Chrome Barracuda Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 Wow I feel sorry for the kids, just throwaway daddy and get a new one in 4 months. Nice parenting! This is gonna be a disaster. Could you honestly trust this man if he's so willing to cheat on his wife and leave his family? You dont think it will happen to you? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I am more concerned with such a big age gap....Good Luck to you, I dunno, she is in her sexual prime and now that I know about men in their 50s it sounds like yowza yowza time. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 30, 2008 Share Posted May 30, 2008 I dunno, she is in her sexual prime and now that I know about men in their 50s it sounds like yowza yowza time. Viagra and Cialis springs to my mind. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 In regards to the children. Why not keep them away from OM until after the divorces are final? Also, background check him for their safety! It will also show your STBXH, that you are being responsible, and assuage some of his fears. This is a good idea, actually. I'm sure YOU know he's a good man, but it doesn't hurt to reassure you STBXH. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Viagra and Cialis springs to my mind. lol. Hey, whatever it takes! On a side note, my friends agree with me that for whatever reason older men have MORE energy in bed and tend to last longer. You couldn't have convinced me before I met exMM but now I'm a believer. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Viagra and Cialis springs to my mind. lol. You missed Levitra, and a myriad patent preprations like Hi-Rise and those Chinese ixes made from powdered rhino horn. I've had numerous men in their 50s and none have ever needed ED meds (with me, at least. Maybe with their Ws it was different?). As WF says, men of that age last longer, have developed an amazing range of lovemaking skills, have learned to listen to (and for) the responses of a woman's body and know what it takes to make the experience transcendent. And the energy and passion they bring surpasses younger men by far! (You'll get there Chrome - give it time) OP is edging towards her sexual peak, so let her enjoy it instead of having to settle for a guy who's just good, but not great... Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I used to love teasing exMM that he turned me on to older guys. He'd give me that sideways glance and then I'd attack him. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I used to love teasing exMM that he turned me on to older guys. He'd give me that sideways glance and then I'd attack him. You should give your xMM my MM's number - sounds like they have a lot to commiserate with each other about! :p Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 You should give your xMM my MM's number - sounds like they have a lot to commiserate with each other about! :p Yes, and wouldn't they just love their own form of LS...without the bashing! We should start a support group just for them. Do you think they would partake in it? Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Yes, and wouldn't they just love their own form of LS...without the bashing! We should start a support group just for them. Do you think they would partake in it? When men get together, they either haul out beers and watch the game, or haul out their equipment and measure who's the biggest (metaphorically speaking, before everyone jumps me!). OK not ALL men are like that, and I don't think my MM has ever watched a game that hasn't been under duress (doing the "good-dad-bonding-with-son" thing) or felt it necessary to compete with a guy he's only just met to establish a pecking order, and I'm sure your MM is too much of a gentleman to do that too, but I don't think there's much cultural repertoire for them to fall back on on the "support group" front. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 When men get together, they either haul out beers and watch the game, or haul out their equipment and measure who's the biggest (metaphorically speaking, before everyone jumps me!). OK not ALL men are like that, and I don't think my MM has ever watched a game that hasn't been under duress (doing the "good-dad-bonding-with-son" thing) or felt it necessary to compete with a guy he's only just met to establish a pecking order, and I'm sure your MM is too much of a gentleman to do that too, but I don't think there's much cultural repertoire for them to fall back on on the "support group" front. You're right! He called just a little while ago and I asked him if he would partake in a men's group (of MMs) and he said he probably wouldn't. (Too gentlemanly). But he said he wouldn't mind sitting together, the four of us, and sharing certain topics. He said that might be very erotic. Interesting. If MM and I get together for a date one day, and you two are in town we should think about that. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 You're right! He called just a little while ago and I asked him if he would partake in a men's group (of MMs) and he said he probably wouldn't. (Too gentlemanly). But he said he wouldn't mind sitting together, the four of us, and sharing certain topics. He said that might be very erotic. Interesting. If MM and I get together for a date one day, and you two are in town we should think about that. Or get all hot & sweaty on IM? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Or get all hot & sweaty on IM? I never partook in a chatroom before...not where cyber sex is involved. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I never partook in a chatroom before...not where cyber sex is involved. Me neither - when people hit on me online my response tends to be amusement rather than lust. I'm a sad case, I know... Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Me neither - when people hit on me online my response tends to be amusement rather than lust. I'm a sad case, I know... Not at all, like me you would rather have physical contact. My IMs with MM were mostly joking about cyber sex which would highten our actual meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Not at all, like me you would rather have physical contact. My IMs with MM were mostly joking about cyber sex which would highten our actual meeting. I think there's a huge difference between cyber contact where the R is physical, and cyber contact where it's only online. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I think there's a huge difference between cyber contact where the R is physical, and cyber contact where it's only online. Yes indeed, for us it was mostly flirting and saying things we might not have been brave enough to say in person. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 Yes indeed, for us it was mostly flirting and saying things we might not have been brave enough to say in person. I definitely think that without the online dimension, my R with MM wouldn't have deepened so quickly. And our sex life would definitely have lacked certain of the, er, dimensions it developed as a result! Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 I dunno, she is in her sexual prime and now that I know about men in their 50s it sounds like yowza yowza time.ahhh she is not there yet!!!! Its over 40:laugh: I guess thank god for Viagra, cause he be what 65??? Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted May 31, 2008 Share Posted May 31, 2008 ahhh she is not there yet!!!! Its over 40:laugh: I guess thank god for Viagra, cause he be what 65??? Who would be 65? The OP's guy? Now this might start a debate. Yes, all the reports SAY a woman peaks in her 30s. But if that is true, then how long does the peak last? I'm in my early 40s and it has never been better for me. I want it more often and the Os last longer, etc. Anyone agree? Disagree? Am I just lucky? I'm sure the OP doesn't mind my asking;) Link to post Share on other sites
Mino Posted June 1, 2008 Share Posted June 1, 2008 Who would be 65? The OP's guy? Now this might start a debate. Yes, all the reports SAY a woman peaks in her 30s. But if that is true, then how long does the peak last? I'm in my early 40s and it has never been better for me. I want it more often and the Os last longer, etc. Anyone agree? Disagree? Am I just lucky? I'm sure the OP doesn't mind my asking;)lol, Women peak in their forties... if there is a 25 year age difference, he would be 65. right? I know men with heart conditions arent allowed to take viagra.... But then I dont know, My mm, is going on 50, and your right.. much better then the younger ones. Im thinking a woman then turns 45, and he is 70, yikes....now the age differernce is hitting them, it will catch up eventually Link to post Share on other sites
Author PG Love Posted June 2, 2008 Author Share Posted June 2, 2008 Sorry to take so long to get back, no computer at home. OM is 20 years older, so he is 50 and we have no problems in the sexual department LOL (best I've ever had and best I've ever been). As far as the pace of things, we've felt like we have know each other forever and I know that sounds cliche, but we really don't want to waste any more time to be together. I feel we've lost so much time already and now that we've found eachother we want to spend every moment we can enjoying it. I have learned from the past mistakes in my marriage and I do know what I want out of life and how to contain the happiness and newness of the relationship. We have really discussed this at great lengths and agree that this will work no matter what. I have also already done the background check because I do care about my children. I did rush into my marriage, but I never really felt that he was the one, I just didn't want to go home for the summer and my parents wouldn't agree to us living together. I was 18 and very naive and didn't realize that I had a better choice. I had a very bad weekend with my family and ended up having my dad arrested for domestic violence so I am looking to move away and start over fresh and give my family a new outlook. My children need a break and some stability without being put in the middle of all of this as they are now. I am trying to be as less disruptive to my kids as possilbe, but this definitely needs to be done now. Thanks for your advice and success stories because I know we will make it work and be happy together. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 OM is 20 years older, so he is 50 and we have no problems in the sexual department LOL (best I've ever had and best I've ever been). And it will just get better, all other things being equal. I had a very bad weekend with my family and ended up having my dad arrested for domestic violence so I am looking to move away and start over fresh and give my family a new outlook. My children need a break and some stability without being put in the middle of all of this as they are now. I am trying to be as less disruptive to my kids as possilbe, but this definitely needs to be done now. PGL this made me pause. You've been cautioned (earlier) about rushing into things - this here made me wonder what you're trying to rush OUT OF. It sounds to me that you're seeing yourself in a bad space, and looking to this move as a way out of that? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 3, 2008 Share Posted June 3, 2008 Did she just say stability?!?!?! LOL:lmao: WTF? what kind of message is she showing to her children? This guy cheated on his wife, he will cheat on you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author PG Love Posted June 3, 2008 Author Share Posted June 3, 2008 Yes, I said stability! They do not have any here right now with everyone getting in the middle and involving them in all that goes on. My 8 year old has been dealt with like an adult from all of them and I am still trying to keep her out of it. If I can remove them from the situation and start fresh at least that will be some stability for them. I am running away from the madness, but I am also running to something I want, which is a full happy life with my children and the man I love with out the madness that surrounds it. I have already talked to STBX and he's okay with the move and we will work out all the details when that happens. Just because he cheated on his wife does not mean he will cheat on me! Link to post Share on other sites
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