another shallow thread.....but what do you all think about guys wearing these?

[Gemini09]

Trust me, the shoes he wore did not look that good, and no matter where we went he would wear them. Once, he wore an old white pair when he wore a black LEATHER coat. It's like no matter what he had on, he had to wear these same shoes. Even when he got more money, he bought a couple new pairs, and they were along the same lines.

 

I don't think anyone should try to change someone, but I think if a guy knows his GF likes or prefers a certain shoe or style, he might be willing to TRY it for once. He knew that I liked certain shoes, but he seemed to have no interest in nothing else. They weren't that bad with say jeans, but anything else.....

 

Call me shallow or whatever, the shoes did not look good, and I've NEVER seen any other guy wearing them. That third link I posted, was as close as I could find. I'm sure if I kept looking I could find something even more accurate. I sure wish I had the real damn pics. I don't mind sandals on a guy either. Anything but these freaking shoes please.

[pandagirl]

Being turned off by what someone wears is a little shallow, but it all depends on what value a certain person places on aesthetics/taste -- and I'm not talking about weight, hair length, etc.

 

I also feel like I wouldn't want to date someone who didn't read books OR had completely different music taste than me or no music taste or bad music taste or had no interest in art. All of these things are very important to me, because they are a big part of my life.

 

As a creative person, I value taste and aesthetics and this comes across in the way a person dresses.

 

I would be just as turned off by a guy who dressed head-to-toe in Gucci, driving a Porsche as a guy with toe fungus wearing tevas!

[frustr8ed]

Ha, Ha, I have the Polo ones in navy blue canvas, they also make a cool grey pair I would like to get (but saddle shoes are next on the list.) I am a fan of a more preppy type style though. Anyway, I seem to hinder myself when it comes to women more than my shoes.

[Gemini09]

Ha, Ha, I have the Polo ones in navy blue canvas, they also make a cool grey pair I would like to get (but saddle shoes are next on the list.) I am a fan of a more preppy type style though. Anyway, I seem to hinder myself when it comes to women more than my shoes.

 

 

Well I've gone out with preppy guys before have not noticed their shoes. I don't even remember what shoes guys who I dated have worn. Something is wrong, when I notice shoes.

[boldjack]

Sorry Fabgal, If I place a little more importance is a persons morals, intelligence, emotional balance and sex appeal, than what's on her feet. I would question anyone who DID'NT think that was shallow.

[frustr8ed]

That's funny because I always look at a persons shoes to see what they're wearing. I never judge them on it, but for some reason I just like kicks n' shoes and have since I was a kid.

[westernxer]

I bought some new shoes awhile back for the office... somehow my female coworkers noticed immediately, without even looking. I think they liked them (versus liking me). LOL

[Sam Spade]

Well, I honestly think that grown up men basically should not wear sneakers. I have lots of shoes, but only 2-3 pairs are sneakers, and used for actual sport activities.

While the kind of clothing a person wears should not be a dealbreaker, sadly, this is taken into the opposite extreme to mean that people can wear whatever they want. THis is simply not the case, and wearing something inapprorpiate can legitimately affect how a person is percieved.

[runner]

the first one doesn't bother me too much but the second one--with that extra large logo--is just doucherific.

 

either way i don't care for white shoes either. except for my current running shoes, which i did not purchase because of it's colour.

[sweetjasmine]

While the kind of clothing a person wears should not be a dealbreaker, sadly, this is taken into the opposite extreme to mean that people can wear whatever they want. THis is simply not the case, and wearing something inapprorpiate can legitimately affect how a person is percieved.

 

Agreed.

 

And the thing is, people really do treat you differently based on how you dress and put yourself together, and this goes for just about everyone. It may be shallow, but it's a fact of life, for better or worse. Whenever I argue with guy friends on this, they object...until I ask them whether people treat them differently when they're wearing a suit. Until I ask them how they'd react if they were interviewing candidates for a job and one of them showed up wearing a mismatched suit that didn't fit and old boots. Or jeans and an old Knicks t-shirt.

 

We may not notice all the details, but we perceive them and react to them anyway, whether we want to or not.

[Sam Spade]

Agreed.

 

And the thing is, people really do treat you differently based on how you dress and put yourself together, and this goes for just about everyone. It may be shallow, but it's a fact of life, for better or worse. Whenever I argue with guy friends on this, they object...until I ask them whether people treat them differently when they're wearing a suit. Until I ask them how they'd react if they were interviewing candidates for a job and one of them showed up wearing a mismatched suit that didn't fit and old boots. Or jeans and an old Knicks t-shirt.

 

We may not notice all the details, but we perceive them and react to them anyway, whether we want to or not.

 

Yeah, and the message that clothes send is not just aesthetic. Extenting the interview example, how can you trust someone to their job well if they demonstrate lack of capacity to pull of something as simple as appropriate business gear . People should be judged for who they are, but the point is that how they dress IS a part of who they are . So, such judgements are not superficial. (Superficial would be to make fun of otherwise properly tailored suit just because it is not a brand name etc...; Other than that, I feel no qualms about making character judgements about colleagues who show up at work in sweats )

[Sam Spade]

White shoes are old fashioned, I feel so at least. Men must wear high heel boots. That looks smart.

 

 

Come on! There is nothing like white bucks in summer. Especially paired with a seersucker suit . White saddle shoes too!

[butcher's hook]

This sounds like something a 15 yr old would ask. I hear women prefer men not wear white shoes!?!? Huuhh?

 

I give a rat's ass what women prefer, I know what I like and those shoes are fine. I thought you were going to post pics of Crocs or Birkies and socks.

 

I like those shoes, does that change your perception of them? NO. So what does it matter what others prefer?

[burning 4 revenge]

Its very superficial to define a man's masculinity by the types of clothes he wears when you its what s within that counts and by within Im refering to the size of his wang

[butcher's hook]

Its very superficial to define a man's masculinity by the types of clothes he wears when you its what s within that counts and by within Im refering to the size of his wang

 

 

 

yeah well for us it's "what's inside that counts" so.......

[Els]

To be very honest I find it quite amusing that a good proportion of posters are telling the OP she's shallow etc... When there were whole threads where the majority of people were saying it was okay to dump one's partner if he/she gains weight. Huh?

 

To be honest I do think that someone who judges a person based on his shoes IS a tad superficial, yes. But it's an okay kind of superficiality, more like a personal preference. Kinda like saying 'I like brunettes but I don't like blondes", ya'know. No real harm done.

 

To contrast that, I think the 'dumping marriage partner for the sole reason of them gaining weight' is NOT an okay kind of superficiality, because when a preference ruins whole lives it ceases to remain 'just a preference'. Kinda like if the OP were to dump the guy after 10 years if he wore these shoes.

[Gemini09]

To be very honest I find it quite amusing that a good proportion of posters are telling the OP she's shallow etc... When there were whole threads where the majority of people were saying it was okay to dump one's partner if he/she gains weight. Huh?

 

To be honest I do think that someone who judges a person based on his shoes IS a tad superficial, yes. But it's an okay kind of superficiality, more like a personal preference. Kinda like saying 'I like brunettes but I don't like blondes", ya'know. No real harm done.

 

To contrast that, I think the 'dumping marriage partner for the sole reason of them gaining weight' is NOT an okay kind of superficiality, because when a preference ruins whole lives it ceases to remain 'just a preference'. Kinda like if the OP were to dump the guy after 10 years if he wore these shoes.

 

I went out with this guy for a while. I cared a great deal for him. I didn't say it was a deal breaker nor did I say I refused to date him over his shoes. If he wore them for life, it would bug me, but I wouldn't dump him. I really need to get an actual pic of his shoes because those links are not explanatory enough.

 

Yes, it is amusing how many people on here judge people from their weight and other things, but though someone is superficial if they don't like a person's shoes. I noticed another poster mentioned they didn't think a grown man should be wearing such shoes , and I think so as well, especially if it was ALL the time. Unless they are like 18, seriously....and he wore them with a leather coat once.

[MSUE]

preppy...I see nothing wrong with that...nor will I not date a guy who is truly a gem cause of the shoes hi has on...seriously

[Gemini09]

Here is another link....this seems to be more similar to what he wore, but this one unfortunately is still not as bad... I think its more like something to do with the shape of the shoe plus it being white. I think he had a regular pair of white athletic shoes he wore some, and those did not bother me.

 

 

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=atp449&s=3

[butcher's hook]

Face it, you just don't like the guy.

[Gemini09]

You're right, I don't like him anymore, but I used to like him a lot. I must have REALLY liked him to put up with his shoes

 

I always hated his shoes, but didn't have the heart to flat out tell him. They looked horrible,no pic can explain this, except the actual one of his shoes.

 

It's not so much he wore those shoes, but because he ALWAYS wore them. That is why it became so obvious, because it was a constant thing. If I was so superficial, why did I never notice other guys shoes that much? His must have stuck out or else it wouldn't have bothered me the way it did.

[butcher's hook]

It's not so much he wore those shoes, but because he ALWAYS wore them. That is why it became so obvious, because it was a constant thing. If I was so superficial, why did I never notice other guys shoes that much? His must have stuck out or else it wouldn't have bothered me the way it did.

 

 

Because it's not about the white shoes so much but the implications of him wearing the same darn things over and over again. That is your true issue it represents other deeper dissatisfactions for you. Only you know what they are.

 

For me I would associate that with stinky crusty feet which would also imply he was unkept or dirty and that's my ticket out. See ya later! For you it could represent he is careless or pays little attention to details or is unkept, or poor...the list is endless...

 

The moral of the story is you will always associate white shoes with whatever your dissatisfaction is LOL

[Trialbyfire]

The shoes posted in the OP are fine for a younger man, in a casual scenario.

 

I prefer these for a man in his thirties and older, in a casual, non-athletic, urban setting:

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/include/Zoom.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446185681&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574491979331&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1251048108201

[Gemini09]

The shoes posted in the OP are fine for a younger man, in a casual scenario.

 

I prefer these for a man in his thirties and older, in a casual, non-athletic, urban setting:

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/include/Zoom.jsp?PRODUCT<>prd_id=845524446185681&FOLDER<>folder_id=282574491979331&ASSORTMENT<>ast_id=1408474395222441&bmUID=1251048108201

 

 

Well he is 26. Still young, but not a teenager. Nice link there. Oh...he would never wear "brown" shoes for some reason. He didn't like them. I don't get it, every guy I've known wears them.

[westernxer]

Face it' date=' you just don't like the guy.[/quote']

 

That's pretty much what it comes down to. LOL