tough luck. Link to post Share on other sites
desertIslandCactus Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 So is yours. 'DIC' took some badgering too, for her opinion. I see what you're saying. Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 BB07 is actually someone who has been there and back and in circles and everywhere with the cheating mess. She is someone who is truly trying to help ow with her reality and the pain she endured. Thank you GG! It's true....I don't want to see someone else hurt and broken. Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 No she hasn't and just because a few cheaters back her up doesn't mean squat. She doesn't like my view, oh well tough luck. No I don't like your hard nosed beat somebody down attitude. You say the same thing over and over in just slightly different ways. Your only purpose seems to be to defend the BS as the victim (and yes they are) and to repeatably tell everyone how terrible the cheater is. Do you offer one shred of help or support? While I'm on a roll......I'll tell you something else. I'm not sure if GG was a BS and I don't always like her style of posting and she is hard lined as hell but you know what I respect her..........she genially cares about these women wasting years of their life and causing pain to themselves and the BS and the children and whether you believe it or not, I care too. You however have some other kind of agenda............. Link to post Share on other sites
26pointblue Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Exactly, BB07. Posters like WIY just want to defend the BS on an OW forum, when the BS isn't even here & this is OW territory, to try and make themselves feel better after something happened to them. Then they wonder why people say that SOME [sOME! A FEW! NOT ALL OF THEM FOR SURE -- BUT THEY GIVE THE REST A BAD NAME] BSs are seen as bitter & angry. Link to post Share on other sites
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