Author broken hearted Posted September 12, 2009 Author Posted September 12, 2009 I'm really not sure things will look differently after the birth of this baby! I'm really terrified that my husband is going to have almost nothing to do with this poor innocent baby and will only care about our 2 year old son. It makes no sense that he can have nothing to do with this entire pregnancy, put me through this pain, heartache, and stress the entire pregnancy and think it wouldn't affect his baby at all, not go to any drs. appts with me, etc. He was the polar opposite when I was pregnant with our son! He was at drs. appts, waited on me hand and foot towards the end when I was so uncomfortable, rubbed my feet and back most nights, cried at the birth! How can he truly believe that this didn't affect anyone else. I hope when he sees his baby, he will realize that not only did he put me and our 2 year old son through this pain, stress, and devastation, but he put his poor innocent unborn child through it as well! I'm not even sure this whole time that he's understood the reality that a baby exists inside of me! Last night when I was putting our son to bed, he looked at me and said, "I'm going to see Daddy tomorrow." I said yes you are and he replied, "but not tonight because Daddy doesn't want to see me tonight." My heart broke into even more pieces than it's already in right now! I just layed there and held my little man and tried with everything I have not to start crying! I HATE THIS CURRENT LIFE! I HOPE IT GETS BETTER ASAP!
singledad2 Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Hang in there. Focus on the wonderful life you are starting with the baby and son. There are many, many positive outcomes from all of this for you to choose from, so pick one that is real and focus on that picture. You have taken care of it so far and will continue to do a great job, I know. We all care and will get you through this.
tojaz Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Broken We can only control our own actions, not those of others. If he decides to be a bastard and walk away from his kids, that just means you'll be able to love the twice as much. Something I know your capable of. In the end, it's going to be up to him what kind of man he's going to be. He hasn't done a very good job of that so far. If he does decide to forsake his children, thats going to be his loss and something he will come to regret as time goes on. Thats something that can never be repaired.He will live with the consequences of his actions, both what he has done and what he will do, for the rest of his life. Your hurting now, but you will be able to hold your head up high! TOJAZ
LisaUk Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 I don't believe this!!! he left a beautiful 27 yr old for a 40 yr old? fog + walkaway = affair goggles? my wife is living with a thrice-divorced 33 yr old woman who's lost 3 out of 4 kids in custody battles, barely knows how to read, and does coke all the time (with an 11 yr old daughter living in the house!)! and for awhile at least, was still living with her ex, whose arms are covered in swastika tattooes from prison! these are the people my pacifist, intellectual wife is hanging out with! i don't think they're having an affair, but still!!! the people our spouses leave us to hang out with are disgusting! brokenhearted, you'll find much better, and your husband will realize he screwed up the best thing that ever happened to him! Mine is hanging out with banking city boys, many of whom have divorced their wifes, left their kids and are shacked up or re-married to much younger women. Says a lot, doesn't it?! They all down trade, even if it's not for an affair, why is that? Gunny said something about this a while ago? Anyone seen Gunny lately???
tojaz Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 Anyone seen Gunny lately??? Maybe he finally found the rum! :laugh:
2.50 a gallon Posted September 12, 2009 Posted September 12, 2009 broken hearted I have no doubt that he will come a knocking. From your description the skank will drop him, then where will he go? Where I live he would be laughed out of town, would not be able to show his face in the daylight. Just wait until you've regained you figure, go out for the evening, and the world finds out that you are available. Have faith, a new day is coming. So how do you like your rum?
singledad2 Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 They all down trade, even if it's not for an affair, why is that? Gunny said something about this a while ago? Anyone seen Gunny lately??? Yeah, he mentioned that trading down was part of the guilt and not deserving the old relationship, I believe. Mine is hanging out with folks that don't have professional jobs, just kind of resort, seasonal kinds of stuff. One of her "advisors" is 40, never been married,no kids, and encouraging her to just throw it all away if it makes her feel better.
Author broken hearted Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Well, my labor is being induced tomorrow! I can't seem to get around the fact that I am having this baby tomorrow and my husband and I are divorcing. I feel so alone! I feel used and as if our marriage, our love, our relationship, our family is all just a big joke to him! It seems as though it never meant anything to him, so easy to throw out! Damn, it's been a really rough day for me just anticipating the emotional rollercoaster I will be on tomorrow giving birth to our child! HOW THE HELL ARE SOME PEOPLE SO CRUEL! DAMN LOVE HURTS!
tojaz Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Focus your energy on that beautiful baby your going to meet tomorrow. Not being there for the birth of his child is going to be the biggest mistake of his life. Something he is going to regret forever. He will realize that someday when the fog lifts and he sees the huge mistake he has made. Sad fact of life is people change and not always for the better. A fact we all have learned all too well. My thoughts will be with you tomorrow Broken. Hope all goes well for you. TOJAZ
Surfer Girl Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 Once you see that beautiful child you have been waiting for.... It won't be about him... it will be about a child you will love and cherish...
LisaUk Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 All the best for tomorrow Broken, you're not alone all of us here will be thinking of you and rooting for you! Your husband is a cruel and selfish man who does not deserve a wonderful women and mother of his children like you. That baby that you will meet sometime in the next 24-48 hours, will bring you so much joy and love, once you meet it all will become clear with regards to just WHAT your H is. Stay strong Broken, I KNOW you can do this, like you said remember to ask for the epideral! Will be thinking of you when I'm in class tomorrow!
Author broken hearted Posted September 13, 2009 Author Posted September 13, 2009 Thank you all so much everyone! I honestly couldn't have gotten through all of this without you! The pain is unbearable most days but just coming on here has helped me survive the pain and survive the loss of my love!
lupa Posted September 13, 2009 Posted September 13, 2009 As was said already, good luck, we're pulling for you. Post pics of the new rugrat!!! We're all here for you if you need us.
tojaz Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Thank you all so much everyone! I honestly couldn't have gotten through all of this without you! The pain is unbearable most days but just coming on here has helped me survive the pain and survive the loss of my love! Thats what were here for Broken. Stay strong, theres a bright future coming for you and your kids. Best of luck tomorrow! Hurry back we'll be worrying about you. TOJAZ
2.50 a gallon Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 I once assisted in an emergency birth, it was awesome. I wanted to have kids, but it didn't happen. Had it happend I would have been there with the biggest teddy bear one could buy. My GF's grandaughter took her first step in life to me, a very special memory. It is beyond me how any man could miss such a milestone in life. Shows his lowlife charcter. Another one rooting for you
Auroracoladybug Posted September 14, 2009 Posted September 14, 2009 Broken...okay so I am a little jelous ...i want #2 my thoughts are with you and the kids
2.50 a gallon Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 BH Thanks for the update. Fantastic! How are you doing? And I am sure you other friends will want to know how she is doing when you have the time Take care of yourself Your friend Gallon
singledad2 Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 Congratulations! Focus on that miracle!
tojaz Posted September 16, 2009 Posted September 16, 2009 It's a girl! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! So, when do we get baby pictures!! (I'm such a girl! LOL) TOJAZ
Gunny376 Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 It's a girl! OOOOOrrrraaahhhhh! Out freaking standing! Good job Mom! Your going to do fine. Your a strong woman ~ a stong individual ~ a stong person! Stronger than you will ever know! She's going to know that as she grows! She's got a hard corps Mom! All day strong! Hold tight ~ its going to be alright!
Auroracoladybug Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Good to hear the update! I am so excited for you!
Ariadne Posted September 17, 2009 Posted September 17, 2009 Congratulations Broken! Good luck with everything! And how lucky a girl.
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