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Old 12th March 2019, 7:47 AM   #106
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Sugarkane, you really need to let this go.
You really do need to let this go. And if you are having a hard time doing that, then I would encourage you to get some help for your mental health.
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Old 14th March 2019, 8:16 AM   #107
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Quite hard to let this go when I've got my husband telling me to cut off my father, every hour of every day. But my dad is part of the supervision orders and I've tried talking to him- he goes off his head, storms off or threatens me.

And I still can't understand why my husband saw info from a lawyer about getting custody, on his dads laptop AND still promised me that his parents weren't going to take custody.

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You really do need to let this go. And if you are having a hard time doing that, then I would encourage you to get some help for your mental health.
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Old 15th March 2019, 11:14 PM   #108
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Still being harassed 24/7 to the point where we can't run this business together and my husband then goes and complains to his parents- in text or in front of me, that I'm not working with him. And only telling them half the story- not including his refusal to communicate.
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Old 18th March 2019, 6:07 PM   #110
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What kind of magic advice are you looking for, exactly?

Itís untenible. Your father is unreasonable. Your husband is unreasonable. And you are unreasonable. This has been going on for a LONG time, itís not going to get any better unless someone makes a MAJOR shift and walks away from this crazy situation. Given the length of time you have been complaining about this, and given your complete unwillingness to consider any of the advice that has previously been offered, I donít see things changing anytime soon.

If I was you, I would find myself a doctor, a counsellor, and a divorce lawyer.
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Old 19th March 2019, 8:02 AM   #111
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Sugarkane, you really need to let this go.
Agreed. She makes it sound like she thinks about it because her husband brings it up a lot, but the passion with which she speaks on this matter shows she would fixate on it even if he weren't talking about it.
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Old 19th March 2019, 4:39 PM   #112
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What kind of help are you wanting? You've been complaining about EVERYONE for a long time. When are YOU going to stand up and take responsibility for the choices you've made? When are YOU going to decide once and for all to divorce your husband, and work your butt off to regain custody of your child.

Constantly blaming EVERYONE else for the circumstances you are in just sounds exhausting. If it is exhausting to you, how are you going to fix it?
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