shadowplay Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 (edited) So.... there's this guy I've been corresponding with on OKC. He's extremely hot, smart and interesting, but he lives about 1.5 hours away, and not in a location that I ever go near. It seems unlikely that we'll meet in person given the distance. Or maybe we will at some point, I don't know. For some reason I have a slight urge to send him naked pictures. It seems like it would be fun. I guess I"m just sex deprived and increasingly horny. I'm kind of hoping he'll send me some of him in return. But if I did would that basically eliminate any possibility that we could ever have an actual relationship, if we found some way to make the distance thing work? Our messages so far have had substance (talking about our shared interests in cognitive psychology and painting), but they've also been pretty flirty. As a guy how would you take it if a girl do this? Would you no longer see her as potential gf material? I don't know. Am I losing my mind?? Edited August 22, 2010 by shadowplay
Cracker Jack Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 This is a pretty interesting question. Not sure how I would see the woman after that, tho. I suppose the main thing that would be on my mind after seeing naked pics is "when am I going to have sex with this woman?", because to me, being willing to exchange pics like that so quickly implies sex would be something that would be touched upon rather quickly. Does this mean an actual relationship is out of the question? I don't think so. Then again, it depends on the individual.
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Hahahha Shadow, I had the same thoughts with one of the guys. I really do think by doing this you are eliminating yourself as a serious GF material. But there are other guys for that. If you feel the flirty/sexy vibe why not have some fun with it?
D-Lish Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Don't do it shadow. You'll end up on the internet in all your naked glory.
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Don't do it shadow. You'll end up on the internet in all your naked glory. Good point D-lish - not worth the risk shadow.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Don't do it shadow. You'll end up on the internet in all your naked glory. Yeah what she said once that stuff leaves your pc its fair game on here and try tracking it all down and deleting it so not worth it. And I'm fairly sure that yes it would decrease your gf chances no matter what guys "hint at" they don't want to date the girl who gives it up that easy be it sex/pics or what ever.. Plus think about it whos to say hes not going to print it out and share it with his friends?
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 But I get what shadow means. Lack of sex is getting to me too. I am almost considering starting up some sort of FWB (even though I was always dead against it). There is nobody suitable for a R...so
spookie Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Why do you think it's "unlikely" you'll ever meet in person? 1.5 hours is nothing. I don't think doing this will necessarily ruin your chances. I think what you're doing is basically cyber sexing with someone youre starting to have feelings for. It could be sluttier. However, do you want to end up on the internet? If not, it's probably a bad decision.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 You could text him and ask him if he'd like to see some naked pics, first, and if he says "sure" then ask him not to share or print them. it's not as exciting as just emailing them out of the blue, though.
Author shadowplay Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 You could text him and ask him if he'd like to see some naked pics, first, and if he says "sure" then ask him not to share or print them. it's not as exciting as just emailing them out of the blue, though. Yeah, I was planning on doing that. I wouldn't just drop them in his inbox out of the blue. That would be funny, though.
Author shadowplay Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 ****, this guy is SO hot. He's like exactly my type. If you recall my obsessive 7-year-long crush with Harvard Guy (who turned out to be lame), this guy is the much hotter version of him. It's insane.
that girl Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 You need to assume he is going to post them on multiple websites. Would that bother you? Trusting a stranger with naked pics is very, very, very stupid. If you don't care because you're actually a nude model, that is another situation. Beyond that, if you want a naked picture of him, you probably just have to ask. Chatroulette shows a lot of guys like to show strangers their cocks. So if that is what you want rather than the attention nude pictures will bring you, ask him for a pic. Odds are he will no longer consider you possible girlfriend material, just one night stand material.
zengirl Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 So.... there's this guy I've been corresponding with on OKC. He's extremely hot, smart and interesting, but he lives about 1.5 hours away, and not in a location that I ever go near. It seems unlikely that we'll meet in person given the distance. Or maybe we will at some point, I don't know. For some reason I have a slight urge to send him naked pictures. It seems like it would be fun. I guess I"m just sex deprived and increasingly horny. I'm kind of hoping he'll send me some of him in return. But if I did would that basically eliminate any possibility that we could ever have an actual relationship, if we found some way to make the distance thing work? Our messages so far have had substance (talking about our shared interests in cognitive psychology and painting), but they've also been pretty flirty. As a guy how would you take it if a girl do this? Would you no longer see her as potential gf material? I don't know. Am I losing my mind?? Why would you send nude pictures of yourself to a virtual stranger over the internet? Unless you wouldn't mind them printed in the paper or on a website (not that they necessarily will be, but you can't control them once there out there), I wouldn't advise it. Flirting via email is a very different thing from sending naked pictures. Also, if the fellow is less than 2 hours away, that is nothing at all to meet in person. Might be a slight obstacle to a deeper relationship, because of a lack of spontaneity but that's getting ahead of yourself with where you seem to be with this fellow. Make a date if you like him that much.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Hmmm, it seems as though they have been discussing deep, intellectual topics that she might be able to trust him not to be a creep to take the time to post the pic on websites or print it off for his buddies to enjoy...if he is that creepy, then what is the worst that can happen? Your pic is out on some website...hmmm.....
jamesum Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 But I get what shadow means. Lack of sex is getting to me too. I am almost considering starting up some sort of FWB (even though I was always dead against it). There is nobody suitable for a R...so I thought in other threads you kept saying that you never enjoyed sex ...
sweetjasmine Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Hmmm, it seems as though they have been discussing deep, intellectual topics that she might be able to trust him not to be a creep to take the time to post the pic on websites or print it off for his buddies to enjoy.. I had an ex of sorts post pictures of me (artsy semi-nudes) on his stupid MySpace when he found out I had started seeing someone new a few months after I ended things and told him I didn't want a relationship, and they got spread around by people gossiping about me, some of who then moved on to actually harassing me about it. It's been a long time, but a few people still bring it up. But we spent plenty of time discussing deep, intellectual topics, so I was smart to trust the guy, I guess.
jamesum Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I'm kind of hoping he'll send me some of him in return. Why would you want naked pictures of a guy?
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I thought in other threads you kept saying that you never enjoyed sex ... I never said that. I said that I tend to wait to have sex until I see if the relationship has LTR potential. Other than that, I enjoy sex very much
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Wow, I'm sorry you have gone through that. Point taken. Shadow, I change my stance and say meet the guy first before you send him pics, unless a scenario as Sweet Jasmine has brought up, really wouldn't bother you too much. I had an ex of sorts post pictures of me (artsy semi-nudes) on his stupid MySpace when he found out I had started seeing someone new a few months after I ended things and told him I didn't want a relationship, and they got spread around by people gossiping about me, some of who then moved on to actually harassing me about it. It's been a long time, but a few people still bring it up. But we spent plenty of time discussing deep, intellectual topics, so I was smart to trust the guy, I guess.
sweetjasmine Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Wow, I'm sorry you have gone through that. Point taken. Shadow, I change my stance and say meet the guy first before you send him pics, unless a scenario as Sweet Jasmine has brought up, really wouldn't bother you too much. No worries. I think it's best to only share things online with people that you wouldn't mind seeing published somewhere public. Just in case. You never know whether someone will keep it to themselves or act like a jerk. If shadow's okay with others potentially seeing her pictures, then it's not a problem. If she's uncomfortable with that, it'd be smarter to not do it.
D-Lish Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Shadow, you don't know this guy at all. Don't send him naked pics. Don't even take the chance that they could end up online for anyone to see.
alexlakeman Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 It's up to you, send him not fully nudes, just in underwear for example, or sexy shorts... with NO face showing, in case you don't meet they don't end up on the net... I met someone in March...we were talking for about a month b4 we actually met. I asked her one day to send me some pics (I asked for just some pics, didn't specify nudes, etc.).. and I got some rather sexy pics in her undies ... I was pleasantly surprised and the pics had NO bearing on weather I would date her or not... we dated for 4 months... I didn't think she was slutty or anything... unless you are a kid who has no experience like alot of the posters here and think that would be 'so wrong"...
TaurusTerp Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 There are precious few ideas dumber than this one, shadow. Don't do it.
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