4givrnt4gtr Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I don't expect any relationship to never have any problems ever but most of the ones I know it seems that they don't even love their partners and that is especially true on the woman's part. They seem to have more affection for a stranger walking down the street then they do their husband or boyfriend. The only men that seem to be making marriages work for them are ones who act like neanderthals and treat their wives like my barber. I am not judging these men for doing what work ssince they tried to have an equal and it didn't work but that is not the kind of marriage I want. Woggle, from your posts I can tell you're still heartbroken from your last relationship. I can tell because Ive felt the same way. After many failed relationships, feeling taken for granted and discarted like nothing, I looked around and saw nothing but relationships that mirrored what I was feeling at the moment. I saw broken relationships, divorces etc. Its your current frame of reference and its a tough place to be. The hardest part of it all is that somehow you tend to make what you fear the most happen to you. Dont ask me how, but I know in psychology is called projective identification. You project your fears onto your SO and somehow, after accusing her of whatever it is your afraid of, she ends up doing exactly that. My point is, if you haven't done so already, I recommend you talk to a counselor or therapist. Sometimes heartbreaks, specially when it involves divorce are very traumatizing. You deserve to be happy, and your wife deserves to be 100% loved.
skydiveaddict Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I see many many happy relationships everyday. Dozens of couples walking hand in hand, what makes it work? I dont have a clue
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