Author shadowplay Posted September 2, 2010 Author Share Posted September 2, 2010 We were supposed to meet on Tuesday, but I put it off because I was moving to my new place that night and I was stressed out and nervous. I thought for sure he wouldn't want to meet me after that, but he's still very eager and we're supposed to hang out on Monday. He has friends coming over this weekend, so he's busy then. We've been texting and iming every day (he usually initiates). I found out he lives 1/2 a block away from where I lived until a few days ago (and a five minute walk from where I now live). So strange. I still have no clue why he likes me and I nervous as hell to meet him. I also don't get why he even needs to do online dating. He's super cute, athletic, really smart, charming and seemingly normal. I've been trying to keep my feelings at bay, but they're creeping past my defenses. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 2, 2010 Author Share Posted September 2, 2010 Lol this guy just texted me that he got back from a two hour workout, and the tail end involved running for a mile in 95 degree weather with a weight. WTF. Here I am sitting on my couch with a fan stationed 2 feet from my face. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaLee Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 Lol this guy just texted me that he got back from a two hour workout, and the tail end involved running for a mile in 95 degree weather with a weight. WTF. Here I am sitting on my couch with a fan stationed 2 feet from my face. Ha, that's funny... but seriously, about your original post, stop over thinking. Don't put anymore into it than what it is... just a casual date. Go on it to have fun, not necessarily to hook up. I feel sad reading your initial post because I could have written it myself. That is exactly how I am, keep telling myself I am not pretty enough, not good enough. I look at other girls a lot and I think "Gosh, she's gorgeous... why can't I be as physically attractive?" The thing is, I know I am not unattractive, I am told quite often that I'm very pretty (albeit by 70+ year old men), but I never feel good enough. At least your not alone, Shadow. Women in our culture are so over glamorized and over sexed. There are high expectations of women and how we physically look, it's no wonder girls these days have so many issues with self image. Link to post Share on other sites
meerkat stew Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 Lol this guy just texted me that he got back from a two hour workout, and the tail end involved running for a mile in 95 degree weather with a weight. WTF. Here I am sitting on my couch with a fan stationed 2 feet from my face. Why on earth is he texting you crap like that? Sounds a bit insecure, he may be terrified of meeting you more than you him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 2, 2010 Author Share Posted September 2, 2010 Why on earth is he texting you crap like that? Sounds a bit insecure, he may be terrified of meeting you more than you him. Nah, he texted me that he had just gotten back from working out and I asked him whether any of it was outdoors. Then he told me in more detail. Link to post Share on other sites
Susaluda Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Sorry stupid question and somewhat unrelated, but what is OKC? I've seen it mentioned a few times on this forum. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 3, 2010 Author Share Posted September 3, 2010 Why on earth is he texting you crap like that? Sounds a bit insecure, he may be terrified of meeting you more than you him. besides, a bit insecure wouldn't bother me. I'm insecure myself, so as long as it's not deep insecurity it is fine by me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 3, 2010 Author Share Posted September 3, 2010 Sorry stupid question and somewhat unrelated, but what is OKC? I've seen it mentioned a few times on this forum. OKCupid, a free dating website that has gained popularity in recent years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 3, 2010 Author Share Posted September 3, 2010 (edited) OK, I need to stop google stalking him now. I found two more photos of him online, and he is seriously, seriously hot. He's like a 9. I wish he were just a tad bit less cute. Also, found out he went to the same high school as my old school obsessive crush, Mr. Harvard. This is weird, since the high school is like 1000 miles from where I live. They also happen to have very similar interests, the same major, and they both went to small, intellectual liberal arts schools. WTF. Am I subconsciously doomed to be unwittingly drawn to the same type over and over? haha. Edited September 3, 2010 by shadowplay Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 OK, I need to stop google stalking him now. I found two more photos of him online, and he is seriously, seriously hot. He's like a 9. I wish he were just a tad bit less cute. Also, found out he went to the same high school as my old school obsessive crush, Mr. Harvard. This is weird, since the high school is like 1000 miles from where I live. They also happen to have very similar interests, the same major, and they both went to small, intellectual liberal arts schools. WTF. Am I subconsciously doomed to be unwittingly drawn to the same type over and over? haha. God this is the weirdest ****ing ****. You know whats weird? Googling a guy for like anhour and finding out you went to the same high school or something...... ....... don't do that man. Not cool if a guy does it, not cool if a girl does it either really . Just go on a freaking date! Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 3, 2010 Author Share Posted September 3, 2010 God this is the weirdest ****ing ****. You know whats weird? Googling a guy for like anhour and finding out you went to the same high school or something...... ....... don't do that man. Not cool if a guy does it, not cool if a girl does it either really . Just go on a freaking date! Ha, I wasn't googling him for an hour. It was more like five minutes. Give me a break, everyone does it. Link to post Share on other sites
Land Shark Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Have you sent him any pictures? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 3, 2010 Author Share Posted September 3, 2010 Have you sent him any pictures? Ha, no. He wasn't the one. That other guy lived at a comfortable distance , but I still opted not to. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Ha, I wasn't googling him for an hour. It was more like five minutes. Give me a break, everyone does it. I don't do it! Stop doing it! I'd weird myself out. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Nah, he texted me that he had just gotten back from working out and I asked him whether any of it was outdoors. Then he told me in more detail. I do it all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I misquoted the post from my iPhone. I mean I google potentials all the time! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Ha, I wasn't googling him for an hour. It was more like five minutes. Give me a break, everyone does it. Well, you did say you needed to "stop Google stalking" him. That implies more than one quick search... But I do it too. Totally. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I don't do it! Stop doing it! I'd weird myself out. I also wouldn't mind if guys googled me. They are likely to find my work info, my PhD info and few presentations I did. I have nothing to hide. Well except for my LS posts that is Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Cupcakes Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 have a sense of humor much? Well, you did say you needed to "stop Google stalking" him. That implies more than one quick search... But I do it too. Totally. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Shadow you are so wrong. Personality is HUGE for a decent guy. And physical attractiveness is a very personal thing - what is stunning to one guy might be less so to another. I bet guys are attracted to you physically, but if you are so down on yourself all the time, that will be the key factor that turns anyone off. Plus, confidence is sexy - it makes average into sexy (or, tbh, vice versa). Plus don't judge people - sometimes a gorgeous girl can have the IQ of a genius, or the most incredible kind heart, or whatever else, and aren't just an empty gorgeous shell! - the man she is with might be with her for SO much more than the way she looks. And as for your friend with the average weird Asian fetish guy...just be glad you aren't stuck in a R like that!! Link to post Share on other sites
sagetalk Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I bet guys are attracted to you physically, but if you are so down on yourself all the time, that will be the key factor that turns anyone off. It will turn LTR minded guys off. FWB guys and guys that just want sex will be all over a girl with that mentality. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 I agree with Sage Talk... Link to post Share on other sites
CLC2008 Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Shadow, you can do it girlfriend!! Have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shadowplay Posted September 7, 2010 Author Share Posted September 7, 2010 So... went on the date. It went really well! We ended up having a steamy make out session at his house. Finally, I told him I needed to go home because I had school the next day. But he's extremely cute, smart, shy, and respectful. He was more shy and nervous than expected. I can't get over how such a cute guy could be so shy. I guess it's because he's pretty nerdy, and sort of in his own little world. But we were watching Casino Royal on his couch and there was a very gradual progression from our hands being inches apart, to almost touching, to touching, to stroking and hand holding, to my head on his shoulder, to kissing. He wasn't pushy at all, though, yet also seemed really into me. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted September 7, 2010 Share Posted September 7, 2010 That's awesome. Glad you enjoyed yourself, Shadow. Link to post Share on other sites
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