robf1971 Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 It was exactly a year ago today that my wife told me she didn't love anymore! She then ran out of the house, unknown to me at the time she ran 16 doors down my street into the arms of another man. So here we are a year later. I can tell you now that things do get better!! I'm doing great ( Still havn't met anyone yet!) but i'm happy... I have re-petioned for divorce and i'm having my daughters as much as i can.I'm fit and have a great job, iv'e kept the family home. Anyone new here reading my thread, please when you think your wife woudn't cheat on you in a million years, think again! I was like you and thought she would never cheat! The quicker you act the better!! My wife is an absolute sack of ****, she has spent around £20,000 on cocaine and is now out of money, she can't pay her rent, she can't insure her car, each evening i pick up my eldest daughter from the OM house, I coudn't care less about her Excellent, It might help some of the guys who come on here to get their head out of the sand. Glad to hear your doing well..
debtman Posted November 17, 2011 Posted November 17, 2011 russell1968, Excellent! My stbx told me about three weeks earlier than yours told you...and she brought OM into the house after I moved in with my parents, but, other than that (and the drug use), things are pretty similar. I'm doing better than I ever thought I would be a year ago. I'm happy, I have amazing times with my kids, I have more options and opportunities now than I have in years, on the woman front as well as overall life options, although, I'm still avoiding any "relationship" for now. Getting the D papers finalized and we should get those processed early next year. She's broken up with OM, is already looking for the next man, is realizing how hard it's going to be financially, emotionally, etc. Has tried several times to "encourage" me to reconcile, but I wouldn't ever put myself or my kids through that again. I NEVER thought she would cheat on me either. More proof that you never really know someone. Glad to hear you're doing well! Keep it up, focus on yourself and the kids and life will continue to get better and better!! Good luck and keep posting...
TroyNJ Posted November 19, 2011 Posted November 19, 2011 I really needed to see these last couple of posts, my wife left me 16 months ago and to be honest I haven't been doing very well...My biggest issue is I feel like a failure even though she cheated. Reading these posts has made me realize I must stop beating myself up. I have finally knocked her off the pedestal I put her on, now I just have to suck it up and move forward. The other issue is i have been totally detached from my 15 year old daughter, I have been made to look like a monster and there isn't much I can do at this point. I tell her I love her all the time (over facebook). Imagine spending a total of 30 minutes with your kid in the last year, that is what hurts so bad.
Author russell1968 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Update, The judged kicked back my first divorce petition, so my solicitor amended it and went back to the judge and he has granted my a divorce with the condition that my wife pay half the costs, ha-ha-ha. On another not i have been getting lot's of late night texts from my STBXW asking to come back home and she loved me and she was sorry! Bla, blal, bla. I have done a great job of ignoring these.. Did i mention she has moved in with the OM who loves 16 doors down MY street, LOL. Anyway life is good ! I'min a good place in my head and am enjoying being by myself..
Surfer203 Posted December 12, 2011 Posted December 12, 2011 Good for you buddy. Never settle for less than you deserve. We've seen them crawl back a million times. Glad you are happy and moving forward.
Author russell1968 Posted December 12, 2011 Author Posted December 12, 2011 Good for you buddy. Never settle for less than you deserve. We've seen them crawl back a million times. Glad you are happy and moving forward. I would rather die a sad lonely old man than have her back! I'm happy and really is nice being selfish
robf1971 Posted December 13, 2011 Posted December 13, 2011 Update, The judged kicked back my first divorce petition, so my solicitor amended it and went back to the judge and he has granted my a divorce with the condition that my wife pay half the costs, ha-ha-ha. On another not i have been getting lot's of late night texts from my STBXW asking to come back home and she loved me and she was sorry! Bla, blal, bla. I have done a great job of ignoring these.. Did i mention she has moved in with the OM who loves 16 doors down MY street, LOL. Anyway life is good ! I'min a good place in my head and am enjoying being by myself.. Hey Good to hear from you. You're right those texts are all just BS, if she really wanted back she'd be moved back in. I'm sure that's the last thing you would want anyway..
Author russell1968 Posted December 23, 2011 Author Posted December 23, 2011 I just got a letter from my solicitor today stating that my divorce will be finalised on the 01/02/2012. I have all of three children for all of xmas which i;m very gratefull for. i still hate the situation i am in but i'm determined to make the best of it
worldgonewrong Posted December 23, 2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Russell - you've made such huge strides this year. I hope you can, at some point, go back and review your thread (although it will be painful) and just clearly SEE how you've emerged from 'the other side'. I'm really very, very proud of you. Happy holidays to you & your kids this year. May God bless you.
Author russell1968 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 It's been a long time since iv'e been on LS, so i thought i would update my post, Became officially divorced on the 20/02/2012. My kids are now staying with me 5 nights a week, My x has moved in with her new boyfriend who lives 16 doors downs from me. I'm ok, still single but happy to be out of her insanity. 4
worldgonewrong Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 aside from the "16 doors down" part, you sound good, man.
Author russell1968 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 aside from the "16 doors down" part, you sound good, man. I am thanks WGW, She is also having his baby, i hit the booze for a couple o f weeks when i found this out!! However i have now come too my senses.. It was like the final nail in the relationship coffin..
elfman Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 A post of hope... great to hear you got out of the slump. It's too bad that they chose to live so damn close to you though. E.
Author russell1968 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 A post of hope... great to hear you got out of the slump. It's too bad that they chose to live so damn close to you though. E. It;s very true it sucks them living down the road, but it was way to expensive for me to move! Also i have a great house and my daughteres feel at home there! I won't stay there forever just for the next year or so. But i have a chance now to make my life the way i want it and i will.
standtall Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 She is also having his baby, . Good grief...she is his problem now.
Author russell1968 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 Glad your doing ok..russel...i took a lot of inspiration from you and the replies you recieved... really thought you`d make it. Guess some things aren`t meant to be. Good to see you reply after all this time Honestly, i'm happy i think we try to hang onot things too much as we are scared of the unknown. But it's fine. Being a single guy just getting on with his life is ok for me know..
marqueemoon4 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Good grief...she is his problem now. What is it with these bat**** crazy women who come out of marriages with children, meet someone new and immediately get knocked up? I think its because they have nothing to offer a man other than squeezing out a kid. It's really pretty pathetic. Glad to hear you're doing well Russell! 1
dreamingoftigers Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 With the casualness of the way that these women treat their marriages, why wouldn't they treat having a kid similarly? I wonder why the heck guys get involved with such women. Like really? My roommate just bagged two in a row right after she dropped her husband. The first guy lasted six months until her figured out she was a total leech. The second guy was his best friend. Theyve been together three months and they just moved in together. Her ex-husband still hangs around. Like WTF?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 If you truly want your partner back i think i've got some help for you. Why dont you contact Dr. Sunah for you situation. Website Home - The Great Olokija Temple (god of solutions) and mail is olokijatemple@gmail.com. Good luck Bla ha ha ha. Some spammers need to take a course in reading comprehension.
Steen719 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Honestly, i'm happy i think we try to hang onot things too much as we are scared of the unknown. But it's fine. Being a single guy just getting on with his life is ok for me know.. Ain't that the truth? Was for me. Happy for you.
Yasuandio Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Bravo, Russell! I am very happy for you and your girls. To have the little darlings 5 days a week was worth everything. Congratulations!
trippi1432 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Come now M4 - women don't get preggers by themselves, I didn't take my 1st exH back when he knocked up the woman he had been messing around with off and on for over a year. He skipped town on her about the same way he skipped town on me and his 3 year old daughter a few months earlier. Life is better when you put into perspective that continuing to hurt about the situation is giving the other person power over you to find happiness in your own life. Congratulations Russell, make the most of this time you have with your kids and live life to the fullest!
robf1971 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 It's been a long time since iv'e been on LS, so i thought i would update my post, Became officially divorced on the 20/02/2012. My kids are now staying with me 5 nights a week, My x has moved in with her new boyfriend who lives 16 doors downs from me. I'm ok, still single but happy to be out of her insanity. Hey mate!! Good to hear from you!!! Excellent news about the 5 nights a week. Your wife isn't stable enough to be their mother..
robf1971 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I wonder why the heck guys get involved with such women. The first guy lasted six months until her figured out she was a total leech. I think you've just answered your own question, ie it takes time to find out what they are like.
robf1971 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I am thanks WGW, She is also having his baby, i hit the booze for a couple o f weeks when i found this out!! However i have now come too my senses.. It was like the final nail in the relationship coffin.. She's not still getting into jealous rages at you is she?
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