TuesGirl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 2Sunny...You oughtta go sometime! I actually went for the first time last April for my best friend's Bachelor Party (yes, I was the best woMAN in his wedding). It was too funny. The girls were very nice to me. Probably psyched to actually just 'talk' to someone instead of trying to seduce them. I didn't participate at all, just not my style. I went in with a sociological POV, AND here is the BEST part. I got nine, yes NINE, free beers while I was there. Plus the women's bathroom line was very short
2sunny Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 2Sunny...You oughtta go sometime! I actually went for the first time last April for my best friend's Bachelor Party (yes, I was the best woMAN in his wedding). It was too funny. The girls were very nice to me. Probably psyched to actually just 'talk' to someone instead of trying to seduce them. I didn't participate at all, just not my style. I went in with a sociological POV, AND here is the BEST part. I got nine, yes NINE, free beers while I was there. Plus the women's bathroom line was very short ahahaha, priceless! i would think some of the men in there would try to pick you up... they can't really take the help home - and they are obviously horny...
spookie Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I wouldn't date someone who "frequented" strip clubs, particularly if he liked going alone. But ending up at one with his buddies... I wouldn't have a problem with that.
Lorelai Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The only time it ever bothered me was when a guy I was seeing who was incredibly controlling didn't want me to see one of my best female friends that I'd known for years and was like a second mother to me. She didn't like him, and so he didn't want me around her. When I insisted that I was going to go, he said "Well, if you go, I'm going to go to a titty bar." And actually, I didn't truly object to him going. I said "Well, go ahead, because you aren't seeing these titties again." He may think I broke up with him for going to a strip club... no, I broke up with him because he was a controlling jackass. I still have to block him every time I reinstall my IM software... after 11 years. Seriously. He was at an event where that friend saw him a few years ago, and somehow my name was mentioned... he went on and on -- in front of the lady he had brought to the event! -- about how I was the perfect woman and the "one that got away." Brrrrrrr... I think I made the right decision.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted August 27, 2010 Author Posted August 27, 2010 what did they do to "feed" him the jello shot? come on - do tell... and the other bolded part - i've never heard that "expression" - you don't mean he blew his wad - do you? fed him the jello shot..aka put the tube in her bikini and feed it to him by getting on his lap and pushing her breasts together. Once the tube is in your mouth..she swallows the whole thing up to your lips and takes it from you...kinda hot make it rain..aka throwing money around
TuesGirl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 ahahaha, priceless! i would think some of the men in there would try to pick you up... they can't really take the help home - and they are obviously horny... You know, possibly if I was in there alone. I wasn't, and I wouldn't. It definitely wasn't like the movies in any way...way more mellow. Although before we went, I did specify that we go to the 'classiest' one in Denver for my virginal experience:) There were quite a few other women in there with their SO's too. Plus, to be honest, the bouncers will have your back in a flash. They don't want any trouble under their watch so they look after ALL of the women very well. So even if you DID go by yourself, I bet all you would have to do is shoot a 'look' at a bouncer and he'd come take care of any guy that was bothering you.
meerkat stew Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The girls were very nice to me. Probably psyched to actually just 'talk' to someone instead of trying to seduce them. Lots of strippers are gay. What more enjoyable environment can you think of for a lesbian to work in?
Stung Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Nope, I'm not cool with my husband going out to flirt and ogle and be rubbed on by naked dancing women. And he's not cool with me flirting, dancing around naked and rubbing on other guys, so, we're very happily on the same page. I have been to strip clubs a few times in the past and have a close friend who is an ex-stripper, it's not a big judgy thing, it's just the boundaries we are comfortable with. He was never a big strip-club frequenter anyway, went a few times when he was in his 20s and then let it go. For my bachelorette party I went to a spa and a nice dinner and a lot of wine with a couple of friends, for his bachelor party he went to a pub with a few buddies and drank too much microbrew, played some pool and then came home and stayed up really late in a drunken WoW campaign .
that girl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I'm not okay with my guy going to a strip club. The issue is intimacy. I wouldn't dance seductively with another man while I'm in a monogmous relationship. That kind of intimacy is saved for my so. Paying for that intimacy doesn't make it okay. Other people draw the line differently, but I wouldn't stay with a guy who visited strip clubs in a relationship.
pandagirl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I have to say, I am surprised that most of the women have said they wouldn't be OK with this. If my SO went to a strip club a few times a year, I don't really see the big deal in that. I feel like for most men, strip clubs are a novelty, a chance to be a "dude," and hang out with his friends.
NYCGirly Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I wouldn't care. In fact I've actually gone with one of my ex-bfs to a strip club on a few occasions. Not a normal everyday thing but something I would try to do once in a while if he wanted to go.
BlackLovely Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I would have no issue with my fiance going to a strip club, provided it was only once in a great while (Like 3-4 times a year.) Men are visual creatures. I am secure enough to know, that it doesn't matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he eats at home.
Stung Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I have to say, I am surprised that most of the women have said they wouldn't be OK with this. If my SO went to a strip club a few times a year, I don't really see the big deal in that. I feel like for most men, strip clubs are a novelty, a chance to be a "dude," and hang out with his friends. Different strokes for different folks. IMO, men can be 'dudes' in a multitude of environments, and it doesn't require strange naked women. If I tried to tell my husband that I felt womanly and got a little thrill of novelty when strange men at a bar were buying me drinks, dancing with me, and whispering compliments in my ear while looking down my cleavage, so he should just let me go do that on a Saturday night while he stays home with the kids, he would not be amused. Other men out there might not care as long as there was no penetration.
sweetjasmine Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I have to say, I am surprised that most of the women have said they wouldn't be OK with this. If my SO went to a strip club a few times a year, I don't really see the big deal in that. I feel like for most men, strip clubs are a novelty, a chance to be a "dude," and hang out with his friends. For me, it's a question of intimacy and sexual contact. I feel those things should be reserved for your partner and not shared with other people. My SO wouldn't appreciate it if I stripped down to a thong and danced naked for strange men, even if they were paying me to do it and everyone knew that I would just go home to my SO at the end of the night. He also wouldn't appreciate me going out to a night club a couple times a year and grinding with shirtless men on the dance floor because it's a novelty and a chance to be a chick with my chick friends. And I imagine if my SO came on LS and started a thread, saying, "My girlfriend went out with her friends, and she stripped down to her panties, sat on this random guy's lap, and rubbed up against him. But she came home and jumped my bones, and when I found out about it from her other friends, she just said, 'Hey, at least I came home to you. Besides, he paid me. Who cares where I get my appetite as long as I'm still staying with you?' What should I do? Am I being unreasonable in getting mad at her?" -- I imagine the reaction would be "dump the cheating, lying skank, she's gaslighting and rationalizing her slutty ways." I don't see it as any different with genders reversed just because strip clubs are socially acceptable, and going to them is seen as just being a regular dude. Other people view it differently and have different boundaries, but that's where I draw the line. YMMV.
pandagirl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 For me, it's a question of intimacy and sexual contact. I feel those things should be reserved for your partner and not shared with other people. My SO wouldn't appreciate it if I stripped down to a thong and danced naked for strange men, even if they were paying me to do it and everyone knew that I would just go home to my SO at the end of the night. He also wouldn't appreciate me going out to a night club a couple times a year and grinding with shirtless men on the dance floor because it's a novelty and a chance to be a chick with my chick friends. And I imagine if my SO came on LS and started a thread, saying, "My girlfriend went out with her friends, and she stripped down to her panties, sat on this random guy's lap, and rubbed up against him. But she came home and jumped my bones, and when I found out about it from her other friends, she just said, 'Hey, at least I came home to you. Besides, he paid me. Who cares where I get my appetite as long as I'm still staying with you?' What should I do? Am I being unreasonable in getting mad at her?" -- I imagine the reaction would be "dump the cheating, lying skank, she's gaslighting and rationalizing her slutty ways." I don't see it as any different with genders reversed just because strip clubs are socially acceptable, and going to them is seen as just being a regular dude. Other people view it differently and have different boundaries, but that's where I draw the line. YMMV. The only time there is that intense of intimate contact is when someone pays for a lapdance, otherwise it's just sitting around drinking and watching topless chicks dance. From my strip club knowledge, MOST men do not get lapdances and there is no physical contact. But, the men out there can correct me on that if I'm wrong.
sweetjasmine Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The only time there is that intense of intimate contact is when someone pays for a lapdance, otherwise it's just sitting around drinking and watching topless chicks dance. Sure, I know. Like I said in my other post, I'd be annoyed at him going to a club and I'd be angry at him getting a lap dance. To me, there's a difference between just watching and buying a lap dance. But even the watching is off-putting to me and over-the-line. I distinguish between watching an actual live human being and looking at pictures/video.
Star Gazer Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I'd probably care, and not be too happy about it. If it's a bachelor party type thing (i.e., a "special occasion"), I can handle it. But otherwise, being in the physical presence of a naked woman who isn't me, staring at her, and maybe even having her grind on his crotch, just for sh*ts and giggles isn't something I'd probably be okay with.
Star Gazer Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 The only time there is that intense of intimate contact is when someone pays for a lapdance, otherwise it's just sitting around drinking and watching topless chicks dance. From my strip club knowledge, MOST men do not get lapdances and there is no physical contact. But, the men out there can correct me on that if I'm wrong. Having been to several different strip clubs and actually represented them in lawsuits (in other words, I've spent more time there than I'd have liked to), I can assure you, you're wrong about this. Plenty of girls give teaser lapdances, sit on laps, put their boobs in the guy's face,m etc., in order to get a bigger tip or get them to buy a dance... and I'd say more than two-thirds of dudes buy at least one dance each time they visit.
CLC2008 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Only if I could go with him, and be the one to sit on his lap. Strippers = no touchy touchy!
Feelin Frisky Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I don't dig the whole strip club thang. It's smarmy and pathetic. I did go to one with the guys on a bachelor party romp. There was this aging hose beast there and I thought "hey maybe she danced at my dad's bachelor party". I think I'm basically a prude (believe it or not).
Stung Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 (edited) I don't dig the whole strip club thang. It's smarmy and pathetic. I did go to one with the guys on a bachelor party romp. There was this aging hose beast there and I thought "hey maybe she danced at my dad's bachelor party". I think I'm basically a prude (believe it or not). The only time I personally ever had a really good time at a strip club it was actually a lesbian burlesque rave, moving location every week, unpaid volunteer lesbian strippers having naked dance contests. The women looked like they were genuinely having a GREAT time, everybody in the building was dancing and about half the audience was topless too. It felt a lot more like PARTY and less like objectification for money, at least to me. Edited August 27, 2010 by Stung
JohnP82 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 This topic reminds me of the time I was in Vegas for a bachelor party and we decided to go to Spearamint Rhino. The place was as big as a warehouse and much fun was had. Wait, what were we talking about....
lso802 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 For some reason, I wouldn't mind. I don't know why though.
Minnie09 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I think it's pathetic and says a lot about a guy, if he has to pay for seeing a naked woman dance. Even more so, if he has to pay for some random chick to grind him. I don't get the following discrepancy either: Prostitution is illegal and stripper joints are not. C'mon, that's just plain ignorant. There is no difference, IME. It's paid sex, no matter how much you try to re-define it.
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