alclarkey Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 "Chemistry" is what animals use to select a mate. But we aren't animals, we're human beings. We should be using logic and reason to select a good mate.
Sphere Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 "Chemistry" is what animals use to select a mate. But we aren't animals, we're human beings. We should be using logic and reason to select a good mate. Human beings are animals. In fact we are worse than animals, we are the most barbaric and destructive living organism to inhabit this once, pristine planet.
meerkat stew Posted September 16, 2010 Posted September 16, 2010 Human beings are animals. In fact we are worse than animals, we are the most barbaric and destructive living organism to inhabit this once, pristine planet. The point is that unlike any other animals, we are self-conscious, when looking in the mirror, we see an individual self as opposed to a reflection of an animal. The same tools that allow us to be so destructive also allow us to be constructive. As much as one can claim we are ruining the planet, we are also conquering mortality more and more each day. No one knows which way the scale will tip in the long-run, but it's unfair to categorize the human species as merely destructive. I agree with alclarkey, and was thinking about this thread today. When I hear "chemistry," and it is almost always from a female source, I hear "astrology," "palm reading," "crystal ball," "fate," "hormones," "emotion." When I hear "I didn't find him attractive, or I'm not attracted to him," from a woman, I hear "adult," "rational thought," "honesty," "sincerity," "accountability." Of course, I find the first group of descriptors obnoxious and undesirable and the second set attractive and desirable, others may feel differently.
Mad Max Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Chemistry is code for "I'm not attracted to him". I very seldom, if ever hear that term from a guy.
Mad Max Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Chemistry is a term used by women. It means "I'm not attracted to him". I have very seldom, if ever heard a guy use that term.
tami-chan Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Scared of being honest are we? lol..hmmm....no not "scared of being honest"-just don't enjoy hurting another person's feelings...at any rate, how is "don't enjoy being ask that" equal to scared of being honest? I'm flattered when a woman is interested in me, but I'll be open and honest with her about my feelings, try it sometime. Try it sometime? you are being unnecessarily offensive..not sure why. I do not think I have ever exchanged posts with you-unless you are some ass_h*le who used to post with a different username-if that is the case, dude, get over me. Otherwise, chill out, your catty-ness is too girly !
alclarkey Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Human beings are animals. In fact we are worse than animals, we are the most barbaric and destructive living organism to inhabit this once, pristine planet. You don't speak for the entire race. None of the people I know are barbaric and destructive.
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 You don't speak for the entire race. None of the people I know are barbaric and destructive. Human race as a collective is destructive, just step outside your house and take a look around.
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Otherwise, chill out, your catty-ness is too girly ! "Those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones".
tami-chan Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 "Those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones". Well, at least you are admitting you are catty and girly
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Well, at least you are admitting you are catty and girly Have you ever seen a Spartan Warrior with painted nails? No, therefore I cannot possibly be catty or girly. My point to you was not to be offensive, just honest, straightforward while exercising tact. Tact is very useful, but all too often it's used as a smokescreen to be dishonest, now before you shoot your load barrel, I am not directing any of this at you specifically, though it does apply to you. I do not need my feelings spared, I want total honesty, if a woman isn't interested in me then that's fair enough, I'm an acquired taste and I'm not everyone's cup of tea, even if I think I should be. And as for you earlier point, I'm not a troll nor an alter ego, this is my first interaction with you and one that will leave in the memory for all of sixteen. five minutes.
tami-chan Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Have you ever seen a Spartan Warrior with painted nails? No, therefore I cannot possibly be catty or girly. a Spartan Warrior!!!! Hmmm...let's see.. those guys like being "together":rolleyes: , didn't day? They liked each other's company too much, I think . My point to you was not to be offensive, just honest, straightforward while exercising tact. Tact is very useful, but all too often it's used as a smokescreen to be dishonest, now before you shoot your load barrel, I am not directing any of this at you specifically, though it does apply to you. No need to make excuses, your point was taken as intended- to insult and that's fine. How does "it" apply to me? Maybe you like being hounded by "whys???" I like guys I don't like to just disappear and not ask questions. You sound like a guy who cannot take a simple "no". For someone like you, I will have to say (if pestered)..."Mr. Spartan-man, I am just not acquiring a liking for you, I have better taste"" And as for you earlier point, I'm not a troll nor an alter ego, this is my first interaction with you and one that will leave in the memory for all of sixteen. five minutes. riiight.... you promise?
dispatch3d Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 lol..hmmm....no not "scared of being honest"-just don't enjoy hurting another person's feelings...at any rate, how is "don't enjoy being ask that" equal to scared of being honest? Try it sometime? you are being unnecessarily offensive..not sure why. I do not think I have ever exchanged posts with you-unless you are some ass_h*le who used to post with a different username-if that is the case, dude, get over me. Otherwise, chill out, your catty-ness is too girly ! He's being catty because your first message is actually offensive to guys (probably not offensive to you though). I felt offended the first time I read it too.... but then moved on cause i'm real cool ;-)
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Oh I can take no, what I don't like hearing is poor excuses of "I didn't want to hurt your feelings", spare me please, I'm grown man, I can take rejection and laugh it off, why? Because you're just one woman of many, you are no different to the woman on your right or your left. You are a woman, one of many women. I don't ask why when a woman rejects me, she has her reasons and that's fine with me, as I say, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. A woman who avoids my calls and then approaches me to say "Hi" in public is getting ignored, why? Because she is a non-entity and if she doesn't have the basic respect to be honest and say "I'm not interested", then I do not have any respect for her to acknowledge her existence. I think that's fair? Don't you? Rejection is something too many males get uptight about, I can see why, it's not nice, but rejection is just a stepping stone to better and greater things. Rejection doesn't equate to failure, it never has done. Rejection at times is a good thing, it makes us feel human. Also, I don't get invested in a woman for many months, it took me nearly a year to even feel what most feel in two months for their SO. I like to take my time and don't get too invested and why? Because I learned from my past mistakes, if I am dating a girl and she doesn't call back that's fine, I always spin more than one plate, so she becomes back up and option 2 becomes option 1.
dispatch3d Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Yeah sphere I agree, rejection doesn't bother me at all. The ones that actually annoy me are the girls who act all friendly and welcoming in person (I'll let you know when I'm drinking next, oh my god your here, blah blah blah) yet ignore texts and phone calls. Although I don't really feel much of an effect from this because I never/veryvery rarely text twice without receiving any, and I generally only call once (twice max).....
phineas Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Oh I can take no, what I don't like hearing is poor excuses of "I didn't want to hurt your feelings", spare me please, I'm grown man, I can take rejection and laugh it off, why? Because you're just one woman of many, you are no different to the woman on your right or your left. You are a woman, one of many women. I don't ask why when a woman rejects me, she has her reasons and that's fine with me, as I say, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. A woman who avoids my calls and then approaches me to say "Hi" in public is getting ignored, why? Because she is a non-entity and if she doesn't have the basic respect to be honest and say "I'm not interested", then I do not have any respect for her to acknowledge her existence. I think that's fair? Don't you? Rejection is something too many males get uptight about, I can see why, it's not nice, but rejection is just a stepping stone to better and greater things. Rejection doesn't equate to failure, it never has done. Rejection at times is a good thing, it makes us feel human. Also, I don't get invested in a woman for many months, it took me nearly a year to even feel what most feel in two months for their SO. I like to take my time and don't get too invested and why? Because I learned from my past mistakes, if I am dating a girl and she doesn't call back that's fine, I always spin more than one plate, so she becomes back up and option 2 becomes option 1. I am ALMOST at this point. I don't get invested. I can care less if they reject me. Hell, I can even be friendly to them AFTER they formally reject me because I just don't care. But, I don't play the ignore game. I just call them on their BS the next time I see them & then I usually don't have to deal with them anymore.
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Yeah sphere I agree, rejection doesn't bother me at all. The ones that actually annoy me are the girls who act all friendly and welcoming in person (I'll let you know when I'm drinking next, oh my god your here, blah blah blah) yet ignore texts and phone calls. Although I don't really feel much of an effect from this because I never/veryvery rarely text twice without receiving any, and I generally only call once (twice max)..... Same here. I ring once and text once, if I don't get a response their number gets deleted and I find someone else. I don't play games, unless I know the odds are stacked in my favour.
dispatch3d Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 Same here. I ring once and text once, if I don't get a response their number gets deleted and I find someone else. I don't play games, unless I know the odds are stacked in my favour. I actually deleted that particular girls number because her behaviour did piss me off. Normally I don't bother deleting the number because idk whats the point? I'm not calling her whether I have it or not but at the same time I have better things to do than immediately delete her number. Maybe I should clean my phone out at some point, but then again one of these days maybe i'll actually have to use one of those numbers for some reason....
phineas Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I actually deleted that particular girls number because her behaviour did piss me off. Normally I don't bother deleting the number because idk whats the point? I'm not calling her whether I have it or not but at the same time I have better things to do than immediately delete her number. Maybe I should clean my phone out at some point, but then again one of these days maybe i'll actually have to use one of those numbers for some reason.... I leave the number so I know it's them calling. Then I can decide if I want to pick up or not.
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I leave the number so I know it's them calling. Then I can decide if I want to pick up or not. If that happens and I find out its them, I say they have the wrong number and hang up.
phineas Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 If that happens and I find out its them, I say they have the wrong number and hang up. If I pick up I like to act like I don't know who it is, then act surprised & ask them how they are. Then I tell them i'm busy with friends & tell them i'll talk to them "soon" & hang up. Basically the same bs they did to me back when they started blowing me off.
Sphere Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 If I pick up I like to act like I don't know who it is, then act surprised & ask them how they are. Then I tell them i'm busy with friends & tell them i'll talk to them "soon" & hang up. Basically the same bs they did to me back when they started blowing me off. I'll have to try that, it seems a lot more composed, cheers dude, if it happens again, I'll give it a walnut whirl.
flying Posted September 17, 2010 Posted September 17, 2010 I find all this discussion about the relative merits of the words "chemistry" and "attraction" to be a bit odd. To me, "chemistry" is harder-edged, scientific, practical. "Attraction" is more mealy-mouthed. Anyway, they're just two different ways of talking euphemistically about pheromones, regardless of the word used.
tami-chan Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 He's being catty because your first message is actually offensive to guys (probably not offensive to you though). I felt offended the first time I read it too.... but then moved on cause I'm real cool ;-) So let me get this straight. You ENJOY being ask by a girl you turned down why she was being turned down? Because I don't...and that is really strange ( and quite disturbing) that you guys are offended by a woman who does not enjoy having to explain ( and hurt another) why she is not interested in dating him-does not mean I would not tell him if asked, 'just means I do not enjoy being in the position.
tami-chan Posted September 18, 2010 Posted September 18, 2010 Oh I can take no, what I don't like hearing is poor excuses of "I didn't want to hurt your feelings", spare me please, I'm grown man, I can take rejection and laugh it off, why? Because you're just one woman of many, you are no different to the woman on your right or your left. You are a woman, one of many women. I don't ask why when a woman rejects me, she has her reasons and that's fine with me, as I say, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Where did I say that I will not tell the guy I do not like that I do not want to "date" him????? Where? quote me. I said I do not enjoy being ask why (after I dump him)...as in, "Tami-chan, why wouldn't you go out with me???... A woman who avoids my calls and then approaches me to say "Hi" in public is getting ignored, why? Because she is a non-entity and if she doesn't have the basic respect to be honest knowledge her existence. I think that's fair? Don't you? I do not see it as a question of fairness or deserving. If that is how you choose to handle that so be it. Who cares? I mean, why would you care if she deserved to be treated that way or if it was fair or not of she was a non-entity? Indifference, would be apt. Rejection is something too many males get uptight about, I can see why, it's not nice, but rejection is just a stepping stone to better and greater things. Rejection doesn't equate to failure, it never has done. Rejection at times is a good thing, it makes us feel human. yeah ok, Dr. Phil. Got it! Also, I don't get invested in a woman for many months, it took me nearly a year to even feel what most feel in two months for their SO. I like to take my time and don't get too invested and why? Because I learned from my past mistakes, if I am dating a girl and she doesn't call back that's fine, I always spin more than one plate, so she becomes back up and option 2 becomes option 1. Oh so she "disrespects" you by not calling back, but not enough that you still keep her number as option 2...makes sense...:rolleyes:
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