bac Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 A guy that constantly finishes first and leaves me feeling unsatisfied is just asking to get himself dumped. I could go all night. eight minutes total . . . would probably piss me off. I agree with that. Perhaps, I am unrealistic, but, I would expect any guy who is genetically East Indian to be great at tantric sex, kamasutra and oil sexual massage to bring me to an super powerful orgasm.
alphamale Posted September 19, 2010 Posted September 19, 2010 She is 21 and I am 18. I just feel that I could have lasted longer and even though she was smiling she wasn't fully satisfied. naah you did fine but you might want to spend more than 2 minutes giving her head. 15 minutes or so should bring her to orgasm orally
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 Does she know this? I imagine the first time is short for most guys. I wouldn't worry about it. I didn't tell her o_o
Author Labster12 Posted September 20, 2010 Author Posted September 20, 2010 By the way, didnt you just ask her out yesterday? talking to me? No, more so like a week ago.
Madilyn09 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Honestly, I was with my ex for 4 years I'm 19 now and he's 23, he lasted about 10 minutes every time. His was probably more for selfish reasons but I think it's all psychological. When you continue to have more experiences you will learn that there are ways to hold it longer just by thinking of other things or telling yourself mentally to slow down. If she likes oral sex then you should stop before you cum and go down on her for a while and just go back and forth. Always make sure that both of you orgasm if possible!
Pfiend101 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 In terms of actual penetration on my first time it lasted probably 30 seconds, if that. Not even exagerating at all... Yeah I'm that good Hey as long as you got off who cares.
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 HE asked if it was bad, if its always that fast, its a problem, and I mean "several times" all night. I'm too busy and it take too much trouble to clear an evening or a night to spend with a special guy to have things be over in less than ten minutes. And two minutes of oral? That's a joke on her. Men who are selfish in bed drive me nuts. I've found that the behavior there is more telling than almost any other interaction you have with them. I agree that guys who are selfish in bed aren't good partners, but that's not this kid's situation at all. It was his FIRST TIME. No one is a master of the boudoir on their first time, for crying out loud. You sound a little mean spirited and unsatisfied, to be honest.
brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I agree that guys who are selfish in bed aren't good partners, but that's not this kid's situation at all. It was his FIRST TIME. No one is a master of the boudoir on their first time, for crying out loud. You sound a little mean spirited and unsatisfied, to be honest. I am "unsatisfied" and didn't intend to come off as mean. I still maintain that "in general" sex, lovemaking, whatever, should take longer than the undressing.
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I am "unsatisfied" and didn't intend to come off as mean. I still maintain that "in general" sex, lovemaking, whatever, should take longer than the undressing. Are you paying attention that it was this kid's FIRST TIME EVER having sex? Do you still maintain such rigid rules under those circumstances?
brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Are you paying attention that it was this kid's FIRST TIME EVER having sex? Do you still maintain such rigid rules under those circumstances? I think if its once in a while, stuff happens. But I'm not going to give a blanket "aww, sure its fine" either, if that's what you are looking for. Men are fire crackers, women are furnaces. One lights and can go off BANG!, the other needs time to get going. If he really wants to be a good lover, he needs to be willing to know and understand the differences in how the sexes get off. I'm not a fan of giving head, but I do it for someone I care about because I like giving that person pleasure. If he were to turn around and be one two three, oh my gosh I'm coming, and leave me feeling turned on with nothing to do about it, that's kinda dissappointing. By all means, first time, cool. i don't have sex with virgins so I don't know if the first time arguement is valid. I do know that the question was, was this amount of time acceptable, and I say, no, not really.
bac Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Are you paying attention that it was this kid's FIRST TIME EVER having sex? Do you still maintain such rigid rules under those circumstances? That was his first time and he was so emotionally detouched from his girl so he could manage to count exact time of his first sex! That was the most important thing for him during sex and he had no emotions. Would you want to have sex with him? Why should women help to create the unrealistic expectations about sex in man's minds? The truth is that being good at sex is a rare talent among males. But, many men believe that they are great at sex while they are really bad. It happens because women always feel sorry for the poor things and lie to men how they are great at sex, at producing orgasms, and, of course, their sperm tastes as strawberry shortcake. Some men have no idea what is really matter for sex to be good and they do all the mechanical stuff counting minutes and providing different bad jobs. As result of that, men use women for sex and men really believe that women enjoy the sex the way most men can provide.
USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 That was his first time and he was so emotionally detouched from his girl so he could manage to count exact time of his first sex! That was the most important thing for him during sex and he had no emotions. Would you want to have sex with him? Eh, this is the same neurotic kid that created like five threads on the same topic of his Indianness...he's got a loose screw or two...
Mike B. Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 By all means, first time, cool. i don't have sex with virgins so I don't know if the first time arguement is valid. I do know that the question was, was this amount of time acceptable, and I say, no, not really. Don't you think you are being a bit hard on the lad? He is 18. I was clocking in about 10 minutes at 18. Now I often go all night in many positions and have to fight for me to get one off and it still doesn't happen on many nights. That began to happen not too many years past 18. That could be him in a few years as well. Also, in my experience, I find that most women who say they like it all night long, they don't really mean that. That seems to be just some cool and sexy stuff to say. After they come a couple of times and you are still banging away, they just pray you will get off after about one hour. It seems that 15 minutes seems to be good on average as long as everyone gets off in the end. OP, I am just happy to see you post something nonrace related so I want to encourage you. First, with practice, you will last longer. Just keep at it.
Mike B. Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Eh, this is the same neurotic kid that created like five threads on the same topic of his Indianness...he's got a loose screw or two... Now, damn, you have me feeling regrets for posting in his thread now. Thanks, Chokie!
Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Hey as long as you got off who cares. True, and on top of that the longest I've had sex (as in penetration) was about 20-30 minutes, Thats like a 5900% increase. Now thats progress!
Pfiend101 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I started buying those condoms that numb you up a lil bit. Helps me last much longer.
Rorschach Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 I started buying those condoms that numb you up a lil bit. Helps me last much longer. Personally I'd rather enjoy sex in the most physically enjoyable way for me, which is sans condom. She won't care if I don't last as long if I do my job right anyway. People misunderstand the point of sex anyway, using the metaphor of men=firecracker women=furnace, the foreplay is stoking the fire, the kissing, the groping, the oral, its all designed to make her all hot and bothered, when you actually get around to the literal sex part it's the finale, and lasting 10-15 minutes even as a finale is perfectly long enough. If the foreplay was done well she may even get the big O while your in her (or sometimes before if you want to take the pressure off yourself) I may only have had one partner, but it was a long term committed relationship and what I've lacked in diversity I've made up for in sheer man hours
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Personally I'd rather enjoy sex in the most physically enjoyable way for me, which is sans condom. She won't care if I don't last as long if I do my job right anyway. People misunderstand the point of sex anyway, using the metaphor of men=firecracker women=furnace, the foreplay is stoking the fire, the kissing, the groping, the oral, its all designed to make her all hot and bothered, when you actually get around to the literal sex part it's the finale, and lasting 10-15 minutes even as a finale is perfectly long enough. If the foreplay was done well she may even get the big O while your in her (or sometimes before if you want to take the pressure off yourself) OMG! Someone finally gets it!
TaurusTerp Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ouch, man. 8 minutes? That sucks man. My first time, I went for 3 hours and both women had 15 prolonged orgasms each (I made sure it was even so they wouldn't get jealous). Afterwards, one of the women said I had restored her faith in humanity and God. The other one had gone to get me ice cream.
Knittress Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 you actually get around to the literal sex part it's the finale, and lasting 10-15 minutes even as a finale is perfectly long enough. If the foreplay was done well she may even get the big O while your in her (or sometimes before if you want to take the pressure off yourself) This is true... but I... well... I'd honestly feel a bit grumpy with only ONE.
witabix Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ouch, man. 8 minutes? That sucks man. My first time, I went for 3 hours and both women had 15 prolonged orgasms each (I made sure it was even so they wouldn't get jealous). Afterwards, one of the women said I had restored her faith in humanity and God. The other one had gone to get me ice cream. Impressive, very impressive. Especially the ice cream bit. I wouldn't bother with two women. I can't satisfy one, why would I want to piss two of them off?
naya1 Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Ouch, man. 8 minutes? That sucks man. My first time, I went for 3 hours and both women had 15 prolonged orgasms each (I made sure it was even so they wouldn't get jealous). Afterwards, one of the women said I had restored her faith in humanity and God. The other one had gone to get me ice cream. hi there!! /flirt
jamesum Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 talking to me? No, more so like a week ago. Err, so you guys had sex after going out for one week? You are a slut man. LOL
brainygirl Posted September 20, 2010 Posted September 20, 2010 Personally I'd rather enjoy sex in the most physically enjoyable way for me, which is sans condom. She won't care if I don't last as long if I do my job right anyway. People misunderstand the point of sex anyway, using the metaphor of men=firecracker women=furnace, the foreplay is stoking the fire, the kissing, the groping, the oral, its all designed to make her all hot and bothered, when you actually get around to the literal sex part it's the finale, and lasting 10-15 minutes even as a finale is perfectly long enough. If the foreplay was done well she may even get the big O while your in her (or sometimes before if you want to take the pressure off yourself) I may only have had one partner, but it was a long term committed relationship and what I've lacked in diversity I've made up for in sheer man hours Did you read his statement? The whole thing was only eight minutes, including "foreplay". And uhm yeah, no condom, no sex, at least not until there's been reasonable assurances made about STIs. And I'm not going to the doctor and getting into the stirrups for just anyone. And in general, if the dude is doing what's most comfortable for him, her's not doing what she needs to get off. Its about sharing, otherwise its just glorified masturbation.
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