Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 This is true... but I... well... I'd honestly feel a bit grumpy with only ONE. That can be arranged
Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Did you read his statement? The whole thing was only eight minutes, including "foreplay". And uhm yeah, no condom, no sex, at least not until there's been reasonable assurances made about STIs. And I'm not going to the doctor and getting into the stirrups for just anyone. And in general, if the dude is doing what's most comfortable for him, her's not doing what she needs to get off. Its about sharing, otherwise its just glorified masturbation. Agreed, I wasn't really talking about the OP at all, more about the guy who says he wants to use sensory deprivation condoms just to last longer, and I was just saying that was sort of not really the point. As for going without condoms thats because I don't sleep with anybody who I'm not in a serious committed relationship with, less for STD reasons (although I would be the guy who would suggested having us both tested) and more because even that 1% chance of having a child is too high for me unless I was in a position where it wouldn't bring my house of cards down.
Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 OMG! Someone finally gets it! It's too bad we don't live closer together, we seem to agree on alot of things
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Now, damn, you have me feeling regrets for posting in his thread now. Thanks, Chokie! don't post, I would much rather get a decent conversation going rather than someone b*tching and bringing their estrogen in this *I bet he replies to this*
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Eh, this is the same neurotic kid that created like five threads on the same topic of his Indianness...he's got a loose screw or two... still on your menopause?
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Err, so you guys had sex after going out for one week? You are a slut man. LOL I think I felt a bit discouraged because she was 21 and I was 18.
irc333 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Actually, that's the average amount of time a man lasts, around 8 to 10 mins. Okay, so yesterday I made out with my girlfriend and by 8 minutes I mean the frame of time we did not have any clothes on and were making out with each other that way. So I went down on her and everything but when it came to inserting it into her, I only lasted about 6 minutes (2 minutes spent on going down on her). I have seen pornstars go for 10 minutes and more and afterward she did have a smile on and grabbed me tight from the back of my head and locked lips with me. Unfortunately I feel that I didn't last long because after 6 minutes I was getting tired. It was my first time. She is 21 and I am 18. I just feel that I could have lasted longer and even though she was smiling she wasn't fully satisfied.
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 cool, but yea, I lost my virginity, yay! (hope she doesn't read this!)
Philetus Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think I felt a bit discouraged because she was 21 and I was 18. Congrats on popping the ol' cherry. Now, if you want to become a great lover (and I strongly encourage it for a number of reasons) you've got to put in the time. Number 1 - not cumming too fast. At this point in my life (I'm in my 40s) I can literally go until I want to have an orgasm almost every time. Sometimes my body will surprise me but I know myself well enough that it happens rarely. You can try those condoms that dull sensation. I hated them because it really dulls sensation but they do work. Look up male kegels and practice those. They also make your erection bigger and harder so it's a win/win. When you have sex, relax and breath. I know it's hard to do. Some positions give you more control. IIRC, good ol' missionary is good for this. Finally, if you start to feel like cumming, pull out and do something else (like going down on her). This leads to #2. Number 2 - learn the female anatomy. Take a course or buy a book on going down on women. There's the old joke that most men don't know where the clitoris is. Well, not only should you know where it is, but what to do with it. That goes for the G spot and other areas as well. The difficult part is, women like different things. So, you need a range of knowledge and techniques to please all the women you're with. Also, many women do not climax during vaginal sex so if you want to make them happy, you got to get good at using your hands, mouth and tongue. So, when it comes to sex, mix it up. It doesn't have to follow a pattern or a routine, in fact I avoid routines. Different positions may not do a lot for you but it makes a big difference for her. Intersperse penetration with periods of oral sex. It's like anything. If you want to get good, you've got to put in the time. Trust me, work at it and you will be rewarded.
jamesum Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I think I felt a bit discouraged because she was 21 and I was 18. What do you mean you felt discouraged? Was it her idea to have sex so early? Actually, that's the average amount of time a man lasts, around 8 to 10 mins. Wrong, it is 110 seconds.
Author Labster12 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 no one's idea, wasn't even the idea, we looked at each other, smiled and we were at it, I kinda felt like an amateur, she kissed me after it, and I even she played with my hair and then she rubbed my head and said "first time heh?" Dx I didn't answer.....
Westy Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 You are a real male. You see sex as a sport and you are aware of your score even on the first time. Congrats on being a real male. But, you are wrong about the time. IMO The time that a male should last is about 1 hr. At least most of my males could last the time. I had to register for an account just to reply to this. The only time a male is lasting an hour is if he emptied his revolver beforehand or you dont spin his wheels. porn isnt reality, often times they shoot the "end" of the movie first, then they go at it for the meat and potatos. According to the new study "Canadian and American Sex Therapists' Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies: How Long Should Intercourse Last?" adequate coitus lasts anywhere from three to seven minutes, not including the Pledge of Allegiance. This data, from all the normal people who see therapists for sexual problems, corresponds closely to earlier studies, which put the average at five to seven minutes. Read more: http://www.esquire.com/women/sex/average-sex-time-0709#ixzz108PsFaOr For this kids first time I think that was a marathon. I am well aware i was a complete and utter disappointment to the first girl I had sex with. I just got out of a 7 year relationship, having been with the girl for awhile, I would say on average the actual intercourse probably averaged 10-15mins, Id get her off first then do my thing. You are going to ruin this kids life telling him he needs to last an hour, either you are lying about your prior experiences, the guys werent into you, or took extreme measures to avoid ejaculating (i.e. spending the whole time thinking about something else completely non-sexual, which works, but frankly takes any enjoyment out of what you are doing)
LisaLee Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 For this kids first time I think that was a marathon. I agree... I was my SO's first time and he lasted all of... 1 minute? But in his defense he had not masturbated for an entire week beforehand.
Westy Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I agree... I was my SO's first time and he lasted all of... 1 minute? But in his defense he had not masturbated for an entire week beforehand. I just think there's been a couple people in this thread offering bad advice in regard to "lasting power". Its way more mental than physical hence the "OMG OMG OMG I'm gonna have sex!" on the first time causing the flood gates to open nigh immidiately. ANY study I have seen taken on a vast pool of men has the "average" lasting time under 10 minutes. Thats why my general idea is to ensure the girl gets off first. Takes pressure off and makes you last longer because you arent all worried about uncorking the champaign too early.
LisaLee Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I just think there's been a couple people in this thread offering bad advice in regard to "lasting power". Its way more mental than physical hence the "OMG OMG OMG I'm gonna have sex!" on the first time causing the flood gates to open nigh immidiately. ANY study I have seen taken on a vast pool of men has the "average" lasting time under 10 minutes. Thats why my general idea is to ensure the girl gets off first. Takes pressure off and makes you last longer because you arent all worried about uncorking the champaign too early. I have to agree with this. Sex usually is not very long for me, unless we have been doing it numerous times that day or are purposely dragging it out.
LisaLee Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 cool, but yea, I lost my virginity, yay! (hope she doesn't read this!) BTW, is this the same girl who you just broke up with who was kind of psycho?
jamesum Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Sex usually gets boring for me after 15 minutes. Maybe I can have a marathon sex with a new partner. But the excitement is gone after several times. I would rather just cuddle.
Philetus Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 According to the new study "Canadian and American Sex Therapists' Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies: How Long Should Intercourse Last?" adequate coitus lasts anywhere from three to seven minutes, not including the Pledge of Allegiance. This data, from all the normal people who see therapists for sexual problems, corresponds closely to earlier studies, which put the average at five to seven minutes. Why would we Canucks do the Pledge of Allegiance? Is there some other sexual Pledge of Allegiance of which I am not aware?
Philetus Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 The only time a male is lasting an hour is if he emptied his revolver beforehand or you dont spin his wheels. Now, I'm not necessarily disagreeing with you. But, I wanted to point out a couple of things. Sex isn't just intercourse. I know that you know that but I'm pointing it out for our young friend. You can spend more than two minutes going down on a girl. There are also other things you can do, too. It's entirely possible to last an indefinite period of time. I can do it. But then, I'm 44, not 18. I agree that at 18, it's unreasonable to expect to last very long unless it's your second time in a short period. You can still work at it though. There are ways to increase the time you have sex that don't take the enjoyment out of it. But, the bottom line is, I agree with you. Labster should not feel bad for lasting only a few minutes. In fact, he did well.
Sphere Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I would rather just cuddle. "Women want sex, men just want cuddles" is very apt here.
irc333 Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 Well, if you think about this biologically, men were made to orgasm (and within minutes, too) Biologically, it's optional for a woman to orgasm. So that's why there's all those jokes out there about men "firing off too soon" or the jokes comedians talking about finding a way to please a woman sexually, the mystery of the "G-spot" and so on. Though, both orgasming simultaneously, would achieve a higher likely hood of pregnancy. But typically a woman can get pregnant with only the man orgasming though.
Author Labster12 Posted September 21, 2010 Author Posted September 21, 2010 BTW, is this the same girl who you just broke up with who was kind of psycho? No, this is the girl I hooked up with after breaking up with the psycho.
bac Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 (edited) ANY study I have seen taken on a vast pool of men has the "average" lasting time under 10 minutes. Thats why my general idea is to ensure the girl gets off first. Takes pressure off and makes you last longer because you arent all worried about uncorking the champaign too early. How do people do the studies? See a big picture of the research. Can it be really oblective? The numbers are going to be totally different if you consider age of partners, type of a relationship, level testosterone in blood (genetics), emotional balance, attitude toward sex, hunger for sex and many other conditions. IMO, as a generalization, the level of sexual energy is going to be high if a man in 20s and a girl in 30/40s, type of relationship is short-term, a person has a high testosterone level genetically, partners are out of emotional balance, open/unlimited attitude towards sex for fun, partners are hungry for sex. From my experience, some men can last several hrs (4-5 hrs) in the situations. They use special skills to last so long which are not the skills that you have mentioned in your post. The truth is that I do not know their real potential because I was not able to have sex so long. So, I asked them to stop. The guys, mid/late 20s, could have sex for several hrs and they had never ejaculated during the encounter. I had an impression that they could last forever and that they had 24-hr lasting erection. Please do not get me wrong, I do not mean that every man should be able to perform like that. I just mean that there are some guys who have superpowers under certain circumstances. IMO, for LTRs, the primary question is how often a man can have sex. Edited September 21, 2010 by bac
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 21, 2010 Posted September 21, 2010 I'm mostly flabbergasted by Labster's report that it was 8 minutes from the initial move to make out to fully naked sex, including oral, and done! She must have really wanted you, dude!
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