I'm Addicted to Strippers

[Touche]

Not yet but I'm pretty sure this is where serial killers get their start.

 

I'm more concerned about this safety of these girls then how pathetic this guy is.

 

Have a heart will you? Can't you see this guy is suffering? You're such a drama queen! (You have to be a female, although I don't really know..if not you're gay and a drama queen too.)

 

Serial killers don't "get their start" by going to strip clubs. You're ignorant. He's given no indication at all of being a threat to these girls. If anything he's way too nice to them.

 

bnextdoor, just keep posting here and really try to not go there anymore. Try to break that habit. It will only make you miserable as time goes on. I'm sure there's a girl out there who will love you for you and not for what you can give them. Why not try to find out? You seem too scared to find that out. You want some easy solution. It's not that easy for most of us.

 

So why not try something else?

[Yamaha]

The problem we are having is that we give you advice to try to stop the hurt in your life and you just want info on how to date a stripper. You posted on your addiction to this lifestyle but you seem unwilling to try and stop, keep going back and now you are giving gifts and wanting to bring them back home for sex. You acknowledged your addiction in the beginning but now you seem to just want to indulge your addiction by getting one as a gf and want approval from us. You must show us some desire on your part on being serious about stopping otherwise it is just so much BS.

 

If your goal is to date a stripper and have one as a gf then you should have posted on that topic from the start.

[Green]

you need to stop going to the strip clubs, you find a real girl who you really connect with and you can have way more then a lap dance for alot less then 600% of what you make in a week.

[b_nextdoor]

I just got back from my local strip bar. There were 17 dancers there tonight. This one girl I like a lot, named Joey, was there tonight. I hadn't seen her in at least two or three weeks. She sat with me for at least half of the time I was there. I felt bad that I didn't give her a gift, but I hadn't seen her in a long time and didn't think she would even be back there until after the New Year. I sincerely think that of all the girls I know there, she is one of the best candidates for a girlfriend. There are quite a few cuter girls, but none of them spend as much time with me and talk to me as much as she does. I also know that she is currently attending college and is intelligent, which means a lot to me. She is so soft and cuddly; I love it when she gives me hugs!

 

Tora, the girl I gave the bottle of French perfume to last night was very friendly to me tonight also. In the middle of a dance with one of my all-time favorite girls, Tory, Tora came over and said. "Here's your present!" and gave me this cute little pair of black, lacey panties that she had been wearing. I said "Thank you" and kind of pretended that it never happened and went back to admiring Tory. There were just way too many girls that I know and like working there tonight. It is better when there are only two or three of my favorites there in one night. There were at least 17 dancers there tonight and I am sure I knew at least 14 of them. I would have done almost anything if I could have had at least one of my favorites come home with me just to kiss and hug and cuddle and fall asleep with. Of course I never even asked any of them to do so, so I shouldn't complain. I should start asking a lot of them to do that and maybe eventually one of them would say "Yes." I think if I just asked some of them like Joey or Geri my chances would be at least 50%, but it is so hard to ask them and to risk being rejected. I hate being alone! I wish that one of them were here with me right now and that I could hug and hold her and kiss and lick her from her cute toes all the way up to her soft earlobes! I could have so much pleasure without even going all the way with her. I would do almost anything for that! Geri and Joey are both so soft and cuddly and cute. I would love to have either of them here with me right now!

 

Oh, well, another night alone. It's a good thing that I am a little drunk right now so that I will be able to fall asleep fast when I crawl into my big, empty, lonely bed. I know that I could never fall asleep that fast if I were sober and lonely. I guess the alcohol is a substitute for the girl that I want so badly. The girl would be so much better for me, but oh, well, I guess being drunk is almost as fun.

[lonelybird]

Can not you concentrate on only ONE stripper?

[Green]

Umm Ive asked it once and Ill ask it again what do you mean when you say youd do anything for these girls, I mean your not even willing to ask them out so how can you even begin to claim ud do anyting. Just ask them out and get it over with and stop going to the strip club. Your going to lose everything and be forced to stop soon enough

[Guest]

What you want?

 

You said so many times you r a nice guy but u dont understand why none of the girls like you. Answer: Because you have a problem of drinking and pulling the pants of girls none of them like you. If you really wanted a gf you could have at least had one girl that you r really attracted to. But you dont even have that. You fly from one girl to another everynight. What you want is not a gf. You just want sex, you r horny and you need to get laid. You go to the strip club just instead of watching porn. The difference is you touch them and talk to them with the help of money. Strip club just gives you that fantasy of having many girls all at once. It sounds like you r depressed from not having sex for a long time or something. Otherwise none of those girls are really a gf material and you know that.

 

Stop being so desperate. Your not the only person in the planet who s looking for a gf. All single men are seeking the "ONE" in their own way. If you really want to find one start leading a normal life. Develop yourself. There are so many ways to meet women if you really want. You need to go rehab to stop drinking and going to the strip club all in all..

[ibitealil]

You have many other issues than just addiction to strippers. You have to at 1st accept these problems and start to work on them!!!

 

1) yOU r depressed, possibly because you didnt have sex quite a long time

2) You probably are a nice guy but u sound u have a lot of minuses in ur personality which is why girls dont wanna hang up with u. A)yOU have an instable personality. From your threads i can see that you change the details in your story little by little everytime you post a new thing, for example at 1st u wrote u had only 4 women in ur life and then later u said u r still a virgin. B)You also tend to promise women whatever comes into ur mind as long as u get what you want, such as i d do anything for you etc. Normal women dont like it, can sense it that u r bluffing, IOW nobody takes u serious because u never are serious. C)plus u dress up and show money to people when u actually dont have it and u never show them who you are for real, that shows ur shallow personality. Women also dont like it. If you really want to get a gf u have to develop ur personality. Its not the money and appearance only attract women, which is why u cant even take a stripper home. Eventhough strippers only go for money they are also human beings and they really dont want to hang up with u outside the strip club because they dont like you as a person. None of them. D) you dont even have one girl that you are attracted to. You just run from one girl to another and you like this fantasy of being with many beautiful women which happens only in porn movies. But in fact you know that none of those strippers are a gf material to you. Are you sure you r looking for a gf? To me u just seem u want to get laid.

 

3) You have a drinking problem Strip clubs and all those women look so fantastic only when you r really drunk. Since you go there every night, you drink every night. You need to rehab asap!

4) if you hate ur job with the boss you hate why dont you quit and find another job? If you hate your life so much why dont you try to change it, such as applying other jobs, moving to another town etc.

5) You dont have a real hobby or interest which is why u only go to that strip club. Thats also a minus if u want to get girls. You must be dull, nothing is good and interesting in ur life. Girls like happy, confident, funny devoted guys, guys like u are big turn off for girls to be ur gf if you just go to the strip club. So get a grip and make ur life interesting.

6) Not only you in this planet is looking for a girl. Tons of people looking for the "ONE " in their own ways. So stop being so desperate and thinking that u r the only loser.

 

Find out what you want. If getting laid is all what u want right now then no need to run this thread at all.

[b_nextdoor]

I decided to take a break from going to my local strip club, and I went to see the new Spiderman 3 movie instead -- by myself. There were so many couples in the movie theatre, I started to think about Tora and Lexie and wondered what it would be like to have them out on a real date, sharing popcorn, and holding hands together. I would just love being able to smell Lexie's perfume, warmed and fragrant against her body. I would be in complete heaven if she leaned over next to me in her seat and held me close during the intense scenes of the movie. Better still, if she decided to nibble on my ear during the love scenese.

 

Well -- I better go out to my strip club tomorrow nite; it will be closed on Sunday for a private party and I will be all alone, Sunday night before work on Monday.

[burning 4 revenge]

......................................... nevermind

[alphamale]

strippers just want your money, and they'll do almost anything to get it. if you ever want to see why men don't dominate anymore in the US just go to any strip club.

[Green]

have you learned nothing from spiderman 3, take off your black spiderman suit and put back the red one you cant live life on your agressive impulses alone. Just pay one of those girls to go to the movies with you and they would. I know one of the would screw you for money

[alphamale]

I know one of the would screw you for money

some have been known to turn tricks just for cocaine.

[Engineer]

On the title you said you are addicted to strippers, and yet you are NOT doing anything to help yourself to cure this addiction.

 

Like other posters said, strippers are only interested in your money. Think about it, why would they be stripping if they are rich?

 

You inherited a wealth from your father. Instead of putting that money into savings or purchase a brand new vechicle, you spend that money on strippers. Now that money will eventually run out and will never return. What are you going to do then? Do you think strippers will be coming after you if you are broke?

 

The only way to cure this addiction is to reduce the number of visit to the strip club. Gradually move your way down. This principle is the same as quitting smoking.

 

For example..

 

First week - You go to the strip club 5 times

Second week - Reduce it to 4 and so on.

 

You are trapped in your own realm. If you don't fix it, it will haunt you for the rest of your life.

 

Based on your profile, it looks like you are working for a retailer. If you really want a serious relationship, then you will need to improve yourself FIRST before you chase anyone.

[b_nextdoor]

some have been known to turn tricks just for cocaine.

That's dark, dude! Most of the girls at my local strip club claim to be raising money to finish college (Mankato is a college town, home of Minnesota State University). I always thought that some of the girls were putting up a front of some type -- especially Lexie and Joey. Last night, I even gave Joey a special tip -- I hand fed her some cheese bread that I had ordered for my table.

[b_nextdoor]

It's Sunday night and my local strip club is closed tonight. I am so lonely tonight. I hate it.

 

Actually more than that I hate the fact that I have to go back to work tomorrow for this man that does nothing but degrade me and hold me back and take advantage of me even though I am a very good worker. After working for him for over nine years full time, all he pays me is $7.20 an hour and he refuses to move me up in the company even though I am more intelligent than he is and also a nicer person and more thoughtful and considerate and etc.

 

I know I am kind of getting off the subject, but you people have no idea of all the problems I have and do face and all of the pain I go through every day. I am going into debt on these credit cards because of my bad habit of going to the strip joint and tipping the girls way too much.

 

I broke my ankle very severely one year ago today and even though I thought I had good insurance, it turns out that it wasn't that great and I still owe a lot of money to the hospital and the orthopedic and fracture clinic and the anesthesiologists association and the other regular clinic too. I send each of them about $10 to $15 per month, but they keep sending me these threatening letters about the full amounts being due immediately and such. I could tell you so much more about this. It is so much more complicated. I was on this medication called Prednisone at the time I broke my ankle and found out later that one of the side effects of this drug is that it makes your bones very brittle and the doctor never told me this and if I had just been taking calcium supplements at the same time I may have never even broken my ankle. I feel like that doctor was at least somewhat responsible. It is now one year later and my ankle still hurts and swells up every day and I have a steel plate and about 6 screws in it. When I sent a bunch of my claim forms into my insurance company they lost them and then said they received them beyond the deadline that I had to send them in by and I missed out on a big check because of that.

 

The car I drive (a '94 Chrysler) is a total lemon and I have sunk over $7000 into it in the past four years. I am on my third engine and the car only has 101,000 miles on it. I was major league ripped off on the one engine I got for it and on a lot of repairs since then. I now cannot afford another car and it is totally undependable and absolutely will not start at all at least two out of seven days. I should have sued at least two different shops over these rip-offs… but didn't. My take home pay for one month is about $800 and my bills + the money I spend at the strip bar amount to at least $2000 a month. The interest on these credit cards is really bad. I must be paying at least $250 a month just in interest.

 

Also, my Dad died totally unexpectedly last March and my Grandpa about 4 1/2 years ago and my parents got divorced about 5 years ago. I live alone and have very few friends and have lost most of them because they are tired of my problems. I cannot help it. It is not my fault! I just had to get drunk tonight so that I could at least sleep sound for a few hours before I have to get up and go to this job I hate and work for peanuts and go further in debt and come home and be alone again.

[Touche]

Well, it could be worse.

[Guest]

what do you mean it's not your fault?

 

if you don't go to that strip club everyday, you would have enough money to afford a new car and pay your medical bill

 

well man there is nothing more i can tell you, have a good day

[Green]

find another job that pays more than minimum wage.

[Ladywithafan]

I decided to take a break from going to my local strip club, and I went to see the new Spiderman 3 movie instead -- by myself. There were so many couples in the movie theatre, I started to think about Tora and Lexie and wondered what it would be like to have them out on a real date, sharing popcorn, and holding hands together. I would just love being able to smell Lexie's perfume, warmed and fragrant against her body. I would be in complete heaven if she leaned over next to me in her seat and held me close during the intense scenes of the movie. Better still, if she decided to nibble on my ear during the love scenese.

 

Well -- I better go out to my strip club tomorrow nite; it will be closed on Sunday for a private party and I will be all alone, Sunday night before work on Monday.

 

Why don't you get a hobby like golf, bowling, film society, I don't know...somewhere...church/temple ....where you can meet women who aren't flashing their private parts in exchange for cash?

 

All you are ever going to get from your strip girls is a tease, and you're the butt of the joke because they can't believe you're so desperate.

 

Your fantasy is not going to become a reality; you are going to go "stripal" and something bad is going to result.

 

I can feel it.

[MrsHellFire]

You really sound like a stalker-type character.

Honestly, strippers see their clientele as pathetic.

 

I really am curious as to why you cannot obtain or attract women. Something sounds really creepy to me. Actually this whole thread does.. sorry.

 

Strippers are money-hungry. But I'm hoping past rejections won't trigger you to hate women either. There are some sweet girls out there who are lonely and looking for companionship, but a stripclub is not where you'll find one!!

[MrsHellFire]

I'll tell you one thing though:

 

Pissing your money away at strip clubs or whorehouses is not a good long-term strategy on achieving a girlfriend. Most women want security. You want to waste all your money on tramps and let the good women go by?

[Green]

yes what a great help you are maybe you could have added that last nail in

[IWALH]

I have a few things to say.

 

First and foremost, strippers are not whores, skanks, prostitutes and the like. Anyone who says such things is just ignorant. Sure, there are plenty who have drug problems and sleep around and such but the majority of them just want to make as much money as they can and go home.

 

I used to dance full time in 2005. I started again about a month or so ago... only a few times here and there. I am also in college and a single mother to a one year old little girl. Is it the most respectable job? Is it something I brag about to friends and family members? Of course not. But it's currently helping me get out of debt, support my daughter and make my way through school so I can eventually have a good, stable full time career.

 

Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let me give the OP some firsthand information. The most ANNOYING thing that a customer at a strip club can do to a girl is try to get her to meet him outside of the club. That is the WORST thing you can do. It makes us very uncomfortable and gives us a headache. Do you really think we want to go out with someone who came into a club to see us naked? As awful as it sounds, we are nice to you because we want your money. It's all an acting game. Strippers are some of the best actresses. We have bills to pay and you are there to help pay them. Sure we can have some nice conversations, but unless you are buying dances, VIPs or just giving us money we won't stay for long. If we do, it's because there aren't many other customers in the club, we are lazy or we feel bad for you. Let me make one thing clear, though. It's not that we think you are "pathetic" like some other posters have suggested. We think quite the opposite. Any customer who spends a lot of money will get talked about quite positively in the locker room. It's the ones who come in all the time and DON'T spend money that are talked negatively about and that we think are pathetic.

 

Bottom line: A strip club is there for guys to come in and spend money to see naked or topless girls. My job would be a hell of a lot easier if guys would realize this and just come in, get some dances, keep their mouths shut and leave. It is NOT a place to look for a date. This is our JOB. We don't come to your job and haggle you for dates when you are trying to work. If you are going to frequent a strip club you have to be able to distinguish fantasy from reality. These girls only want you to think they want you... but they don't want you, they want your money. But when you think they want you, it makes you want to give them money. Understand?

[BustyAnn]

:bunny:Hello. OMG u r so on target. I too was a dancer/stripper. I did it for the money period. I saw it for what it was, a fantasy evening for horney males who were lacking something in their real world. I too was so sick of the males who were incessently hitting on me, touching my breasts, begging for action and so on. In fact, those males are responsible for me retiring from the business. I just couldnt stand their addictive behavior toward my and even more toward my breasts. A woman is a whole lot more than just two tits that jiggle to entertain a guy.