Untouchable_Fire Posted September 11, 2010 Posted September 11, 2010 You're divorced. Out of curiosity--why are you not waving your own clearly red flag, again? MD, good luck tomorrow! Update, update! Because in a divorce... I lose everything and gain nothing. I've already spent 2 years living in a hole digging myself out of a debt that wasn't mine. I freely admit that I married the wrong person and I'm sure she would say the same... Is that what you wanted to hear? Both people go into a marriage with the intention of making it work. Realistically though... marriage doesn't work at all.
Author Mutant Debutante Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Cheers, Loveshack. First date on Saturday, two thumbs up. Second date on Monday, two thumbs up. Sorry, I was too busy to update right away.
Stung Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Because in a divorce... I lose everything and gain nothing. I've already spent 2 years living in a hole digging myself out of a debt that wasn't mine. I freely admit that I married the wrong person and I'm sure she would say the same... Is that what you wanted to hear? Both people go into a marriage with the intention of making it work. Realistically though... marriage doesn't work at all. Yes, I would rather hear your personal story than your generalized anger and bitterness. I'm sorry you made a wrong choice, and that you experienced financial repercussions. You should know that that happens to both men and women. Cheers, Loveshack. First date on Saturday, two thumbs up. Second date on Monday, two thumbs up. Sorry, I was too busy to update right away. Aw, no details? Did you tell him about your sisters?
Author Mutant Debutante Posted September 14, 2010 Author Posted September 14, 2010 Aw, no details? Did you tell him about your sisters? Sorry, didn't know if anyone would be interested in a more detailed update. I'm kind of giddy about it so I"m happy to spill So Saturday I met him at this really great little cafe and there was a jazz trio. We drank coffee and listened to the music but I was too nervous to tell him about my sisters there, it was kind of crowded and he was sitting really close so I felt a little awkward. I felt like the parts of my body that were almost touching his were magnetized or something, you know that feeling? After that we went for a walk through the Botanical Gardens. We walked around for over an hour and that's when I did tell him because it felt easier to talk walking side by side than when he was looking right in my face with a bunch of people all around. He seemed interested, didn't seem put off. He asked a few questions about my sisters and about why I took custody away from our mom, but didn't push too hard. He said he has a niece who's almost the same age as my little sister. After our walk I had to go to my fill-in weekend job, and he came with me and stayed for one drink, and then left so I wouldn't be distracted. I walked him to the door and hugged him outside but there was no kiss bc I was at my work. Monday we both had some free time in the afternoon so we met at lunchtime and I brought some sandwiches and we ate in the park, and then we went bowling. This time he drove me to where I had to go after and we kissed in the car, a few times, lingering hot kisses. He's an awesome kisser and my face was so red for like an hour after that! Monday night he called me after my sister was in bed and we talked for almost an hour and decided to try to meet this Friday for lunch again. Aaaah what am I doing? I already really like him. I'm getting back on the rollercoaster!
melodymatters Posted September 14, 2010 Posted September 14, 2010 Yay ! Good for you and of COURSE we wanted the update ! Such a lovely, grounded person deserves another, lets hope he is as good as he seems out of the gate and regardless, ENJOY those "magnetized" tingly feelings, they are far and few between !
Stung Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I fully concur with MM. The rollercoaster can be scary, but just try to enjoy this part of the ride--those magnetic feelings, the lingering kisses, your heart beating a little faster--embrace the rush, feel alive. I for one appreciate the update, I like to live vicariously . I'm glad he wasn't phased by the kid issue.
Author Mutant Debutante Posted September 15, 2010 Author Posted September 15, 2010 Yay ! Good for you and of COURSE we wanted the update ! Such a lovely, grounded person deserves another, lets hope he is as good as he seems out of the gate and regardless, ENJOY those "magnetized" tingly feelings, they are far and few between ! I fully concur with MM. The rollercoaster can be scary, but just try to enjoy this part of the ride--those magnetic feelings, the lingering kisses, your heart beating a little faster--embrace the rush, feel alive. I for one appreciate the update, I like to live vicariously . I'm glad he wasn't phased by the kid issue. Aw thanks so much you guys. I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high and just have a good time right now. It's been a long time since I felt the full-on stomach pings and I don't want to overanalyze it. We have another early afternoon date on Friday and he has said something about dinner soon, too. :bunny: EDIT: I don't know if he was totally unphased, but he did take it in stride, seems like he's willing to see how it goes. Can't ask for more.
jennifer4 Posted September 15, 2010 Posted September 15, 2010 I'm so glad he's accepting of you having a child to care for. The dates sound wonderful! Good luck, it sounds promising..
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