Feelin Frisky Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Girls do it through sign language Girl 1: *nudges Girl 2, raises eyebrows and glances at other girl who is ugly or dressed shockingly* Girl 2: *raises eyebrows in response* You're cute.
spookie Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 It's perfectly normal to wonder if one is seen as "pretty" or not. I think about it from time to time and wonder what other people think. It doesn't impact what I think of myself (I'm the shiznit!) but it's a concept for consideration. Our goal in life is not to be the nastiest looking person we can, it's to look our best. I know a many men find me attractive, others probably don't find me so attractive. Either way I'm going to go for who I personally think is hot. I fail to see how wondering if you're pretty is shallow. It seems to be a normal function of human behavior to me. I didn't say wondering if you're pretty is shallow. I said, wondering how hot you are to get a better understanding of which guys you "can get", is shallow, as implication is you think all anyone cares about, is BMI. If you read Leigh's threads, you'll see this questioning of her attractiveness is a manifestation of her struggles with an eating disorder. Not so innocent as just shooting the s!ht. I'm sorry, Leigh, I respect how far you've come, but I don't think any of these responses are helpful in any way.
shadowplay Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 Girls do it through sign language Girl 1: *nudges Girl 2, raises eyebrows and glances at other girl who is ugly or dressed shockingly* Girl 2: *raises eyebrows in response* wow, that's mean. I can honestly say I would never share a glance or laugh with a friend over another girl's unattractiveness. In fact when people do that kind of thing it really disgusts me.
OliveOyl Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 (edited) If the point of this thread is just for "fun" than that's cool. But if there is any seriousness meant here, I don't get the point of this post. Most people (95%+) are not "hot" by any of the definitions in this thread. But most people do end up getting married, or at least having a significant other, if they really want that. You don't have to be "hot" to find a partner. Otherwise there would not be 6.9 billion "unhot" people on this planet. As my mother used to say, "There's never a pot so crooked, you can't find a lid to fit it" Edited September 9, 2010 by OliveOyl
spookie Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 wow, that's mean. I can honestly say I would never share a glance or laugh with a friend over another girl's unattractiveness. In fact when people do that kind of thing it really disgusts me. Exactly what I was thinking. It disgusts me and is one of the few things that make me feel distinctly uncomfortable.
zicke Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 That happens to me with regard to the opposite sex - ugly men are just transparent. But I notice ugly women, and whisper about them to my friends: "OMG look at what she's wearing!" "She really needs to do something about that nose", etc. Funny how ugly people of the opposite sex are transparent but I really notice ugly people of the same sex! Projection much? You seem like a really nasty ugly person. As to the hot question: Most men find skinny blondes with tans and big boobs hot. It just is. In fact, the women might not actually be "pretty", but they check the "hotness" boxes on most men's internal hot list. For example, a friend of mine is dating a skinny blonde chick. I personally do not think she is pretty, but, she checks the "boxes". He has said to me many times every one of his friends thinks she's hot. Hot is someone men want to have sex with. It denotes nothing beyond that. Sexy is something else completely, and georgous or pretty are other things. Hot is only the initial "do I want to sex her" reaction. Strive for more.
jamesum Posted September 9, 2010 Posted September 9, 2010 I know a many men find me attractive, others probably don't find me so attractive. Either way I'm going to go for who I personally think is hot. I wish I could have your "What I want comes first" mentality in seeking a partner. Im a guy, but Im kind of like many women in terms of self-consciousness. For me, being with someone who finds me attractive is important. Thats why I always wait for the opposite sex to make the move first because that way I dont need to wonder if she is attracted to me physically or not.
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