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Old 16th August 2017, 5:20 PM   #46
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I'm short and bald and in great shape. I'm dating and doing as good as I can remember.


Behaving confidently goes a long way but I am recently out of an on again relationship which destroyed my confidence , so although feeling better, I'm not my best confident self yet.

So what's working for me? I don't take rejection personally, I just move on.
I have limited expectations romantically. I'm looking to connect with good women who I like. I'm sincere, genuine, no pretext and most of all, I am focusing on myself, doing what makes me happy and if there is a connection great, if not, I continue my focus on my life.
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Old 16th August 2017, 5:43 PM   #47
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Your problem is that you're trying to please all of the people, all of the time. You can never do that.

Sure some women don't like bald guys. Some don't like short guys, some don't like tall guys, some don't like fat guys, some don't like thin guys. All you can do is accept that you can't please everyone, and concentrate on those who do like you as you are.
Yes, women have different tastes but they all have one thing in common, they like money.
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Old 16th August 2017, 6:14 PM   #48
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My husband is bald, overweight and short. I adore him. He's kind, confident and treats me like a queen. I was a model in my 20's, so not exactly hard on the eye...some of us like a great personality more than hair.
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Old 16th August 2017, 6:48 PM   #49
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I love bald men!

Bald with a goat-tee or bald with a beard = bad-@ss sexy!

Jason Statham !! Vin Diesel, Dwayne Johnson, LL Cool J, and the list goes on! The ladies love bald men! If they didn't you'd didn't have that many on the big screen.
Agreed ^^^^. Bald with confidence! So.....OP you are half way there.....just need the confidence.


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I'm 33, bald and I'm more successful with women now than I used to be. Your hair is not going to come back the more you worry about it. It's time to accept it and buck up, because women like a bald guy A LOT more than they like a depressive guy.

^^^^ Yep! 100 per cent!
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Old 16th August 2017, 7:46 PM   #50
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I'm short and bald and in great shape. I'm dating and doing as good as I can remember.


Behaving confidently goes a long way but I am recently out of an on again relationship which destroyed my confidence , so although feeling better, I'm not my best confident self yet.

So what's working for me? I don't take rejection personally, I just move on.
I have limited expectations romantically. I'm looking to connect with good women who I like. I'm sincere, genuine, no pretext and most of all, I am focusing on myself, doing what makes me happy and if there is a connection great, if not, I continue my focus on my life.
You are a great role model and inspiration for a lot of people on here.
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Old 17th August 2017, 11:43 AM   #51
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As many comments have said now, sure confidence matters but watch this please (from the UK) about how girls feel about bald guys -

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Notice how the best looking women all said NO...

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Old 18th August 2017, 3:22 PM   #52
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You should group that video in with any videos purporting a flat Earth theory.
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Old 19th August 2017, 12:40 AM   #53
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As many comments have said now, sure confidence matters but watch this please (from the UK) about how girls feel about bald guys -

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Notice how the best looking women all said NO...
It's hard to feel bad for you when you insist upon basing a woman's value on her appearance. By your math, you're about 34 - haven't you learned by now that (a) everyone - that includes you and your future partner(s) has at least one great feature, and (b) there's more to relationships than appearance?

Not saying you shouldn't be attracted to your partner, but it sounds more like you're looking for hot women to smash than anything else. There are plenty of very attractive women with men of all different appearances, but those dudes seem to treat their partners like people, and not just a pretty face. Perhaps you could work on this ability, and then your baldness wouldn't matter.

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Old 19th August 2017, 4:24 AM   #54
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As many comments have said now, sure confidence matters but watch this please (from the UK) about how girls feel about bald guys -

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Notice how the best looking women all said NO...
I watched it and there was a whole mix of answers and not all the "hot" women said no.
Most of the women said that confidence and personality trumped looks anyway.
YOU took the video and only saw what you wanted to see.

YOU say you are a good looking and you have a great head shape, but the only difference really between the bald you and the buzzcut you is that you know you are bald.
When looked at objectively that is ridiculous, but you are grieving the loss of your hair and that will just take time.

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Old 19th August 2017, 4:41 AM   #55
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Personally, I love the bald look - actually it's my preference.

Insecurity would be a turn off though. I've dated insecure men and it was never a fun time.

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Sure, my issue is more to do with confidence and overall perspective because if I did meet the right person then this anxiety would disappear.
I don't think it would disappear. Insecurity doesn't just disappear when you get into a relationship.

Not having a job though - maybe you should be focusing on getting your ducks in a row. getting a job and making taking up some new hobbies would certainly help in terms of your overall confidence.
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Old 19th August 2017, 5:28 AM   #56
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You should group that video in with any videos purporting a flat Earth theory.
So the women in that video weren't real were they giving real opinions?
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Old 19th August 2017, 5:35 AM   #57
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It's hard to feel bad for you when you insist upon basing a woman's value on her appearance. By your math, you're about 34 - haven't you learned by now that (a) everyone - that includes you and your future partner(s) has at least one great feature, and (b) there's more to relationships than appearance?

Not saying you shouldn't be attracted to your partner, but it sounds more like you're looking for hot women to smash than anything else. There are plenty of very attractive women with men of all different appearances, but those dudes seem to treat their partners like people, and not just a pretty face. Perhaps you could work on this ability, and then your baldness wouldn't matter.
Of course there is more to life than appearance but we are all judged initially to some extent by our appearance, women more than men sure but if there are plenty of women who do not like bald guys to begin with they're not going to fancy them period, no matter how decent, funny or confident they are. That's my point. It is a fact that women are 5 times more likely to contact men with hair than without hair []

So where you got this impression that I'm only looking for hot women to smash I have no idea. I'm just saying that I rarely see bald guys with very attractive women in the same way you hardly see women with men shorter than them.

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Old 19th August 2017, 5:44 AM   #58
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[QUOTE=elaine567;7394388]I watched it and there was a whole mix of answers and not all the "hot" women said no.
Most of the women said that confidence and personality trumped looks anyway.
YOU took the video and only saw what you wanted to see.


I said I USED to be good looking but now, I only look ok with a shaved, bald head.

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YOU say you are a good looking and you have a great head shape, but the only difference really between the bald you and the buzzcut you is that you know you are bald.
Read this back again. You do realise a buzzcut involves HAIR right? Being bald means NO HAIR? So I know I'm bald BECAUSE I AM BALD. I have zero hair. So there is a difference. One involves hair and the other doesn't

You are a woman so you would not understand what it's like to lose your hair.
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Old 19th August 2017, 5:46 AM   #59
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Personally, I love the bald look - actually it's my preference.

Insecurity would be a turn off though. I've dated insecure men and it was never a fun time.


I don't think it would disappear. Insecurity doesn't just disappear when you get into a relationship.

Not having a job though - maybe you should be focusing on getting your ducks in a row. getting a job and making taking up some new hobbies would certainly help in terms of your overall confidence.
I meant the insecurity involving my baldness would no longer be much of an issue if I meet a woman who I can settle down with. If she accepts me as I am then all good. I don't have to impress anyone else.
However, I do agree with your other comments.
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Old 19th August 2017, 6:03 AM   #60
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Read this back again. You do realise a buzzcut involves HAIR right? Being bald means NO HAIR? So I know I'm bald BECAUSE I AM BALD. I have zero hair. So there is a difference. One involves hair and the other doesn't
OK but if you were balding with a buzzcut, then was it not obvious you were balding anyway?
If you were losing hair from 26, then what really was the buzzcut hiding? I guess women have been noticing your "baldness" almost from day one.

Women who really like hair, like hair.
They are not often turned on by guys with buzzcuts or buzzcuts hiding baldness or receding hairlines or frank baldness.
No-one is fooled by a buzzcut.
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