another shallow thread.....but what do you all think about guys wearing these?

[Gemini09]

I realize there is already a thread related to men wearing types of sandals. It made me start thinking about this one time I did have an issue with the type of shoes a guy wore. I still dated him, but it bugged me to death.

 

Please, tell me what you guys think about these shoes. Would it bother you? To begin with, I have heard for some reason, women don't prefer men to wear WHITE shoes. This guy I dated always wore white shoes, and to me it was not attractive one bit. It's even so much they were white, its the STYLE plus them being white.

 

I know its not that big of a deal, and probably why I was able to still date him, but I hoped he would at least wear some other types of shoes, but he never did. I posted a couple of links below which are similar to what he would always wear. To be honest, I don't think they look very masculine at all. Is it bad that I was so bothered by them?

 

 

http://www.shoes.com/Shopping/ProductDetails.aspx?p=EC1168120&pg=5099788

 

http://www.shoes.com/Shopping/ProductDetails.aspx?p=EC1146215&pg=5090079

[Hkizzle]

See, this and the other thread I don't get.

 

It's hard enough to find decent people already. To find one you need to filter so many things and so many people out, and on top of that there needs to be an additional filter in terms of the type of shoes?

 

As long as a guy isn't wearing these around town:

 

http://oldstersview.files.wordpress.com/2006/08/wellington_boots.jpg

 

I would assume there's nothing wrong with him.

[Brady_to_Moss]

No wonder i am single

[sweetjasmine]

See, this and the other thread I don't get.

 

It's hard enough to find decent people already. To find one you need to filter so many things and so many people out, and on top of that there needs to be an additional filter in terms of the type of shoes?

 

I think the OP was specifically saying that it's not a filter.

 

What's the problem with noticing what other people wear?

[Hkizzle]

I think the OP was specifically saying that it's not a filter.

 

What's the problem with noticing what other people wear?

 

Ok true. Prefer is different from deal breaker.

 

I prefer my women to be super models and wearing bikinis too.

[001bh]

Yeah I like my women to be wearing mini skirts, no underwear and 9inch heals and preferably topless. hmm. (Some how I have a feeling that that wouldn't be very functional or comfortable......) I like the first pair of shoes, I've always liked the old-school look of leather sneakers, comfy casual everyday shoes. Just like my ex liked to wear very comfy, practical clothing and I never had a problem with it. If you've got a problem with someone's personal taste, perhaps you should move on to someone with your preferences.

[Gemini09]

See, this and the other thread I don't get.

 

It's hard enough to find decent people already. To find one you need to filter so many things and so many people out, and on top of that there needs to be an additional filter in terms of the type of shoes?

 

As long as a guy isn't wearing these around town:

 

 

I would assume there's nothing wrong with him.

 

Let me guess, you wear the exact shoes in the links I sent?

[Hkizzle]

Let me guess, you wear the exact shoes in the links I sent?

 

Haha no, I find them real ugly and wouldn't wear them. Having said that, if I was dating a girl I wouldn't focus too much on her fashion.

 

In other words if she was wearing the female equivalent of those shoes I wouldn't worry.

 

There's more important things to worry about.

[Gemini09]

Haha no, I find them real ugly and wouldn't wear them. Having said that, if I was dating a girl I wouldn't focus too much on her fashion.

 

In other words if she was wearing the female equivalent of those shoes I wouldn't worry.

 

There's more important things to worry about.

 

 

We all know there are more important things to worry about. I need to find an actual picture of his shoes, cause actually his shoes looked way worse than the ones in the links. I was embarrassed a couple of times we went out. While, this may sound bad, it is true. I said I still dated him, but I don't get why he was so consistent in wearing them. It's like all he wanted to wear was white shoes and in this style. A couple of times I pointed out some nice looking shoes most men I've dated wear, and he seemed to be against it.

 

And that's interesting you do find them ugly, and you wouldn't wear them.

[EarthGirl]

Actually those are just the kind of shoes I find sexy on a guy. There are kinda hip hoppy, kind of like an 80's throwback, but I think they are very masculine, tasteful, subtle, and cool. Well I guess they could be masculine or feminine. A girl could wear shoes like that and they would be cute, but it would be when she was kinda "dressed down" on a casual day....wearing pants, not a skirt or dress. I just like any kind of sneakers on a guy, or maybe some kind of boots, or some kind of lighter (as in thickness and weight of shoe, not color) shoe on a hotter day. BUT I do not like sandals on a guy...I mean if I really liked a guy I would not care especially if we were going to the beach or something.

 

I mean like in Shawshank Redemption, who really notices your shoes? But I ESPECIALLY do not like a guy to wear those sandals...you know those ones we were all wearing in the 90's and were kind of a trendy thing, but they are still around...I can't think of the name, it's on the tip of my tongue...the ones that are kind of hard and theres a strap over the top of your foot but nothing in the back, and your foot is supposed to fit right into them, like there are even grooves for each toe...

 

I'm sure someone will come up with what I'm talking about. But I generally do not like the California surfer boy look with colorful horizontal striped shirts and kaki shorts. Like where I'm from (Austin, TX) a lot guys especially college guys dress like that, and I just do not find it attractive. I mean Zach on Saved by the Bell pulled it off but not many have since then. Of course it gets pretty hot in my hometown in the peak of summer, so you just cannot wear pants all the time or heavy long sleeved clothing, but there are other things you can wear to stay cool besides that style.

[JohnP82]

Actually those Ben Shermans look nice, I think I might get me a pair

[EarthGirl]

I don't know if the real shoes he was wearing were really a lot worse than the pictures you found. but seriously beauty must be in the eye of the beholder because ever since I was a teenager if I saw a guy in those type of shoes, my heart would literally beat a little faster...JUST from the shoes. It's a little irrational as I may not be attracted to the guy wearing them at all, but just for a moment, I get all fluttery.

 

As I do when I see these:

 

http://www.hotilids.com/newsie-ivy-drivers-caps.htm

 

or these

 

http://www.onlyleatherjackets.com/mens-Leather-Jackets.html

 

I also like a guy who is man enough to be comfortable wearing pink. Especially lighter pink, because I think light pink tends to look nice with certain men with certain skin types (not necessarily light or dark, but just that certain men look good in that, it's refreshing and makes them look fresh and sexy).

[Gemini09]

Maybe it was more like these, but they were really run down looking too on top of this.

 

http://www.shoes.com/Shopping/ProductDetails.aspx?p=EC1155800&pg=5096391

 

 

Anyways, I feel a bit bad now posting this thread, but just wanted some people's opinions. I wouldn't not go out with a guy over his shoes, but I admit it did bother me.

[sweetjasmine]

Haha no, I find them real ugly and wouldn't wear them. Having said that, if I was dating a girl I wouldn't focus too much on her fashion.

 

In other words if she was wearing the female equivalent of those shoes I wouldn't worry.

 

There's more important things to worry about.

 

You probably do focus on it to some extent, just not consciously. I think everyone notices the way other people dress/groom themselves, but I guess it only really registers with most of us when we see someone who's wearing something completely inappropriate for whatever context we're in. You might not notice what shoes a girl's wearing, but if she wears old ripped jeans to a fancy restaurant, you'd probably notice.

 

The way people present themselves - which includes how they dress, how they groom themselves, how they carry themselves - says something about their personality. Even "I don't really care how I look right now, I'll just wear whatever's comfortable" sends a message. I don't think it's necessarily shallow for people to notice that kind of thing.

 

That being said, I agree with you that overall there are more important things to worry about.

[Citizen Erased]

Good brand. I don't see anything wrong with the first ones. The link wouldn't work for the other.

[caramel c]

I don't see anything wrong with either of those shoes as long as he's wearing them with jeans. With dress pants it would be a disaster though.

[westernxer]

I refuse to indulge in fashion criticism. LOL

[Peanut9330]

Well I’m not a big fan of these but I wouldn’t mind if my BF wore them I’m sure there are things in my closet he doesn’t like but since its only clothing or shoes it really doesn’t matter that much.

[SoulSearch_CO]

Huh. I don't see anything wrong with these shoes. *shrug*

[boldjack]

I'll give the same answer as the other thread, If you don't like what I wear and your shallow enough for it to matter, the go somewhere else.

[Hop_prophet]

Why didn't you just buy him a new pair of shoes if it bothered you that much?? If hes like me then he probably has about 3 pairs of shoes and just wears the hell out of the pair he likes. I don't have much fashion sense but they didn't look that bad to me. My gf makes fun of my clothes all the time but it doesn't bother me at all. I'm happy to wear most things she picks out since she has good taste.

[fabulousgal]

I'll give the same answer as the other thread, If you don't like what I wear and your shallow enough for it to matter, the go somewhere else.

 

I think this is a little harsh because the OP has a right to like or dislike certain things or habits about a potential partner just like anyone else. Dress, appearance, physical upkeep, grooming habits, quirky habits etc are all fair game.

 

I am extremely into fashion, it's my hobby and passion. I see clothing as expression. I could care less what any of my friends, family, strangers etc wear.

 

However if I am dating someone I do want them to have style. If we are running to Starbucks to have coffee and he has on flip flops cool. But if we are going out for dinner to a nice place and for drinks I would want someone who pays attention to the detail of his outfit and has a sense of style. I see nothing shallow about this at all. I've dated guys who didn't have any style but its not my preference.

[boldjack]

Fabgal, you and the OP and everybody else are perfectly free to be as shallow as you want to be. I made no statement about the OP at all. I'm just stating my own beliefs.

[fabulousgal]

You are stating your own beliefs which is great. To assign the label of shallow to those that may differ from your beliefs is a pity.

[Lyssa]

Such a trivial matter to ponder about...

 

If it was such a big deal, in the future - date a man that has a fashion sense.