mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 So my backstory is here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t230587/ I have finally resolved this whole thing. And I am quite upset and so i am posting. But here is what happened. Ok so in the whole 2 and a half years i have known him i have NEVER been to his place. Not even his suburb. Yesterday though i visited my specialist dentist who had just moved to a suburb next to his. It was after work hours and i texted him that i was in the area blah blah. Anyway he said he was still at work and that it wasnt a good day to come over because he wont be there til later. I didnt get that message til later and went there anyway. He wasnt home . Anyway so today i texted asking when it would be a convenient time to visit, and this is the text i got: "No and now you have gone back to where you were before. There is no relationship. So either you respect what i want or i dont see you at all. Up to you" He thinks that i would still sleep with him after that??????? Not welcome at his house and he thinks thats OK??? IS this guy a %$#&&!! ?
alphamale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 He thinks that i would still sleep with him after that??????? Not welcome at his house and he thinks thats OK??? IS this guy a %$#&&!! ? you should drop this buffoon like a hot potatoe
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 please keep talking to me alphamale (or anyone else) I am trying not to text back
alphamale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 what sort of person IS he? he sounds like he is hiding something major....
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 he isnt married or anything like that he has been to my house hundreds of times it makes me shiver to think i have let him walk over me for so long, that he thinks its ok to text me something liek that and that there is STILL a possibility i will still want to see him, let alone sleep with him
alphamale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 it makes me shiver to think i have let him walk over me for so long, that he thinks its ok to text me something liek that and that there is STILL a possibility i will still want to see him, let alone sleep with him go into total NC and see what he does
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 he sounds like he is hiding something major.... No he thinks that if i go to his house then its a relationship/ friendship and he just wants someone to shag. seriously he is single, (divorced) he isnt hiding anything- i know that even though it sounds really suss
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 go into total NC and see what he does Well he said it was "up to me" so i dont think he would care if he never heard from me again. I havent texted.
alphamale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 No he thinks that if i go to his house then its a relationship/ friendship and he just wants someone to shag. thats sort of stupid...he must be some type of control freak
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 it just cuts really deep to think that someone i have known so intimately doesnt want me to go to their house ive never had anyone not want me to go to their house. Things like that really hurt me.
alphamale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Well he said it was "up to me" so i dont think he would care if he never heard from me again. I havent texted. well you need to end this FWB scenario
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 What do you think he would do if I went total blockage NC?
Yamaha Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 What is unbelieveable is that YOU even talk to this a$$wipe. Do you believe you can do better than him?
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 What is unbelieveable is that YOU even talk to this a$$wipe. Do you believe you can do better than him? I damn well hope so. He is an a$$ isnt he?
Yamaha Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I damn well hope so. He is an a$$ isnt he? Don't hope so, know so. Yes. He is an ASS. You better not call him and if he calls you for sex tell him that Mishy is no longer a recepticle for his d*ck. He is just a little immature boy and your looking for a man.
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 the text he sent- its just like he knows that i will still be ok with it all. its just so arrogant
Yamaha Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Until you stand up for yourself he will continue to believe he has power over you. If he really care for you do you think he would say the things he does?
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Until you stand up for yourself he will continue to believe he has power over you. If he really care for you do you think he would say the things he does? Is not replying to the text standing up for myself? I mean what on earth can i say in response to that text?
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 Do you really love this man? i definately have (had? ) feelings for him How on earth does a girl not after sleeping with a guy for two and a half years?
Yamaha Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 i definately have (had? ) feelings for him How on earth does a girl not after sleeping with a guy for two and a half years? I understand. The thing is he doesn't love you. He is taking the best of you and giving nothing in return. You/he are/is having relations not making love. Is what he gives you ( an orgasm ) enough?
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 No its not enough. Its more about how he treats me. And just on a basic human level- the fact that after all this time i am not welcome in his house that cuts
Author mishy Posted May 19, 2010 Author Posted May 19, 2010 I keep thinking of things i want to text back to him. but i havent is it better to just say nothing and not reply to that heinous text?
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