What really matters to women. (physically)

[Mangomonkey]

I been seeing some height threads on here lately. Its a plus but its not that big of a deal. The one quality that can beat everything else including height is how fit you are.

 

Its something every man can get if they try. So. Hit the gym. Build some muscle. And i bet you wont be complaining as much on your dating life. And trust me. its true. I even asked a few woman this.

 

Would you still date a guy if he was ugly or short if he had a nice body? hell yea. Wouldnt it be nice to walk down the mall and your guy look like he could beat up the other chicks man? or some guy make some nasty gestures toward you and your guy knock him out? AND look good doing it?

 

So. All the insecure guys out there. Do some pushups. and hit the gym

[Eeyore79]

I second this. I have dumped guys who were 5ft10-6ft2 because they were skinny and weedy, and I just found it unattractive. One of my exes was 5ft9, but he was incredibly muscular and sexy, and I felt like he could protect me even though he wasn't a tall guy.

[anne1707]

If he is in proportion... :love:

[Mangomonkey]

thank you. and you know the best part. This is something all men can get. (if they got the money, time, or creativity) Everyone might get a different build but as long as you got something. You would do fine. Plus. Its a nice hobby, relieves stress, builds confidence, builds self worth, and makes you healthy.

 

Now that i think about it i feel kinda bad for women. Cause all a man needs for sex appeal is a gym. A woman on the other hand...

 

and please no one say money or personality cause this isnt what are are talking about lol

[Philetus]

I'm a dude but getting in shape and building muscle is one of the best things I ever did for a number of reasons.

 

I'm 5'9". Two years ago, I weighed 185 and most of that was a burgeoning waistline which I was feeling incredibly self-conscious about. Then I got gout twice (google it). That was enough for me. I saw my future which was more weight and more health problems.

 

I'm now a brown belt in Tae Kwon Do, lift weights, and do rigorous cardio training. I weigh 170 and dropped 4" off my waist line. I'm muscular and have a nice 'V' shape. At 44, I'm in the best shape of my life. I play basketball with guys almost half my age and run circles around them.

 

I've been on dates where women literally couldn't keep their hands off me. It was as if I was so outside their normal experience, they had to try me out, or get what they could.

 

My current gf is crazy hot physically, mentally, spiritually.... She's the whole package and I hope we're together forever. She would not have looked at me two years ago.

[lilbunny]

I have to be honest and say that it isn't that much of a priority.

 

Appearance-wise I guess my type on paper is tall and thin, though I often don't end up with them.

 

I like quirky types and generally they aren't the sort to frequent gyms. Face is more important than body and I like faces with character.

 

Suspect I am in the minority though!

[Dante311]

I dunno... @ 6'1" with a symmetrical face that's supposedly above average looking and NOT hot and my body (11%bf @ 190-200 lbs) with a vtaper, broad shoulders, big arms (cut), and a larger chest (wide) with a small waist...

 

gets me looks from the wrong sort. If I tanned and spiked/slobbed ****tons of moose in my hair.. oh boy

[MrNate]

lol. most ladies like a little flex here and there.

[Rorschach]

In this man's opinion (manpinion?) I think more than anything body build is important, more than height/hair color/facial features, alot of times it just comes down to fat, skinny, average, and toned, which is good because these are things we can change about ourselves with a little hard work and dedication.

[elaina]

I been seeing some height threads on here lately. Its a plus but its not that big of a deal. The one quality that can beat everything else including height is how fit you are.

 

Its something every man can get if they try. So. Hit the gym. Build some muscle. And i bet you wont be complaining as much on your dating life. And trust me. its true. I even asked a few woman this.

 

Would you still date a guy if he was ugly or short if he had a nice body? hell yea. Wouldnt it be nice to walk down the mall and your guy look like he could beat up the other chicks man? or some guy make some nasty gestures toward you and your guy knock him out? AND look good doing it?

 

So. All the insecure guys out there. Do some pushups. and hit the gym

 

Agreed.

 

For me, a man who is physically strong and looks it (though he doesn't have to be a muscleman) is a big turnon!

 

I used to be very fit and am working to get back in shape, cause I understand that many men like fit women (though not musclewomen)

[Dante311]

Agreed.

 

For me, a man who is physically strong and looks it (though he doesn't have to be a muscleman) is a big turnon!

 

I used to be very fit and am working to get back in shape, cause I understand that many men like fit women (though not musclewomen)

 

 

Personally being in the field of health & fitness... being very fit... etc etc.. i'd rather a semi-thick (non-excess flab) brunette with a cute face... glasses... killer smile and amazing personality to match... with intelligence and the ability to articulate. That is MY perfect, ideal, goddess of a woman.

[MikeCohen]

@Bontrager LOL

[florence of suburbia]

Taking intellect and personality out of it for a moment (which is huge, of course)...

 

I would say if you're a guy shorter than maybe 5 ft 8, it is best for you to add mass, and it doesn't so much matter whether it is all muscle, some of it could be fat. Mostly, the goal is to give yourself more of a phsical presence. When a woman is held by a man, she likes the feeling that he is bigger and stronger than her.

 

She doesn't want to work to conjure the feeling you're more masculine. If you're within fifteen pounds of her weight, it does take more imagination on her part to feel feminine.

[Ruby Slippers]

It's true. I didn't get into a relationship with a really buff, masculine guy till my last one, and I was in heaven in bed with him. Just looking at his gorgeous body was a delight.

 

However, what he had in muscle he lacked in emotional strength.

 

A good balance is best.

 

But yeah, muscles on a man are hot.

[Dante311]

It's true. I didn't get into a relationship with a really buff, masculine guy till my last one, and I was in heaven in bed with him. Just looking at his gorgeous body was a delight.

 

However, what he had in muscle he lacked in emotional strength.

 

A good balance is best.

 

But yeah, muscles on a man are hot.

 

 

yeah... don't be intimidated by them. Because the ones who are are usually the good ones!

 

the ones who aren't are usually ****ing nuts.... or no... just ****ing nuts.

[Rorschach]

It's true. I didn't get into a relationship with a really buff, masculine guy till my last one, and I was in heaven in bed with him. Just looking at his gorgeous body was a delight.

 

However, what he had in muscle he lacked in emotional strength.

 

A good balance is best.

 

But yeah, muscles on a man are hot.

 

In my opinion the best ones are the ones who weren't always hot/attractive/buff, but used to have imperfect bodies (too skinny, out of shape, or overweight) and worked hard to improve themselves. This says alot about their attitudes, their motivation, and they will be missing that arrogant attitude that the 'beautiful' (I hate this term but you konw what I mean) people have.

 

Man now if only I knew somebody who used to be fat but has worked really bloody hard to lose alot of weight. Huh, it sounds so familiar too

[Sphere]

Many women avoid me because I'm "skinny!", "weedy", "short", "ugly", whatever. There are also plenty of women who are interested in me too. They're the ones who matter.

 

I'm 5ft 8' and I weigh in at 127 lbs, now too many that's skinny, but I'm ripped and muscular, I'll just never naturally have a large frame unless I turn to steroids which I am not prepared to do. I like my body just the way it is, if a girl thinks I'm too skinny then that's her opinion and she is entitled to it.

 

I've never understood why the opposite sex seek self validation through the other sex, you can only accept yourself when you are happy with yourself. I know of gorgeous women who feel ugly and no matter how many boyfriends they have, no matter how many compliments they get, they feel ugly and that is because they are hung up on things they cannot solve and refuse to accept.

 

It's ridiculous if you ask me. I can only bench press 60KG, I know a guy in my gym who bench press more than twice that, but when it comes to running on the treadmill or riding the bicycle, he can muster up a miserly ten to fifteen minutes, while I can manage an hour minumum and two hours maximum. My point is that we have all different qualities and we should embrace our qualities for ourselves, not for someone else.

 

I feel humans feel the need to impress others, convince and win over others and as a result fail to realize that is their own self opinion that worth more than that of anyone else.

[Will59]

I didn't get into a relationship with a really buff, masculine guy till my last one, and I was in heaven in bed with him. Just looking at his gorgeous body was a delight.

 

How tall was he?

[Star Gazer]

I'm not sure a fit body is all that critical. But I can't lie... it definitely helps to have a butt that a girl wants to bite into, or a chest she wants to caress, or forearms that make her think of what he can do with his hands...

[Ruby Slippers]

yeah... don't be intimidated by them. Because the ones who are are usually the good ones!

 

the ones who aren't are usually ****ing nuts.... or no... just ****ing nuts.

I am pretty intimidated by really good-looking, buff guys. I've certainly never found one that wants to make a real emotional commitment. They do at first, then change their minds.

 

In my opinion the best ones are the ones who weren't always hot/attractive/buff, but used to have imperfect bodies (too skinny, out of shape, or overweight) and worked hard to improve themselves. This says alot about their attitudes, their motivation, and they will be missing that arrogant attitude that the 'beautiful' (I hate this term but you konw what I mean) people have.

Makes sense. The problem is that there's no way of knowing up front what their fitness history is.

[Dante311]

I am pretty intimidated by really good-looking, buff guys. I've certainly never found one that wants to make a real emotional commitment. They do at first, then change their minds.

 

 

 

Well, um, I exist.

 

I'd like to think (in a non-conceited way) I am a good-looking, buff guy that is open to the idea of committed relationship and not afraid of commitment.

[MrNate]

Well, um, I exist.

 

I'd like to think (in a non-conceited way) I am a good-looking, buff guy that is open to the idea of committed relationship and not afraid of commitment.

 

Here's another! I've been accused of that actually lol, but I'm quite nice. But I definitely understand Ruby's plight. I'm friends with a couple guys on my powerlifting team who happen to be pretty buff, and good looking (no homo). And you bet they're both single. They pretty much just go out, have sex with different girls, and call it a day. Rinse/repeat. And they show no signs of slowing down.

 

That's not to say all of them are, but I think a majority may be, just because of the fact that their desirability is quite high. And of course naturally the question appears in their heads: "Why should I have to settle, when I can have all different types of ass when I want?". This is just based on my experience.

[Dante311]

Here's another! I've been accused of that actually lol, but I'm quite nice. But I definitely understand Ruby's plight. I'm friends with a couple guys on my powerlifting team who happen to be pretty buff, and good looking (no homo). And you bet they're both single. They pretty much just go out, have sex with different girls, and call it a day. Rinse/repeat. And they show no signs of slowing down.

 

That's not to say all of them are, but I think a majority may be, just because of the fact that their desirability is quite high. And of course naturally the question appears in their heads: "Why should I have to settle, when I can have all different types of ass when I want?". This is just based on my experience.

 

 

I'm not a powerlifter... i'm into hypertrophy training. However I, again in a non-conceited way, have SO much going for me physically... yet, this stereotype on guys like us has destroyed me... literally.

 

I'm not some douche who can **** hundreds of girls nd move on with no consideration... and we draw in the girls who are desirable and want us, but EXPECT (subconsciously) to be abused/rejected and keep coming back...and when you give to them... they run away because they're not getting what they're used to. it kind of sucks. It sounds strange.. I guess you have to be in my shoes, but something tells me YOU are MrNate?

[Ruby Slippers]

Well, um, I exist.

 

I'd like to think (in a non-conceited way) I am a good-looking, buff guy that is open to the idea of committed relationship and not afraid of commitment.

I started a thread recently about how I've been dating only really good-looking, buff guys lately (random luck), and NONE of them has struck me as a guy looking for anything more than sex and fun. And hey, I'm thinking about it, even though that's not my style.

 

But I'm not going to stop dating supercuties entirely. Maybe I will meet that rare gem, like yourself, who has a great brain and a great heart to go with the bangin' body. I mean, isn't that what we're all looking for?

[Star Gazer]

I am pretty intimidated by really good-looking, buff guys.

 

I usually am too...